When it comes to dating, one of the best, and in my opinion and most underrated, qualities a date can have is an ability to actually listen and comprehend the things you tell them.


Who really likes having to repeat simple things about themselves over and over again? The thing is, we're always being told just how important communication is in forming healthy relationships, but knowing how to effectively communicate your needs and what you have to offer just one part of the equation. Knowing how to listen and read cues is the other. And as a new study published in the journal Science of Nature found, being a good listener is actually a really attractive trait to have, especially for men looking to attract women.

Listening is the way you actually connect with people," Dr. Jennifer Rhodes, licensed psychologist and founder of the bi-costal consultancy, Rapport Relationships, tells Bustle. "When people talk to someone whom they feel takes the time to listen, they feel safe and understood."