My baby girl is more than three months old now. She's my first child. Pastors and elders of my Church, including members have come to see and pray for both parents and daughter. Many of my colleagues have come around too. But some of my colleagues in the office are on my neck about dedicating the child - a sort of ''welcome to the world'' ceremony for my baby.

Somehow, my wife wants us to cancel all our plans for the ceremony. No reason given other than it's not compulsory. My people must one do child dedication after having a child?

I believe you are referring to the after-dedication party.It is actually not compulsory. It depends on what you and your wife want and also if you have the money to spend.
What is important is the prayers. Don't let friends push you because they won't be responsible for feeding your baby if you lavish your money for party.
Congrats

abeg dedicate the child joo and invite nairalanders
congratulations!

osereka:

abeg dedicate the child joo and invite Nairaland users
congratulations!

ditto   

congratulobias please let us come and wet the baby's head now

congrats ohhh.
like someone said above she might just be worried about the expenses you need to spend after you have done the dedication in the church.
your family members and friends expect you to invite them to come and wash mouth with a bit of entertainment.

You'd better conserve the money you have and use it to take good care of your baby. Especially if your wife says so.

do you mean dedication in the church you attend or just getting friends together party?

someone i knew did a dedication 2 weeks ago. she and her husband brought the child to church both dressed in nigeria native wear with big gele there were dancing (am not a member just went there for the dedication) and lots of singing and praising. at the end, they brought out cooler filled with puff puff and another filled with bottled water. i got some puff puff but after eating 2, i had funny sensation in my belle so i had to stop. i asked her if she is doing another party in the house, she said no that it will be too costly for their pocket (the baby is the 3 child).

the church i attend had dedications of baby (oyinbos are what i have seen so far). that's where it ends. am not sure they do party.

for me sha, i might do ooo or might not. we will see when the time comes