Why do some women agree to marry a man as 2nd wife when he is not ready to go public with them?. Being a 2nd wife is enough humiliation already but hiding you under the bed is outrageous. What do you think: vote

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Written by Tunde Ogunesan
Friday, May 20, 2011


HAVE you ever wondered about what lures men to women? What makes a man think that a particular lady is the right choice for him in marriage? In the same vein, why do men, after a period of time with a lady, seek new relationships, engage in extramarital affairs, sex scandals, break marital vows and still not feel remorseful?

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Mudashiru Moruf



Mrs Titilayo Adewuyi, a teacher, never bargained for what she got after 25 years of marriage to her hubby judging by their first three years of memorable courtship. Her husband, James, was working with one of the old generation banks until a few years ago, when he was transferred to another state. Before then, Mr James Adewuyi was a supposed honest spouse, but on getting to his new environment, one thing led to another and he began to 'notice' other women.


His experience took a bad turn, however, when he impregnated one of his many secret lovers soon after and since she was not a live-in-lover, he put her up in a nearby town. In order not to arouse suspicion, Adewuyi always invited his wife to spend few days with him at his location and being a teacher, she always utilised the several holidays to her advantage. So, she never suspected her romantic husband, but as fate would have it, Mr Adewuyi was shot dead during an armed robbery attack at his branch, and thereafter, all hell was let loose.


As a devout Christian, Mrs Adewuyi never suspected that her husband could engage in sexual relations with another woman, not to talk of having children out of wedlock. In preparation for the burial, a senior family member had consoled her, and while doing so, informed her that one of her husband's unfulfilled mission was informing her that there was another unwedded wife! Mrs Adewuyi was engulfed by another round of grief upon hearing the news of her late husband's secret wife.


Such harrowing experiences are what many women pass through because of the failure of men to keep to their marital vows and citing various reasons for their mistakes. Although, most men do not have children outside wedlock, they steadily maintain mistresses outside marriage, all in the disguise that their wives had one shortcoming or the other.


James' character is one that is common among men who do all sorts of things to satisfy their sexual urge by going awry.


Due to western civilisation, most Christian marriages are generally recognised at the performance of a church wedding, where the bride and groom exchange wedding vows. Even though it has become culturally understood, the actual terminology that defines the word 'vow' reveals that the words expressed are likened to a covenant. It is a promise, a contract and a profession of commitment between the husband and wife.


It is understood that a wedding ceremony is the making of a marriage covenant. Instead, nowadays, it does not mean the covenant to the participants again, but a word that they need to recite on the occasion. After a marriage programme, the Nigerian Tribune gathered that men think less of the said marriage covenant, thus getting to the extent where they satisfy other women outside wedlock. This phenomenon is not, however, peculiar to any race, religion, culture or class. Although, the principle of Islam allows marriage of one man to many women, it never agrees to going out of this particular wedlock to engage in extramarital affairs.


The general question, therefore, is, 'what is it that men look out for in other women that their wives lack?

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As a devout Christian, Mrs Adewuyi never suspected that her husband could engage in sexual relations with another woman, not to talk of having children out of wedlock. In preparation for the burial, a senior family member had consoled her, and while doing so, informed her that one of her husband's unfulfilled mission was informing her that there was another unwedded wife! Mrs Adewuyi was engulfed by another round of grief upon hearing the news of her late husband's secret wife.

He wasn't man enough to tell about his secret wife.

A) what did wifey expected when she allowed her husband to go and live in another state ALONE?! she should have moved there with him to keep his asss in check. failure to do so led to his extra marital affairs etc

B) there is nothing wrong with being a mistress (aka baby momma) as long as that person knows what it entails. the mistress knew what she was getting herself into and, i guess, that man was very clear and rewarding to her. who are we kidding?! women in 9ja are desperate to get married, even to the point of stealing someone´s husband (if needs be)

C) its too easy to blame the cheating men ONLY. if desperate women were not quick to jump in bed with these men then there would be no problem to talk of. so MEN and WOMEN are both to blame.
half a man is better than no men at all, as they say!

Desperation and stup[idity.

sexyLeamon:

Desperation and stup[idity.

Can you be desperate without being stewpid?

money of course.

Some agree to marry poor men undercover. So, money is not always the issue.

^^Really?? I dont know of any o