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Change your mindset and start seeing her as a housemate not friend. You can gist and talk like normal but don’t let her cross that boundary you have created. People like that can do and undo. Don’t get too personal with her. She’s just your housemate. She’s not your friend. That way you’ll have rest of mind

This is funny...

Boys are always causing fights between girls....like it's the order of life.


Please dont fight,dont cut her off, she might mean no harm. I once had a flatmate a while ago. She is Igbo while I am Yoruba but we got along just great. She turned my room into the hotspot cause I hardly go to hers and I hated it, she would take my things and if I protest she would stand her ground like she wanted to fight...I disliked that too cause I love my things. She would be opening my fridge like we cooked the food together....I totally was opposed to this. She would make jest of my boo.bs cos they were small then....chai, how offensive.... She was too troublesome but I came to understand that all those wahalaish attitude were her love language. She had taken me as her sister and was just being free. So I accepted and adopted her as my sister too. I would hide the things I didnt want her taking, be vocal about unwanted behaviour despite her protest without letting it get out of hand....hian, I remember sending a long text about recognising boundaries because she took my plate to work and I wanted to use same ....Boys didn't cause any rifts cause she knew I was looking for butterflies at first sight....so she knew they were all safe with me. Several years on she is still a good friend despite having moved on.

Stop over thinking things and just enjoy the friendship. Also, communicate....voice your dislike without being confrontation....etc. You guys will be fine.