What stops a woman from claiming you violated her or beat her up anytime she wants to

Theblessed:

[b][size=16pt]But, who is this Desmond, everyone should listen to? 

??Intelligence, here! This man gets carried away by his emotion instead of common sense.  Is he in the marriage to know the all the details?

Well, I could see the reason for his imbalanced assessment of the incident - the Diplomat was hosting him/friends so, what do we expect? They say 'a dog does not bite the finger that fed him/her' abi? He hosted them, and in the process, Desmond obviously secured a few influencial new friends along the line, I suppose. 

You see, people look after their own as result, morals get thrown out of the window. Imagine him condemning the Lady Diplomat on the basis of their daughters witness, eh!

Naturally, the daughter would side with her father and the whole world knows, daughters and their fathers click. I love my father to 'D' no matter what he's done, defending him in public any time but, wait till we get home!

I believe most daughter on Naira land would vouch the same kind of love for their fathers - it does not mean we don't love our mothers we do but, father/daughter relationship is naturally, special.
The same applies to mothers and their sons, too which seems to push them to the edge, when anyone dare abuse their mothers. 

Also, in his assessment, Desmond forgot that the daughter looks after her own too -  there's an incentive there for her to support her dad instead of mum.  Daddy has all the family inheritance under his belt and can allocate them as he pleases, abi? She wants to get married one day, how about that big wedding? Who's gonna foot it?

So, do you want him to dis-inherit her for supporting her mother, in public in this issue?  Yes the kids might have insight into their parents marriage but, like most families, they all take sides. 

Imagine the Diplomat admitted they had a heated arguement.  In our society, everyone knows when a husband and wife had such an argument, it usually ends with a b l a s h h h h and a black eye for the weak one - obviously, the lady but people don't understand the degree of damage that blash can cause the lady and, the entire family.

Like I have always said, instead of sitting or hovering around, listening to every l e t t e r that comes out of a woman's mouth, pick up your car key and drive off or cycle out, walk away from satan trying to destroy your family, through your rage. 

Remember, when you go on to challenge your wife because, you did her a favour in marrying her, when every thing quietens down, your won't like the look of your own hand work, as this Diplomat is discovering now - an expensive way to find out!   [/size][/b]

saibuhari:

When I saw the picture in punch newspaper, I knew it was conjured. That woman is evil, she is wicked and does not deserve any man. I have two options for her:

1. Go for deliverance, repent and confess your evil plots against your amiable husband.
[s]2. Commit suicide and save mankind your troubles.[/s]
All those women groups and journalists that wont do investigation before shouting crucify him, crucify him, I hope you learn something from this. Its not all who shout and call for help (SOS) that are truly oppressed. I just hope nothing happens to the man's career.

emmadeiza:

Women!! I wish I'm already married. Now because of so many things I've seen and heard about women, I'm so scared of them. How am I going 2 manage a woman under my roof, or do u mean in my room? sori, I'm just thinking aloud!

Guyman02:

I can feel the mans pains, I had a similar experience, where I was attacked by my woman on different occassions, I faced serious abuse and was almost dying in silence because I didnt want the public to see me as bully or batterer. It got to a point where she slapped me viciously on the face during an argument and for the first time I struck back because of the extreme provocation and next she was calling everyone to report to them that I mercylessly beat her up.
Many friends and relations where calling me to express their disappointment that I could lay my hands on my woman, I saw my image being battered and what i did was to concentrate on my job, working late hours because I was adviced by my dad (who believed my side of the story)that if I should loose my job the situation would get worse for me.
I asked her to leave my house but she would not heed to that, I contemplated divorce but it was not easy because your family in Africa feels you are going to embarass them and the pastor kept reminding me of what the holy book says;
like what the ambassador said, there are many men in Nigeria who are living in bondage with their wives. Those who are lucky not to have experienced such will never understand, they will quickly jump up to say crucify the man, what sort of man should ever raise his hand against his wife, he is not man enough bla bla bla!

For all bachelors, before you decide to settle down, among the women around you, choose the one that seems to respect and fear you most, not the one that seems to love you most. There are many ladies who will hide their ugly sides and pretend to be good just to get you to marry them.
I hope that ambassador doesnt commit suicide, as the Igbo proverb says 'its better for you to kill a man than to humiliate him'

Outstrip:

That statement there just tells me that the woman must have been living in hell. I am not trying to to minimize your suffering but the woman must have gone through hell to have to deal with a husband that calls the house "his house". It just means tome that you enever even understood what you were doing when you decided to marry

Theblessed:

[b][size=16pt]But, who is this Desmond, everyone should listen to? 

??Intelligence, here! This man gets carried away by his emotion instead of common sense.  Is he in the marriage to know the all the details?

Well, I could see the reason for his imbalanced assessment of the incident - the Diplomat was hosting him/friends so, what do we expect? They say 'a dog does not bite the finger that fed him/her' abi? He hosted them, and in the process, Desmond obviously secured a few influencial new friends along the line, I suppose. 

You see, people look after their own as result, morals get thrown out of the window. Imagine him condemning the Lady Diplomat on the basis of their daughters witness, eh!

Naturally, the daughter would side with her father and the whole world knows, daughters and their fathers click. I love my father to 'D' no matter what he's done, defending him in public any time but, wait till we get home!

I believe most daughter on Naira land would vouch the same kind of love for their fathers - it does not mean we don't love our mothers we do but, father/daughter relationship is naturally, special.
The same applies to mothers and their sons, too which seems to push them to the edge, when anyone dare abuse their mothers. 

Also, in his assessment, Desmond forgot that the daughter looks after her own too -  there's an incentive there for her to support her dad instead of mum.  Daddy has all the family inheritance under his belt and can allocate them as he pleases, abi? She wants to get married one day, how about that big wedding? Who's gonna foot it?

So, do you want him to dis-inherit her for supporting her mother, in public in this issue?  Yes the kids might have insight into their parents marriage but, like most families, they all take sides. 

Imagine the Diplomat admitted they had a heated arguement.  In our society, everyone knows when a husband and wife had such an argument, it usually ends with a b l a s h h h h and a black eye for the weak one - obviously, the lady but people don't understand the degree of damage that blash can cause the lady and, the entire family.

Like I have always said, instead of sitting or hovering around, listening to every l e t t e r that comes out of a woman's mouth, pick up your car key and drive off or cycle out, walk away from satan trying to destroy your family, through your rage. 

Remember, when you go on to challenge your wife because, you did her a favour in marrying her, when every thing quietens down, your won't like the look of your own hand work, as this Diplomat is discovering now - an expensive way to find out!   [/size][/b]

Guyman02:

No, she was not leaving in hell, she was earning good salary and I was also giving her additional money to spend how she likes in order to please her, I was the one suffering abuses, i almost left the house for her, now I think I am so lucky because she has greatly changed and she said she was been influenced by a coleague in her office who kept reminding her about how to deal with a man who tries to subjugate a woman which i never did. Finally, her mum asked her to quit that job she loved and attend counselling, not all men are lucky to see their wives changing from bad to good.

bidemi12:

you wan blind us? haba!!!

[size=16pt]I noticed, you love reading a logical and clearly written essay - don't you? That's why you keep reading work from theblessed, no bi so!

Now let's get this straight, since you can't make sensible decision about your own health, I suggest from now on, you stop reading theblessed work, alright?

Sure, you'd be back again reading and complaining and that would make you, the last hypocrite on earth, shame on you! [/size]

Anaegboka:

Desmond Eliot is a man who dares to stand out for what he believes is the truth and not some faceless poster on the internet. Have you read the son's story as by your deduction sons will do anything to protect their mothers? What's your take on that?

[size=16pt]So, you couldn't see he too has got interest.  He is a chief stakeholder in the family fortune, can't you see that?

Money rule this world and where the honeycomb is, there the bees will be, also.   Yes, he loves his mother but money/status speaks and mother hasn't got a bob as much as father, has she??  Remember, judas iscariot sold for 30 pieces  and what will stop someone with the biggest stake in family fortune not selling his soul to keep it?

Perhaps, he is the first son and after daddy, all authorities fall on him and you expect him to side with mum now? No, maybe, after daddy has done!

Did Prince William side with his mother (Princess Diana) when it was obvious to the world that Charles was hurting her and breaking up the family? It's called MONEY, INHERITANCE at stake, don't you forget that!   [/size]