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How To Get A Girlfriend - The Basics Of Finding The Girl And Developing A Relati by muffleitjuhi(f): 9:58am On Oct 20, 2021
How to get a girlfriend? At this point in my life this question seems irrelevant.
Why?
Well, The way my life is set up right now allows me to naturally attract girls into it who want to date me, looks like an over-confident statement, but it is a reality that everyone can achieve.
Originally coming from a place where I would dream of girls even wanting to talk with me, it’s been quite a radical transformation.
The process of becoming a more attractive man works the same for everyone.

Depending on your current level of success; learning how to get a girlfriend might be a matter of just a little tweaking of your attitude or maybe a little more work, but in the end the same basic advice applies to everyone.
Now, let's get to it, learning how to get a girlfriend is a lot easier than it seems.

To get the girl you want you must first learn how to get them all:
Let's say you have that one special girl in mind that you want to get (we all do). The best way to get her is by learning how to be generally attractive to all girls.
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That simple concept is all you really need to understand to get the girl of your dreams.
If you know how to attract girls in general, you won’t be having problems with being hung up on just one girl.
However, to become attractive to all girls you need to learn the basics of becoming a man that women want to be around of.

Stop Being needy:
This is a basic principle, NO ONE likes "social leeches".
Being needy is the antithesis of being attractive, if you want to quickly kill attraction just start being needy.
People want to be around people who take the initiative and bring the fun, the one that sets the conversation and leads it, people don't want to be around people who just lurk around trying to jump into everyone's fun.

Basically; being needy is social repellent.
Have you been following your friends around at a party just because your felt awkward?
Excessive texting a girl without much responsiveness on her side?
Being too excited to see a girl?
Those are a few signs of needy behavior. Being attractive is about giving social value and being needy is about taking social value.
There are a couple things we can do when we're feeling needy:
Gain more self trust. Gaining more self trust allows you to be someone who offers value naturally and you'll never be facing any neediness problems. How to Build Self Confidence
Start taking the initiative. Gaining self trust is a long process, but definitely is your ultimate goal. However, if you start taking the initiative to bring the fun to the party, talking with people, being social or talking to a bunch of girls; you will learn to be someone that brings his own fun.

The Virtuous Circle of Glory:
Once you stop being needy and start bringing the fun, you will notice how people will want to be around you and this includes girls.
It's all a game of: needy, scarce, value taking vs abundance, confidence and value giving.
Girls are unconsciously attracted to guys that are desired by lots of women, this is the virtuous circle of glory.
Once you get a few girls interested you can get more and more and more girls interested, this alone will prevent you from being needy because you have an abundance of options.
It's perfect!
Definitely entering "the virtuous circle" should be something any guy that wants to get good with women should be aiming for, but don't panic if it doesn’t work that way, all you should be looking for is multiple options of women to pick from.
So how do I get a girlfriend?
You might be wondering this. Well, for example: To get good at basketball you practice. It is no different here: to learn how to get good at attracting girls you must practice

Attractive Qualities to get a girlfriend:
Social interactions are very different to a basketball game where it’s always the same, but we’re born as social beings, not basketball players so it should be easier, right?
The more you go out and interact with people and girls, the better you will get at it.
This takes us to the pinnacle of what women are attracted to: Social Status.
Yes, it’s not about money, not about looks, not about your fancy car or your preppy clothes, it’s about your “social value”. Girls will love you for your personality and not for any other superficial option.
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Re: How To Get A Girlfriend - The Basics Of Finding The Girl And Developing A Relati by mariovito(m): 10:09am On Oct 20, 2021
Quite on point. Especially that neediness thing, fastest way to lose them.

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