Legendguy:
I'm on the verge of disowning my father.
The story is long but I will cut it short.
It all began last year when I was in service, I called my father informing him of going for post graduate studies. He bought the idea and when I came back from service he gave me money to purchase the form and I did and proceeded with the application.
Due to covid 19 restrictions we wrote the entrance exam March this year. So I was offered part time post graduate admission
Bfor I was offered the admission I was working as a sch teacher and the pay was very low and during d holiday I had health issues and I was at home recuperating. During that period there was a misunderstanding between us and a family friend came to settle us, and right in front of the man, his wife and my mother, my father declared his decision to sponsor and fund my post graduate studies. He pledge to take money from his cooperative to fund it along with accommodation. I live a state away from the school. He is a pensioner receiving steady monthly pension of 200k monthly after serving in the military.
So the following month I proceeded with the screening and I started lectures immediately. He gave me 40k which I used for Dept registration, pg screening and collected my degree certificate.
The problem started early October when during the screening period I declined job offers that I applied for so as to focus on the early part of the admission.
The problem started early October when I went to discuss sch fees because exam was mid way approaching but to my dismay he tolde bluntly that he doesn't have hands in funding my Masters anymore, meaning he want to have a uturn. I was confused because he can't jus Allow me start something and abandon me Midway, leaving me hopeless, dejected and frustrated. I called our family friend to come and beg him and to also know how I offended him. He began to open up by saying he hasn't see any usefulness in my education. He narrated history of my education from secondary school, company training, few years of writing jamb, one yr polytechnic before I withdrew to university and how I studied a useless course coming out with lower grade. I asked if he didn't know all this before he agreed to sponsor but he couldn't answer so we begged him even kneeling down and he succumbed to the pressure and he promised to see what he would do.
The following day I met him to discuss about fees and accommodation, he didn't say much then on Sunday he left home and went out and came back sweating, he said he went to a church his friend invited him to meet a prophet and he came with a written prophecy report. The report highlighted every one of us in the family but I focus on my own which reported that my father should not spend money on me until he do some certain things. My intuition told me that the man forged it jus to evade his responsibility. I went to meet the man that he says took him to the church and the man denied that he never took him to any church.
At this period I was not my self because we kept on calling people to come beg him even calling his relatives but he kept on giving excuses and always on the defensive side. He called me failure, lazy levelled lots of allegation on me and manipulated his way when I reported him to people and make them to be against me
Reality later Dawn on me that this man want to ruin my education. The worst thing is that I have already started even as far as attending lectures, assigned to a project supervisor and even loosing a job offer, and he's about to ruin my plans of even working because the place I currently live with him is very remote and far from City center.
Currently I'm stranded going to two months now, he hasn't giving me any money, I borrowed money to be attending lectures and getting school expenses
This same man is sponsoring some children's education in the community, two children I'm an expensive primary school, that's just the annoying part of it all.
So now I'm about to disown him, I would make life miserable for him. He must surely pay for the frustration and depression he has put me through.
Since he depended so much on monthly pension I wish federal government should jus stop it for him
Pls I need your contribution before I forget what's on my mind
Mods help me push this to front page

Sorry Bros, if you can defer your education, go to your department they will advise you on how to go about it so that the pressure can cool down. Then you will have time to work and complete your education.
Honesty, you dad really tried for you, he is a good father.
I remembered when I was in school, very early around 5:30am I would be at Katangua market buying second hand clothes to sell in the class so that I would be able to pay for my school fees and textbooks.

houseontherock:

You shouldn't have turned down a job offer for a part-time postgraduate study because in most schools, timetable is flexible enough to accommodate working students. Also, don't blame your dad too much because the frustrations of training children in school in his old age is also getting to him. You never can tell also- his pension may not be as regular as you think...this is Nigeria! Besides, who will pay the cooperative loan for him? He's probably weighing his options or the loan may not be forthcoming! Sometimes we need to pity these elderly people who still have dependent relatives in their old age, especially with no free or subsidized medicals!

My take: Hard as it may sound, you need to get anything doing to sponsor yourself while you keep working on your dad, because dropping out is not a good option at this stage and disowning him is childish and selfish until you walk in his shoes.

He is no longer training any children in sch, he is jus recklessly spending his money on frivolities,
Even went as far as acting like a philanthropist in d community

greenie77:


What if the loan was no longer feasible? Redirect your energy from being angry with your father and focus on seeing yourself through school. Baba has tried, at his age he needs the pension money more than you do whether he promised you or not.

From your narration, you were the one who called your father during your service and informed him of wanting to go for post graduate studies and he bought the idea. It is not as if you were into a high paying job and he told you to resign and focus on postgraduate studies.

If it's no longer feasible he would have told me and I ll accept it.
He can access it but reason best Kno to him he don't want to

samtol4:
You need to wake up my brother. Thank God you have a father that pays for your undergraduate. My father could not pay for my undergraduate because he had a severe illness, but that did not stop me from finishing my bsc. I completed my BSC and Masters through the grace of God and hustling because my parents could not help me. I have worked as a bricklayer , waiter & sale boy at night at Ojuelegba .Today through his grace, I completed my Ph.D. Even if someone promised you money, it is not your money; it is a promise. Wake up from slumber; it appears you are angry and bitter against your father. The fact that You are thinking about disowning your father shows you don't understand life. People are struggling on their own to have OND.
You need to look inward and stop blaming your father for your limitation. A man limitation is the limitation of his thoughts
Go and hustle bros

Thanks for the advice.
I have overcome the setback already

Sterope:
Your dad doesn't owe you a master's degree. Immediately, he said he wasn't going to sponsor you, I take it you didn't have one on one conversation with him about it. He should have kept to his promise but there is no crime withdrawing his obligation which he did before you started your programme.

Also, it sounds like there are unresolved issues between you and your dad.

It's like you didn't read the story.
He said that he want me to do my masters.

oazeez1991:
Wahala be like disown..lol! Biko, u acting like an ingrate in my own view. A man sponsored ur education till u own a Bsc, even after wastin sm precious time and resources 4 ND programme which u had 2 abandone 2 port in2 Uni, this same man has been d one tkin care of it, and u felt he hasn't done enough in ur life. Lot are out there who has fathers who lack d ability or nonchalant attitude 2 sponsor their education, but here u are lamenting and threatening 2 disown ur father over ur baggages. From ur narration, u graduated with an unencouraging result, yet u expect him (ur father) 2 be motivated in sponsoring u further.
Uncle, defer ur admission nd go hustle, then use ur own resources (money) 2 sponsor urself since u wish 2 further ur edu, that's what niggas do. U are old enough not 2 be dependent on ur parent.
NYSC was been mandated after completion of Bsc/HND programme 4 a reason, and not after PGD or Msc. So any1 who had attain such level has done well 2 sm level of extent, others could be sync along ones career.
Stop feeling entitled at ur age nd start acting as a man u are. When u need something, u go 4 it, instead of depending on others 4 it. D man (ur father) should be preparing eating d fruit of his labour, nd not still nursing his labour. U are not even ashame, a retiree 4 that matter. U don't want him 2 be enjoying his pension in peace after years of service, u still want 2 compete d spending with him when u should be augmenting it 4 him.
As d Yoruba would say, apology 2 non-Yoruba, 'Ta bani eegun baaba eni majo, ta ba tun ni kojo mo, ko si baba nla Baba eni to ma muni si' (Direct translation: If one say, ones father masquerade is going to dance, and later one say, d masquerade would no longer dance, no one's forefather would dare 2 challenge one's over it) i.e. 2 say, if ur P-Man has a change of mind over sponsoring u, u or any1 has no right 2 challenge his decision. His money, his spending.#TruthIsBitter!

For ur info, I'm a joint sponsor with him during my Bsc. Aside the entry fees which was 55k as at then, the rest level, from 2 to 3 was 15,500 in a federal sch and I paid ity self, including a hostel accommodation which was 25k, if I couldn't pay, I will get someone that I will will squat under and he will pay part
It's only yr 4 when fees was increase to 20k that he paid.
So don't say what you don't Kno

BKsoul:
Lol..... You will make life miserable for him? Under his roof? Eating his food? Lol...
Sha don't make life miserable for yourself.....

I can't disown him and still be living under his roof nor eating his food, infact since our issues started I have been surviving without him
According the Sankara, former burkinafaso president says he who feeds you controls you.
For long this quote has been in my heart.

Cousin9999:
Sounds like your father is incredibly insecure and doesn't want you to achieve more than him, have more than him, and have less stress in life than him. Disowning him won't cure his mental problems (he needs to fix himself), and you need the help he is willing to give, so that you can establish yourself.

If you can't get any financing to study locally, explore your options abroad. And be careful with your dad because he really doesn't want you to succeed, and he's a really bitter, insecure person.

Exactly, you have a discerning spirit. He is an insecure person, currently confused at the moment. Some one close to me told me he is Bewitched, under a spell
That House hold enemies are using him against the family progress and such can be said in every member of my family, including my mother, he once turned her to a destitute if not for we the children that began to send her money

jimmychang:



Bro just close that chapter and move on with your life.I understand how you feel. I GAVE MY DAD MONEY TO BUY A PROPERTY TILL NOW NA STORY HE DEY TELL ME .It hurts .

YOU WILL SURVIVE WITHOUT HIM

amen, thanks.
i was surviving without him bfor if not for health condition that brought me home i would have moved on since

Cousin9999:
Also, your father just might be incredibly ignorant. And there's nothing you can do about that either. Don't try to reason with a fool. Devote your time and energy to pursuing your grad studies. The fact that you're dealing with this should be motivation to be better and do better than your father.

Being ignorant is not the problem but making a fool out of ignorant is the problem or ignoring information that will clear of the ignorance is the problem.
I have called educated people who have gone through graduate school to talk to him but he is still pretending to be ignorant. Even he says he will go to sch to found out but up till now he hasn't gone. I have gave up on d deadbeat

anoda:
I think it would be a lot better if he said no in the first place as he clearly said yes when he meant no. My dad felt the same with my bros masters program too

Exactly if he has said know I wouldn't argue with him I would jus moved on but the fact that he agreed and abandon me at this critical time is where the problem is

edoman2016:


I doubt a military retiree collect 200k monthly as pension. It is a lie. Military personnel are not that well paid

Yes it depends on the rank he retired with and the number of years he stayed in service, he stayed 35yrs and attained the second to last highest rank in other rank

Nozino:
The level of entitlement in this post!!! After this old man struggled to train you and your numerous siblings in school till y’all graduate, you still expect him to take loans and use his pension to fund your education because you’re too lazy to work and there’s a goat somewhere vomiting money.

In all of this, I blame your Dad. He shouldn’t have agreed to use his pension to sponsor a grown man-child’s postgraduate education.

I don't have entitlement mentality ok. I never forced him, he volunteered by himself

MyPoint:


1. You need to understand that you have one weakness. SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT. Your Father trained you through university (after wasting some fund on OND). That is a great feat. He owe you nothing.

2. What did you save from NYSC or from the teaching job you were doing to show that you desperately needed the masters? How do you fold your hands and claim you will disown your dad?

3. Disowning your Dad does not add or remove any value to him. Rather you will be the one loosing his blessings.

Change your attitude of sense of entitlement.

I don't have entitlement mentality o
He agreed, he volunteered to sponsor. I jus recommended masters and he bought the idea, that's all

Legendguy:

I don't have entitlement mentality ok. I never forced him, he volunteered by himself

And he has “unvolunteered”. Why is this an issue? You lazy, shameless over grown man child! Asking an old retiree to take out loans for a PART TIME POSTGRADUATE program while you lazy about feeling entitled.

Na your papa I blame.

Legendguy:

I can't disown him and still be living under his roof nor eating his food, infact since our issues started I have been surviving without him
According the Sankara, former burkinafaso president says he who feeds you controls you.
For long this quote has been in my heart.

My dear brother.... You wear the shoes and only knows where it hurts you but make sure you are serious and straight forward in all your endeavors with your father first before you demand for the disownment that you wish for, so it doesn't come to bite you in the ass later.... God be with you.

Legendguy:
I'm on the verge of disowning my father.
The story is long but I will cut it short.
It all began last year when I was in service, I called my father informing him of going for post graduate studies. He bought the idea and when I came back from service he gave me money to purchase the form and I did and proceeded with the application.
Due to covid 19 restrictions we wrote the entrance exam March this year. So I was offered part time post graduate admission
Bfor I was offered the admission I was working as a sch teacher and the pay was very low and during d holiday I had health issues and I was at home recuperating. During that period there was a misunderstanding between us and a family friend came to settle us, and right in front of the man, his wife and my mother, my father declared his decision to sponsor and fund my post graduate studies. He pledge to take money from his cooperative to fund it along with accommodation. I live a state away from the school. He is a pensioner receiving steady monthly pension of 200k monthly after serving in the military.
So the following month I proceeded with the screening and I started lectures immediately. He gave me 40k which I used for Dept registration, pg screening and collected my degree certificate.
The problem started early October when during the screening period I declined job offers that I applied for so as to focus on the early part of the admission.
The problem started early October when I went to discuss sch fees because exam was mid way approaching but to my dismay he tolde bluntly that he doesn't have hands in funding my Masters anymore, meaning he want to have a uturn. I was confused because he can't jus Allow me start something and abandon me Midway, leaving me hopeless, dejected and frustrated. I called our family friend to come and beg him and to also know how I offended him. He began to open up by saying he hasn't see any usefulness in my education. He narrated history of my education from secondary school, company training, few years of writing jamb, one yr polytechnic before I withdrew to university and how I studied a useless course coming out with lower grade. I asked if he didn't know all this before he agreed to sponsor but he couldn't answer so we begged him even kneeling down and he succumbed to the pressure and he promised to see what he would do.
The following day I met him to discuss about fees and accommodation, he didn't say much then on Sunday he left home and went out and came back sweating, he said he went to a church his friend invited him to meet a prophet and he came with a written prophecy report. The report highlighted every one of us in the family but I focus on my own which reported that my father should not spend money on me until he do some certain things. My intuition told me that the man forged it jus to evade his responsibility. I went to meet the man that he says took him to the church and the man denied that he never took him to any church.
At this period I was not my self because we kept on calling people to come beg him even calling his relatives but he kept on giving excuses and always on the defensive side. He called me failure, lazy levelled lots of allegation on me and manipulated his way when I reported him to people and make them to be against me
Reality later Dawn on me that this man want to ruin my education. The worst thing is that I have already started even as far as attending lectures, assigned to a project supervisor and even loosing a job offer, and he's about to ruin my plans of even working because the place I currently live with him is very remote and far from City center.
Currently I'm stranded going to two months now, he hasn't giving me any money, I borrowed money to be attending lectures and getting school expenses
This same man is sponsoring some children's education in the community, two children I'm an expensive primary school, that's just the annoying part of it all.
So now I'm about to disown him, I would make life miserable for him. He must surely pay for the frustration and depression he has put me through.
Since he depended so much on monthly pension I wish federal government should jus stop it for him
Pls I need your contribution before I forget what's on my mind
Mods help me push this to front page

My father is a retired military man too, he has never even for once got involved in our education, since we were born. Now all of us are done with education, i am the last and I graduated 3 years ago. Go home and hug your father, tel him you love him that he has done so much for you. Leave that your studies and focus on the hussle first, try get a job

namiji2598:

My father is a retired military man too, he has never even for once got involved in our education, since we were born. Now all of us are done with education, i am the last and I graduated 3 years ago. Go home and hug your father, tel him you love him that he has done so much for you. Leave that your studies and focus on the hussle first, try get a job

So because you didn't have a father in your own situation means every other kind of father out there is doing a good job?

Please, learn to try to put yourself in the shoes of another, this instead of using your own situation to judge others. Work towards being a more sensible and sensitive being!

The OP expressed something there about his relationship with his father but many of you here feel it is OK to gloss over that simply because in your heads your own father sits as gods to you.

Look at this entitled motherfuc*er.. Your dad sponsored you upto university level and you're still complaining. Go out there and see people who did it all by themselves toiling and suffering all day. You're a man, go get your own life, your old man has tried enough. Get a grip of yourself and Man up... Your father isn't going to be around forever. What if you have no dad at all.. What would you have done.

I hate people like this. Go get your life together and leave that old man alone. So far as I'm concerned, you're ungrateful for the little he has done for you. He has helped you this far despite having two wives as you stated. Meaning he has more kids.

You're getting older bro.. Ur dad won't be helping you forever

Legendguy:
I'm on the verge of disowning my father.
The story is long but I will cut it short.
It all began last year when I was in service, I called my father informing him of going for post graduate studies. He bought the idea and when I came back from service he gave me money to purchase the form and I did and proceeded with the application.
Due to covid 19 restrictions we wrote the entrance exam March this year. So I was offered part time post graduate admission
Bfor I was offered the admission I was working as a sch teacher and the pay was very low and during d holiday I had health issues and I was at home recuperating. During that period there was a misunderstanding between us and a family friend came to settle us, and right in front of the man, his wife and my mother, my father declared his decision to sponsor and fund my post graduate studies. He pledge to take money from his cooperative to fund it along with accommodation. I live a state away from the school. He is a pensioner receiving steady monthly pension of 200k monthly after serving in the military.
So the following month I proceeded with the screening and I started lectures immediately. He gave me 40k which I used for Dept registration, pg screening and collected my degree certificate.
The problem started early October when during the screening period I declined job offers that I applied for so as to focus on the early part of the admission.
The problem started early October when I went to discuss sch fees because exam was mid way approaching but to my dismay he tolde bluntly that he doesn't have hands in funding my Masters anymore, meaning he want to have a uturn. I was confused because he can't jus Allow me start something and abandon me Midway, leaving me hopeless, dejected and frustrated. I called our family friend to come and beg him and to also know how I offended him. He began to open up by saying he hasn't see any usefulness in my education. He narrated history of my education from secondary school, company training, few years of writing jamb, one yr polytechnic before I withdrew to university and how I studied a useless course coming out with lower grade. I asked if he didn't know all this before he agreed to sponsor but he couldn't answer so we begged him even kneeling down and he succumbed to the pressure and he promised to see what he would do.
The following day I met him to discuss about fees and accommodation, he didn't say much then on Sunday he left home and went out and came back sweating, he said he went to a church his friend invited him to meet a prophet and he came with a written prophecy report. The report highlighted every one of us in the family but I focus on my own which reported that my father should not spend money on me until he do some certain things. My intuition told me that the man forged it jus to evade his responsibility. I went to meet the man that he says took him to the church and the man denied that he never took him to any church.
At this period I was not my self because we kept on calling people to come beg him even calling his relatives but he kept on giving excuses and always on the defensive side. He called me failure, lazy levelled lots of allegation on me and manipulated his way when I reported him to people and make them to be against me
Reality later Dawn on me that this man want to ruin my education. The worst thing is that I have already started even as far as attending lectures, assigned to a project supervisor and even loosing a job offer, and he's about to ruin my plans of even working because the place I currently live with him is very remote and far from City center.
Currently I'm stranded going to two months now, he hasn't giving me any money, I borrowed money to be attending lectures and getting school expenses
This same man is sponsoring some children's education in the community, two children I'm an expensive primary school, that's just the annoying part of it all.
So now I'm about to disown him, I would make life miserable for him. He must surely pay for the frustration and depression he has put me through.
Since he depended so much on monthly pension I wish federal government should jus stop it for him
Pls I need your contribution before I forget what's on my mind
Mods help me push this to front page

Sorry for the stress he led you to, he promised and later turned his back after you have already put yourself in to what he initiated

Go close to your mum, probably he can help you
Go close to people you reported him to to ask for money, by so doing they will know that you are not getting anything from him and, they may help you too

Just ignore him and his wickedness, a day will come in your life he will not even have access to you

Stop begging him as he derives joy from your begging yet he doesn't help

What's your mum stand in this matter ?

Nozino:


And he has “unvolunteered”. Why is this an issue? You lazy, shameless over grown man child! Asking an old retiree to take out loans for a PART TIME POSTGRADUATE program while you lazy about feeling entitled.

Na your papa I blame.

U are a mugu, people like you will end up as as a deadbeat as a father.
U lack comprehension to come into logical conclusion, I pity your children if you have any

Legendguy:

U are a mugu, people like you will end up as as a deadbeat as a father.
U lack comprehension to come into logical conclusion, I pity your children if you have any

All this because I’m telling you the truth? Nairalanders won’t change me! I will keep saying the truth. I know married bankers with kids running part time post graduate programs while keeping a full time job but here you are, doing nothing, feeling entitled and being lazy while expecting an Old retiree to use his pension plus take loans to fund your PART TIME POST GRADUATE education. Sad! Really sad!

coolcharm:
Hey... Stop feeling entitled. Your dad owes you nothing bro.

Just take that as a challenge, defer your admission for a session, pick up a job, save, go back to school when you are ready.

Be a man. (It's not a day's job)

Good luck in your endeavors

I love ur point...bunch of entitled kids we av these days.. when I graduated 15years ago...I dare don't even talk about masters to my dad..nwho born u...? Still I turned out well n still took care of the man until his death last year...

Nozino:



All this because I’m telling you the truth? Nairalanders won’t change me! I will keep saying the truth. I know married bankers with kids running part time post graduate programs while keeping a full time job but here you are, doing nothing, feeling entitled and being lazy while expecting an Old retiree to use his pension plus take loans to fund your PART TIME POST GRADUATE education. Sad! Really sad!

Who told u I wasn't up to something, if you really read the story you would have read where I got a job offer but declined it jus to focus on my screening and early lectures because the job would be stressful and I don't want to be taking excuse early in the work.
I wasn't even expecting him to fund every thing, I never wanted him to spend all his money on it, I want him to be joint sponsor jus as I did during my undergraduate.
All was I wanted was to part some amount and I will handle the rest my self when I start working
I believe you jumped some of the write up because people like you would jus jump to conclusions without reading and comprehendin and you are not different from the old man.
I love taking positive criticism and if anyone comes with negative criticism to attack the person won't find it easy with me
On this case you haven't say any thing truth hear, you are just annoyingly bitter

Legendguy:

Who told u I wasn't up to something, if you really read the story you would have read where I got a job offer but declined it jus to focus on my screening and early lectures because the job would be stressful and I don't want to be taking excuse early in the work.
I wasn't even expecting him to fund every thing, I never wanted him to spend all his money on it, I want him to be joint sponsor jus as I did during my undergraduate.
All was I wanted was to part some amount and I will handle the rest my self when I start working
I believe you jumped some of the write up because people like you would jus jump to conclusions without reading and comprehendin and you are not different from the old man.
I love taking positive criticism and if anyone comes with negative criticism to attack the person won't find it easy with me
On this case you haven't say any thing truth hear, you are just annoyingly bitter

If Married couples with kids and a 9-5 job can do it, why can’t you? A single Jobless “responsibilityless” guy?

Legendguy:

Who told u I wasn't up to something, if you really read the story you would have read where I got a job offer but declined it jus to focus on my screening and early lectures because the job would be stressful and I don't want to be taking excuse early in the work.
I wasn't even expecting him to fund every thing, I never wanted him to spend all his money on it, I want him to be joint sponsor jus as I did during my undergraduate.
All was I wanted was to part some amount and I will handle the rest my self when I start working
I believe you jumped some of the write up because people like you would jus jump to conclusions without reading and comprehendin and you are not different from the old man.
I love taking positive criticism and if anyone comes with negative criticism to attack the person won't find it easy with me
On this case you haven't say any thing truth hear, you are just annoyingly bitter

He has decided not to be a joint sponsor. Why are you bent on forcing him to spend his pension on your part time education while you do nothing?

jimmychang:



Bro just close that chapter and move on with your life.I understand how you feel. I GAVE MY DAD MONEY TO BUY A PROPERTY TILL NOW NA STORY HE DEY TELL ME .It hurts .

YOU WILL SURVIVE WITHOUT HIM

Sincerely I like the way you accepted your dad's 'unkind' act in good faith. Most times, one needs to understand that family matters cannot be solved with fire and brimstone. Op should move on.

mastermaestro:


Sincerely I like the way you accepted your dad's 'unkind' act in good faith. Most times, one needs to understand that family matters cannot be solved with fire and brimstone. Op should move on.

There is nothing you can do .Just be wiser next time and learn to be better to your own kids.

BKsoul:
My dear brother.... You wear the shoes and only knows where it hurts you but make sure you are serious and straight forward in all your endeavors with your father first before you demand for the disownment that you wish for, so it doesn't come to bite you in the ass later.... God be with you.

^^^story
so wot u wereing right now?

We need to hear your dad version of the he story before we can decide.

While we are waiting
you can defer you admission
And start hustling that is the sure bet.
Why did you want your dad to develop high but pressure by taking loan from cooperative to sponsor your Matter Degree.
Eshainuwa joor.

Legendguy:

I don't have entitlement mentality o
He agreed, he volunteered to sponsor. I jus recommended masters and he bought the idea, that's all

The method and strategy you are adopting here is called manipulation.

Him saying yes is based on the facts you presented to him.

Him refusing afterwards is also based on more fact available to him.

Things you need to revisit
1. Make effort to save up to 70% and go back to him and see if he will not support you.

2. Why do you want to rent a house for yourself when you can stay in your dad's house and save that expenses?

3. Avoid any expensive life style. Don't drink or spend on frevorities. If he sees it, he will not finance you.

4. Avoid all visible elements of distraction (especially women). If he sees it, he will not finance you.

BKsoul:
My dear brother.... You wear the shoes and only knows where it hurts you but make sure you are serious and straight forward in all your endeavors with your father first before you demand for the disownment that you wish for, so it doesn't come to bite you in the ass later.... God be with you.

U cuss out every body on nairaland & now u begin for moiney to by shoe...abi?....shame on u BKsoul for embarrassin yor fellow ghana womens!!(no oofensece)