bigjackass:
Tell the girl how you feel about what she did, and that she should tell her mother that you said she shouldn't bother about repaying the loan again. If she doesn't listen and refuses to do this simple thing, then you have no business marrying such a girl in the first place.

InTheCloudySky:
Since you know the mom's phone number and have spoken with her on the phone, call her and tell her you didn't borrow her the money, that you don't know why her daughter told her that because you never said that. In other words, call her to clear your name. Technically, you don't owe the mom any explanation because the daughter is the one who ought to tell her mother the truth but since she has refused to do so and since you're planning to marry into the family and don't want her to get the wrong impression of you, it's a good idea to do just that.



She will create problems for you if she keeps behaving like this

CandyOps:
Bro women are always playing one mind game or another. Just comot yourself from the middle of that matter. If your gf needs extra money she should let u know instead of using your name to lie to her mum.

make she comot your name from anything repayment when talking with her mom. It's an order. Them just like to involve person name for everything instead of just asking u str8 on.

It's insulting

greenie77:
"You might be wondering why I'm giving her money lavishly, yes we will be getting married next year, the month hasn't be chosen from both family yet, but they see us as couples already, her mum allows her visit me for days and also visit my mum frequently.........The truth is her mum has never seen me, the twice that have visited their house she wasn't home, but we talk on phone a lot"..........You have been dating a lady for 4 years, she do sleep over at your place, she vists your mum, marriage is in the air BUT YOU HAVE NEVER SEEN HER MOTHER who lives in the same Lagos with you?

Yillyhood:


Yes, I'm not actually a free type, I'm a full stack web developer, freelancer platforms such as Fiverr, Upwork and Freelancer is my home, I always have work to do. Where I came from, as per traditions, the husband is meant to come with his family first, that will be done this December and that is when we talk about ourselves and also talk about the introduction and the rest. I mean no harm bro

Richy4:
I'm curious... What did she say was the motive behind her actions towards the money/ borrow episode.. did you know?

Yillyhood:

At the moment, she refused to give answer to it

Yillyhood:
Hi guys, something is really bothering me and I feel like I should share it. I will try as much as possible to make it brief, please don't mind my grammars.

Me and my girlfriend have known each other for quite some time now, like 4years now we have been dating. We love each other no doubt.

After she graduated, she went to learn a trade hair stylist precisely, since work seems impossible and her dream is to own a salon. Well, I work from home, and I earn cool money too, so it's easier for her not to face the hard economy since I pay her money for upkeep monthly.

We don't live close, I live in Lekki and she lives on the mainland with her mum, and each time she has a problem either personally or for her family sake, she runs to me. Well that's not my problem, since I know they really have no one to help them, so I try as much as possible to satisfy her. I must say, she is loyal, decent and respectful but one thing I don't like about her is keeping things to herself, even if she will tell me it's small.

Yesterday, she chatted me and explained that her elder brother in the hospital needs to pay 45k before he can be discharged, I'm aware he his very sick (Typhoid) and hospitalized. She told me their mum already gathered 20k and doesn't know where to get the rest and asked if I can help her with anything, I asked her if 25k is the problem and if I give her she will be fine and she said yes. Well, I transferred her the 25k immediately for the discharge, in about 30mins she called and requested for my account number that she want to refund me 5k, that her mum only collected 20k, so I told her not to worry, she should add it to the money I already sent her previously for her upkeep for the month.

Note: You might be wondering why I'm giving her money lavishly, yes we will be getting married next year, the month hasn't be chosen from both family yet, but they see us as couples already, her mum allows her visit me for days and also visit my mum frequently.

Back to the main reason I opened this topic, sincerely I don't like stress, I love being indoor and spending my money quietly, whenever I want to go out and I don't like traveling to long distance, before man and God have only visited her in her place twice since 2017, I was there in 2018 and again this month 2021. She understands, so she come over to my place each time she wants us to see, she visits twice every month and spends atleast 3days.

I don't want her mum to feel bad or to think her daughter is forcing herself to a man, so I decided to help her whenever she needs help.

The main reason I opened this topic is because the 25k I gave her, I told her to give to her mum, I didn't say she should tell her I borrowed her, but she went ahead and told her I borrowed her mum the money and she has to return it before 5th of next month.

When she told me yesterday I thought she was joking but I discovered she wasn't joking when she told me not to try to tell her mum I didn't borrow her.

Her mum have been calling me since last night and I couldn't pick but I can't pick because I feel guilty. I picked this afternoon, and after thanking me, she promised to pay me back on the 5th of next month. How do I tell this woman I didn't borrow her, she is a struggling woman with 4 kids trying to keep up with their daily needs, and her business is nothing to write home about.

I'm so pissed of with my girlfriend right now, and I just sent her some annoying, insulting text right now, because I was angry.

The truth is her mum has never seen me, the twice that have visited their house she wasn't home, but we talk on phone a lot. I don't want her to feel like her daughter has been seeing me without being married to me yet I have the guts to say I'm borrowing her money. I also asked my girlfriend and she said she has reasons of doing that, but she refused to tell me. It's really upsetting me.

Please what should I do? Or should I just ignore them both?

@Mynd44
@lalasticalala

bigjackass:
Tell the girl how you feel about what she did, and that she should tell her mother that you said she shouldn't bother about repaying the loan again. If she doesn't listen and refuses to do this simple thing, then you have no business marrying such a girl in the first place.

Yillyhood:
Hi guys, something is really bothering me and I feel like I should share it. I will try as much as possible to make it brief, please don't mind my grammars.

Me and my girlfriend have known each other for quite some time now, like 4years now we have been dating. We love each other no doubt.

After she graduated, she went to learn a trade hair stylist precisely, since work seems impossible and her dream is to own a salon. Well, I work from home, and I earn cool money too, so it's easier for her not to face the hard economy since I pay her money for upkeep monthly.

We don't live close, I live in Lekki and she lives on the mainland with her mum, and each time she has a problem either personally or for her family sake, she runs to me. Well that's not my problem, since I know they really have no one to help them, so I try as much as possible to satisfy her. I must say, she is loyal, decent and respectful but one thing I don't like about her is keeping things to herself, even if she will tell me it's small.

Yesterday, she chatted me and explained that her elder brother in the hospital needs to pay 45k before he can be discharged, I'm aware he his very sick (Typhoid) and hospitalized. She told me their mum already gathered 20k and doesn't know where to get the rest and asked if I can help her with anything, I asked her if 25k is the problem and if I give her she will be fine and she said yes. Well, I transferred her the 25k immediately for the discharge, in about 30mins she called and requested for my account number that she want to refund me 5k, that her mum only collected 20k, so I told her not to worry, she should add it to the money I already sent her previously for her upkeep for the month.

Note: You might be wondering why I'm giving her money lavishly, yes we will be getting married next year, the month hasn't be chosen from both family yet, but they see us as couples already, her mum allows her visit me for days and also visit my mum frequently.

Back to the main reason I opened this topic, sincerely I don't like stress, I love being indoor and spending my money quietly, whenever I want to go out and I don't like traveling to long distance, before man and God have only visited her in her place twice since 2017, I was there in 2018 and again this month 2021. She understands, so she come over to my place each time she wants us to see, she visits twice every month and spends atleast 3days.

I don't want her mum to feel bad or to think her daughter is forcing herself to a man, so I decided to help her whenever she needs help.

The main reason I opened this topic is because the 25k I gave her, I told her to give to her mum, I didn't say she should tell her I borrowed her, but she went ahead and told her I borrowed her mum the money and she has to return it before 5th of next month.

When she told me yesterday I thought she was joking but I discovered she wasn't joking when she told me not to try to tell her mum I didn't borrow her.

Her mum have been calling me since last night and I couldn't pick but I can't pick because I feel guilty. I picked this afternoon, and after thanking me, she promised to pay me back on the 5th of next month. How do I tell this woman I didn't borrow her, she is a struggling woman with 4 kids trying to keep up with their daily needs, and her business is nothing to write home about.

I'm so pissed of with my girlfriend right now, and I just sent her some annoying, insulting text right now, because I was angry.

The truth is her mum has never seen me, the twice that have visited their house she wasn't home, but we talk on phone a lot. I don't want her to feel like her daughter has been seeing me without being married to me yet I have the guts to say I'm borrowing her money. I also asked my girlfriend and she said she has reasons of doing that, but she refused to tell me. It's really upsetting me.

Please what should I do? Or should I just ignore them both?

@Mynd44
@lalasticalala

Yillyhood:
Hi guys, something is really bothering me and I feel like I should share it. I will try as much as possible to make it brief, please don't mind my grammars.

Me and my girlfriend have known each other for quite some time now, like 4years now we have been dating. We love each other no doubt.

After she graduated, she went to learn a trade hair stylist precisely, since work seems impossible and her dream is to own a salon. Well, I work from home, and I earn cool money too, so it's easier for her not to face the hard economy since I pay her money for upkeep monthly.

We don't live close, I live in Lekki and she lives on the mainland with her mum, and each time she has a problem either personally or for her family sake, she runs to me. Well that's not my problem, since I know they really have no one to help them, so I try as much as possible to satisfy her. I must say, she is loyal, decent and respectful but one thing I don't like about her is keeping things to herself, even if she will tell me it's small.

Yesterday, she chatted me and explained that her elder brother in the hospital needs to pay 45k before he can be discharged, I'm aware he his very sick (Typhoid) and hospitalized. She told me their mum already gathered 20k and doesn't know where to get the rest and asked if I can help her with anything, I asked her if 25k is the problem and if I give her she will be fine and she said yes. Well, I transferred her the 25k immediately for the discharge, in about 30mins she called and requested for my account number that she want to refund me 5k, that her mum only collected 20k, so I told her not to worry, she should add it to the money I already sent her previously for her upkeep for the month.

Note: You might be wondering why I'm giving her money lavishly, yes we will be getting married next year, the month hasn't be chosen from both family yet, but they see us as couples already, her mum allows her visit me for days and also visit my mum frequently.

Back to the main reason I opened this topic, sincerely I don't like stress, I love being indoor and spending my money quietly, whenever I want to go out and I don't like traveling to long distance, before man and God have only visited her in her place twice since 2017, I was there in 2018 and again this month 2021. She understands, so she come over to my place each time she wants us to see, she visits twice every month and spends atleast 3days.

I don't want her mum to feel bad or to think her daughter is forcing herself to a man, so I decided to help her whenever she needs help.

The main reason I opened this topic is because the 25k I gave her, I told her to give to her mum, I didn't say she should tell her I borrowed her, but she went ahead and told her I borrowed her mum the money and she has to return it before 5th of next month.

When she told me yesterday I thought she was joking but I discovered she wasn't joking when she told me not to try to tell her mum I didn't borrow her.

Her mum have been calling me since last night and I couldn't pick but I can't pick because I feel guilty. I picked this afternoon, and after thanking me, she promised to pay me back on the 5th of next month. How do I tell this woman I didn't borrow her, she is a struggling woman with 4 kids trying to keep up with their daily needs, and her business is nothing to write home about.

I'm so pissed of with my girlfriend right now, and I just sent her some annoying, insulting text right now, because I was angry.

The truth is her mum has never seen me, the twice that have visited their house she wasn't home, but we talk on phone a lot. I don't want her to feel like her daughter has been seeing me without being married to me yet I have the guts to say I'm borrowing her money. I also asked my girlfriend and she said she has reasons of doing that, but she refused to tell me. It's really upsetting me.

Please what should I do? Or should I just ignore them both?

@Mynd44
@lalasticalala

Sonnobax15:

Na bad daughter she be .

Op, you better trend carefully, because las las I believe say the mum go must use am tay tell you word....Say the first time wey you help her,say na borrow you borrow her the money...Even her brother won't be exempted too . Na better future wahala that your woman wor cause for you so........

Damnnnn,why your Banny go Behave like that . Na she get the money.....if she can treat her own mom like that,you shouldn't be surprised to see her doing worst to your own mom

Bitter truth bro

cayorday89:

The girl did no wrong, she only lacked the act of communication on what her mother believes and how it can be explained to the guy.