Please my friend needs a matured advise on what to do as she always feels she's missing out on the harsh realities of life.Well,she's from a privileged background and as such she has little or no experience about the harsh realities of life,right from childhood everything has been so easy as her parents will always make sure she's comfortable wherever she is.Now she's almost through with schooling and she reads on social media where young ladies and men are out there striving and surviving for themselves and display their self made success on social media, this always makes her feel down and not in tune with the happenings of life.So she recently discussed with her dad and her dad already got her a very big space in a highbrow area where she'll be dealing on drugs (pharmaceuticals) and already arranged how they will be supplying her so she can make her own money and feel among those independent young ladies but that's not what she truly wants, she wants to struggle and raise money for herself to start on her own. Recently she's thinking of not going back home after rounding up her schooling, she wants to go out there and hunt for jobs by herself, even if it is a menial job so she can raise money and start something but some of her friends thinks she's going crazy and weird,she's already looking for an apartment to rent but not sure if her dad will allow her to live alone,she's confused. Please advise her without been insultive.I'll be showing her your responses,thanks.

Don't worry don't kill your self she'll learn the hard way, no be this Nigeria we they by the time she go look for work, them offer her 20-25k as salary, e no reach to buy cosmetics sef her brain go reset

Some have food but cannot eat, some can eat but have no food..

Gaining some independence is good for her.
Is she planning to go for youth service?If she is, her period of NYSC will help her gain the independence she wants.She can plan on her next move from there.

She will still need some support from her parents.She shouldn't entirely cut herself off.Sufferhead no be child's play.

thorpido:
Gaining some independence is good for her.
Is she planning to go for youth service?If she is her period if NYSC will help her gain the independence she wants.She can plan on her next move from there.

Yes she will go for youth service which will definitely be influenced so she can be in same location with her family but she's just tired of such lifestyle

Iyaebe:
Yes she will go on youth service which will definitely be influenced so she can be in same location with her family but she's just tired of such lifestyle

I understand how she feels.I have such a friend who married and relocated abroad so she can gain some independence from her privileged family.

Dis life no balance.

Op, your friend or your daughter, abi u just wan whine us

Thought you said,u are a grandma

Foodqueen:
Op, your friend or your daughter, abi u just wan whine us

Thought you said,u are a grandma

My friend

donbachi:
Dis life no balance.

Help her balance it with your advise

She has mental issues if not she should be grateful for coming from such background

Tell her to help others by running the pharmacy herself and employing staff

When she start seeing her employee behavior, she go learn about the otherside

Restroom:
She has mental issues if not she should be grateful for coming from such background

Tell her to help others by running the pharmacy herself and employing staff

When she start seeing her employee behavior, she go learn about the otherside

It's not mental issues,you won't understand where she's coming from,thorpido understands better

Make I laugh

Is she the first to come rich family?

No

Is it her fault that she was born into such family?

See, if she is thinking ,life is too easy for me, and is making constant effort not to accept her situation, and use it to make other people lives easier, then, it is mental.

People set up foundations to use their previledge positions to help other people and change their lives. Go and find out the reasons behind some NGOs and you will understand that your friend is not the first to come from such background.

What a wise person does is to take advantage of her family wealth, set up NGO or charity and dedicate their lives to it.

Your friend has not fully understood herself.If she has, she not be thinking more of using her life to make other people lives easier.

She don't need to tell her father or discuss anything with her family. If she has a passion for something, let her start it, without them knowing...her ability to use her 1 cent to make two cents or help other people lives, will make her understand life.

But if she is discussing things with her father and hope the man, won't support her, it can't happen.

My point still stand, let her use her present situation to make other people lives better and stop fussing about life being so easy.

Else,it means, she has mental issues

I perfectly understand your friend. She should come to Ghana. The best time would have been to come do her university here. she'd learn TONS of stuff, she'd grow, she'd cook on her own, figure out life for herself, meet lots of foreigners, learn to be an adult, do youtube/side hustle all in a SAFE country. Lots of rich Nigerian/foreign students are here and they're thankful for the experience.

Let her be careful as she goes about looking for job, remember the story of that lady that went for an interview but was raped and killed.
I hope she's wise.

Add paragraphs abeg. This thing dey affect my erection

I understand her. When a child is over pampered it makes her loose her self-esteem if she is ambitious. Everything she achieves people will attribute it to her privileged background.

Let her discuss with her dad to help her get a job. Immediately she gets a job let her leave the family house and rent apartment and start living independently. Let her explain to the father that she wants to make a name for herself outside the father's achievement.

Alternatively if she has the gift and ability she can go into academics. That is go for postgraduate studies with a view to becoming a lecturer.

Thirdly depending on what she studied she can go for professional certification with a view of serving internship under older professionals and later start her own practice.

Iyaebe:
Please my friend needs a matured advise on what to do as she always feels she's missing out on the harsh realities of life.Well,she's from a privileged background and as such she has little or no experience about the harsh realities of life,right from childhood everything has been so easy as her parents will always make sure she's comfortable wherever she is.Now she's almost through with schooling and she reads on social media where young ladies and men are out there striving and surviving for themselves and display their self made success on social media, this always makes her feel down and not in tune with the happenings of life.So she recently discussed with her dad and her dad already got her a very big space in a highbrow area where she'll be dealing on drugs (pharmaceuticals) and already arranged how they will be supplying her so she can make her own money and feel among those independent young ladies but that's not what she truly wants, she wants to struggle and raise money for herself to start on her own. Recently she's thinking of not going back home after rounding up her schooling, she wants to go out there and hunt for jobs by herself, even if it is a menial job so she can raise money and start something but some of her friends thinks she's going crazy and weird,she's already looking for an apartment to rent but not sure if her dad will allow her to live alone,she's confused. Please advise her without been insultive.I'll be showing her your responses,thanks.

Please send her number to me, I want to tell her something

There is nothing wrong abt her decision but she should still live with her parents. If she was a man, it would have been advisable for her to get her own house.

I can see tinz 4rm her point of view. Almost all her life, she has been experiencing things done 4 her which made it comes so easy that she start 2 nurse d feeling of not being independent. Such feelings of not being able 2 do things her own way or understand how it feel 2 independently achieve/attain a feet. She want 2 do things herself and av d inner feelings of satisfaction nd boastfulness that, indeed, I did this all by myself as against d usual push and input 4rm her parent. But she failed 2 realize something which is the fact that, SHE'S BEING LUCKY AND SHOULD BE GRATEFUL 4 IT. D one who coined d phrase, 'DIS LIFE NO BALANCE' got inspired by situation as hers cos d life she is complaining about is what most out there wishes 4.
Most of those she envied by their success stories would choose her kind of life over what they went through 2 attain their success, but life was not just being fair 2 them 4rm start. Never should she forget d fact that, those set (her envees) were coined and conditioned 2 pass through rough path which then shaped them 2 what they now are. Circumstances got them rugged and gave them d zeal 2 push through even though not all that went through such path survive it nor has a success stories 2 tell, but circumstances which try 2 be fair on her own path never got her prepare 4 such life path, and if she try force it, she might break. D rock a weight lifter/body builder would move without feeling workout, should a non weigh lifter dare it, he/she might regret such attempt.

If she still insist on her conviction, it's fine she is about 2 go 4 service, let it be an opportunity 4 her 2 carryout her mission. I'm aware d parent would influence her posting, regardless, wen she get 2 camp, she should pal with her P.O 2 mk sure her posting 2 PPA isn't influence, but let nature tk it cause. So, hopefully they post her 2 a school 2 teach which is likely nd should mk sure 2 stay at Coper's lodge or d house allocated 2 them by her posted place, 4rm there, she can start living on NYSC Allawee while she save as much as she can, d Allawee is a pay 4 her effort, by being prudent wif spendin, she must av been able 2 save sm amount, den after service, let her start her journey 2 hustle things herself wif it. Though, her parent could be sending her money since they have her account, let her act like those money doesn't exist.
So, if she try d path and realize how uneasy it is, biko, mk she turn back . Sufferhead no be 4 evribdy .

oazeez1991:
I can see tinz 4rm her point of view. Almost all her life, she has been experiencing things done 4 her which made it comes so easy that she start 2 nurse d feeling of not being independent. Such feelings of not being able 2 do things her own way or understand how it feel 2 independently achieve/attain a feet. She want 2 do things herself and av d inner feelings of satisfaction nd boastfulness that, indeed, I did this all by myself as against d usual push and input 4rm her parent. But she failed 2 realize something which is the fact that, SHE'S BEING LUCKY AND SHOULD BE GRATEFUL 4 IT. D one who coined d phrase, 'DIS LIFE NO BALANCE' got inspired by situation as hers cos d life she is complaining about is what most out there wishes 4.
Most of those she envied by their success stories would choose her kind of life over what they went through 2 attain their success, but life was not just being fair 2 them 4rm start. Never should she forget d fact that, those set (her envees) were coined and conditioned 2 pass through rough path which then shaped them 2 what they now are. Circumstances got them rugged and gave them d zeal 2 push through even though not all that went through such path survive it nor has a success stories 2 tell, but circumstances which try 2 be fair on her own path never got her prepare 4 such life path, and if she try force it, she might break. D rock a weight lifter/body builder would move without feeling workout, should a non weigh lifter dare it, he/she might regret such attempt.

If she still insist on her conviction, it's fine she is about 2 go 4 service, let it be an opportunity 4 her 2 carryout her mission. I'm aware d parent would influence her posting, regardless, wen she get 2 camp, she should pal with her P.O 2 mk sure her posting 2 PPA isn't influence, but let nature tk it cause. So, hopefully they post her 2 a school 2 teach which is likely nd should mk sure 2 stay at Coper's lodge or d house allocated 2 them by her posted place, 4rm there, she can start living on NYSC Allawee while she save as much as she can, d Allawee is a pay 4 her effort, by being prudent wif spendin, she must av been able 2 save sm amount, den after service, let her start her journey 2 hustle things herself wif it. Though, her parent could be sending her money since they have her account, let her act like those money doesn't exist.
So, if she try d path and realize how uneasy it is, biko, mk she turn back . Sufferhead no be 4 evribdy .

Nice one and thanks a lot

Tell her she is not missing anything. Suffer no sweet at all.

yuping:
Tell her she is not missing anything. Suffer no sweet at all.

I swear down. Make she dey that comfort zone o.

It won't still change anything. Even if she is able to carried out her plan and she eventually succeeded with it. People will still weigh her achievements by her family background.

In a nutshell, that who she is. She can't change it.

What is even there in suffering?!. We, wey dey there. We are praying that God should liberate us, so that our unborn child won't pass through what we are passing through.

Iyaebe:
Yes she will go for youth service which will definitely be influenced so she can be in same location with her family but she's just tired of such lifestyle

She should date a suffer head guy. She will see the reality up close and personal. Shey she wants to see and feel the struggle? Lmao.

I personally think it’s a nice thing to balance ur perspectives on life. Experiencing both affuluent life and the struggle is a rare privilege and advantage.

This is why some parents send their kids abroad to Nigeria to wise up and do a few things by themselves in our harsh environment.

One a serious note.
Let her board bus not Uber oo from ojuelgba to Shita and go and eat hot amala from iya Basira. Thank me later.

She should relax herself irrespective of her status. She has her challenges and she should be bothered about how to face them.

It's not true she really want to struggle. She just want to live with her decision and live wish. Not under the authority of her parents. She feel she has no decision on her own without family approval. She feel she need to have control over her live.

It's very common with privilege people. They feel they don't have a mind of there own. Everything in life is a privilege. If you suffer on the street it's also a privilege as many others want to claim they suffered to make it. Even davido is forming street boy. But you cannot compared that with 2face or Linda Ikeja

Remember having a conversation with a lady from a well to do family, she asked me
What is poverty?

Lalasticlala, come and see correct gist here. God go help all of us

she's simply looking for freedom.

she will get it.
hope she can really afford it