Good day, Fellas. Let's face it. If Nigerian women were to pay men's groom price and do the marriage arrangements, how many women out there would have been able to do so? I asked because i have been hearing ladies looking down or talking down guys because of their poor or insufficient income or financial state.

Men go dey dia papa house old.

Bigcee, u are invited.

I can. The way I cherish him

this is a serious question. Depending who you are in a relationship with but Chai, some men will be bachelors for life. Some others will have to elope with their partners if shame of singleness don too much. We will import free husband from wherever we can find them

Me and my partner will just elope ni, let no in-law trouble me(on a lighter note)

Let me get a glass of water and read comments

Ubunja, u are also invited.

Jidemoo:
Let me get a glass of water and read comments

Make it cold for 2

Opeyemiextra:
this is serious. Depending who you are in a relationship with but Chai, some men will be bachelors for life. Some others will have to elope with their partners.

Me and my partner will just elope ni, let no in-law trouble me(on a lighter note)

Did u just say some? Lol, many men will be bachelors for life.

Truvelisback:
Did u just say some? Lol, many men will be bachelors for life.

You will be surprised at the response of most women to be groom price payers ooo
Some women also sponsor their wedding so that's why I used some.

If we are to pay groom price, who will be the head of the home? The whole traditional cultures and unwritten laws will have to be re-established favouring women in everything, question is, can you men agree to the terms of switching roles without feeling emasculated and ego bruised?

JovialJune:
If we are to pay groom price, who will be the head of the home? The whole traditional cultures and unwritten laws will have to be re-established favouring women in everything, question is, can you men agree to the terms of switching roles without feeling emasculated and ego bruised?

Don't Indian women do so? U are talking abt favouring women, don't marriage favours women abroad. The man loses half or almost all of his properties, wealth to the woman after divorce, the man still pays for up keep even when she gets married to another man. Now, which gender does marriage favour? isn't it women? That's just by the way. The question is, how many women would be able to pay men's Groom price and do the marriagements?

JovialJune:
If we are to pay groom price, who will be the head of the home? The whole traditional cultures and unwritten laws will have to be re-established favouring women in everything, question is, can you men agree to the terms of switching roles without feeling emasculated and ego bruised?

Truvelisback:
Don't Indian women do so? U are talking abt favouring women, don't marriage favours women abroad. The man loses half of his properties, wealth to the woman after divorce, the still pays for up keep even when she gets married to another man. Now, which gender does marriage favour? isn't it women? That's just by the way. The question is, how many would be able to pay men's Groom price and do the marriagements?

Wait o, how much is the bride price gan sef that you're making it seem like it is billions of naira, how many of you men can single handedly pay for bride price and the list if not with the help of family and friends? Even the bride contribute in some cases, so how and what makes it a big deal? Bride price that can be from 5k to 50k and above is what is making you yapp about like this, most men that are avoiding marriage lately is it because of the wedding/bride price or financial buoyance to start a home?

But let me address your indian and abroad issue cos e nor dey far from una to use them for comparison;

It has been the culture of indian before you were born, they practice polyandry, as in the women can marry multiple husbands, the women are the bread winners, most of their men are househusbands, can you Nigerian men agree to something like that? if you want to be like Indians, start by rewriting the norms and laws from the time of old, then we will know how serious you Nigerian men are not this baseless wishful thinking

And what is with the comparison of the western world? Are you lacking foresight that you just spring up silly excuses as counter points? Do they pay bride price? Are we in the abroad? Is this about Nigeria or abroad? Where have you seen divorce favour women here? How does marriage favour women here? How una dey think sef?

JovialJune:


Wait o, how much is the bride price gan sef that you're making it seem like it is billions of naira, how many of you men can single handedly pay for bride price and the list if not with the help of family and friends? Even the bride contribute in some cases, so how and what makes it a big deal? Bride price that can be from 5k to 50k and above is what is making you yapp about like this, most men that are avoiding marriage lately is it because of the wedding/bride price or financial buoyance to start a home?

But let me address your indian and abroad issue cos e nor dey far from una to use them for comparison;

It has been the culture of indian before you were born, they practice polyandry, as in the women can marry multiple husbands, the women are the bread winners, most of their men are househusbands, can you Nigerian men agree to something like that? if you want to be like Indians, start by rewriting the norms and laws from the time of old, then we will know how serious you Nigerian men are not this baseless wishful thinking

And what is with the comparison of the western world? Are you lacking foresight that you just spring up silly excuses as counter points? Do they pay bride price? Are we in the abroad? Is this about Nigeria or abroad? Where have you seen divorce favour women here? How does marriage favour women here? How una dey think sef?

In Nigeria and abroad. How much be the bride price self? U just dey make mouth.

Truvelisback:
In Nigeria and abroad. How much be the bride price self? U just dey make mouth.

What is this one saying U no get point at all.

JovialJune:
If we are to pay groom price, who will be the head of the home? The whole traditional cultures and unwritten laws will have to be re-established favouring women in everything, question is, can you men agree to the terms of switching roles without feeling emasculated and ego bruised?

The OP doesn't seem to realize that that traditional laws men bow to even in Nigeria were composed of by their fathers and their fathers before them. They were written to favor men.... only now the pretty system they created no longer appeal to their sons.

JovialJune:



What is this one saying U no get point at all.

My points are real, u know. U are just avoiding or trying to cover up.

Kobojunkie:
The OP doesn't seem to realize that that traditional laws men bow to even in Nigeria were composed of by their fathers and their fathers before them. They were written to favor men.... only now the pretty system they created no longer appeal to their sons.

U don't know what u are saying.

Truvelisback:
U don't know what u are saying.

Look at this one!

Go ask your grandparents how far with traditions you bow to so they can educate you abeg.

Truvelisback:
My points are real, u know. U are just avoiding or trying to cover up.

You are not making any point and this because you don't even a clue about the history of the traditions you follow.

Kobojunkie:
You are not making any point and this because you don't even a clue about the history of the traditions you follow.

U are derailing the thread. I didn't mention traditions. I said if women were to pay men's groom price and do the marriage arrangements, how many women would have been able to do so?

Jidemoo:
Let me get a glass of water and read comments

They didn't come out cause they know it's the truth.

Truvelisback:
U are derailing the thread. I didn't mention traditions. I said if women were to pay men's groom price and do the marriage arrangements, how many women would have been able to do so?

You mentioned tradition the moment you mentioned bride price which is defined according to tradition.

P.S. Not every culture in Africa, mind you, requires the payment of bride price.

Kobojunkie:
You mentioned tradition the moment you mentioned bride price which is defined according to tradition.

P.S. Not every culture in Africa, mind you, requires the payment of bride price.

I said how many women in Nigeria would be able to do so?

Truvelisback:
I said how many women in Nigeria would be able to do so?

It was setup by your fathers and their fathers before them for the benefit of men. How many women in their right senses would want to pay a fee that is meant to purchase her as property for the man?

Kobojunkie:
It was setup by your fathers and their fathers before them for the benefit of men. How many women in their right senses would want to pay a fee that is meant to purchase her as property for the man?

It's obvious u don't understand simple English language. Why beating around the bush? Did i tell u that i don't know? I asked a simple question that requires a "Yes" or a "No". If women were to pay men's groom price and do the marriage arrangements, how many women would have been able to do so?

Opeyemiextra:
this is serious. Depending who you are in a relationship with but Chai, some men will be bachelors for life. Some others will have to elope with their partners if shame of singleness don too much.

Me and my partner will just elope ni, let no in-law trouble me(on a lighter note)

I like u for ur sincerity.

Very few women will afford to get me likewise a lot of men. Let me do small QS work. Given the input into my life including all the packaging (I'm not talking about assets ooo) and considering what I can bring on the table the QS/cost accountant valued me at #50m.

If my parents discount the value it means an average bride will pay say #45m.

Can you see what women are getting free.

Truvelisback:
Good day, Fellas. Let's face it. If Nigerian women were to pay men's groom price and do the marriage arrangements, how many women out there would have been able to do so? I asked because i have been hearing ladies looking down or talking down guys because of their poor or insufficient income or financial state.

As a good looking young man, single and with evening newspapers Every where.... a woman must pay for my groom price....I ain't paying shishi for any bride price

Truvelisback:
Good day, Fellas. Let's face it. If Nigerian women were to pay men's groom price and do the marriage arrangements, how many women out there would have been able to do so? I asked because i have been hearing ladies looking down or talking down guys because of their poor or insufficient income or financial state.

Well, if that is the case, the family of the bride will have to come in because there's a huge disparity between the earnings of men and women in this country. On the other, women wouldn't look down on financially unstable men if other men don't constantly try to impress them or members of their clique with money. It's all about the value system.

If you want me to pay your groom price:

1. You have to be my physical spec
2. Stay at home and take care of my kids
3. I will take care of the rest.