So, how do you balance getting a fair opinion on "issues" or "red flags" in a "serious" relationship from 3rd party and not distorting the 3rd parties view of your partner.

Cause, it can be risky dating in isolation and we may not see things for what they are blinded by emotions.

I ask because i need to sense check somethings happening in my relationship with a someone else and i also do not want my partner to be seen as a bad person, should the relationship progresses.

Thank you.

you can try the following options:

1. tell the story to the public or someone you know in a narrative tone (speak like it is happening in another relationship)

2. tell third parties the truth about what's going on (by parties i mean telling it to 2 or 3 type of persons - someone that likes her, someone that dislikes her, & someone that is neutral about her)

these methods will prevent sentiments

In seeking opinion from a third party, be sincere and objective with your narration, and be sure this person is also someone who has values, whose opinions can to some extent be trusted.