My husband left the house this morning telling me he is visiting his friend and I was like ok no probs. It is when I wanted to take my bath I notice his toothbrush was not their and toothpate. So I called him to ask him why those two items are missind if he's not planning to come home. His answer was of course am comming back home. And I was then why did u took those things with u his reply was why am I treating him like a small boy and I know if he finally comes home he will start yelling. Is it normal behavior as for me its not.

Doesnt your husband work?

What does that have to do with my dilemma don't u have free days if u works goshhhh

chillbabe:

My husband left the house this morning telling me he is visiting his friend and I was like ok no probs. It is when I wanted to take my bath I notice his toothbrush was not their and toothpate. So I called him to ask him why those two items are missind if he's not planning to come home. His answer was of course am comming back home. And I was then why did u took those things with u his reply was why am I treating him like a small boy and I know if he finally comes home he will start yelling. Is it normal behavior as for me its not.

I think you should let him come home first.  There's too little information here to draw conclusions with.  Anything that is said now would be mere conjecture except this is not the first time that this is happening.

chillbabe:

What does that have to do with my dilemma don't u have free days if u works goshhhh

you dont have to be bitchy in answering. Unfortunately, you wont get a reply on why I asked my question.

@odunno I was not being bitchy ok I only answered ure question @pukkah this is not the first time from time to time he will act like this depends on the friend he is in contact at that time. And when I call him to order to remind him that he is not a bachelor the above will be his reply. And that's y I ask if I am the problem.

has your husband cheated on you before? has he given you cause for suspicion of his fidelity?

@snowdrops so it is normale for your husband to take his toothbrush and toothpaste without telling u that he will sleep out in the same town we are living?

taking toothbrush and paste, while not a common routine is by no means abnormal. he could have taken these items for a thousand and one reasons. why i am curious is why cheating is the top of your lists of differentials.

there is no smoke without fire. your mindset seems to have been primed to doubt his intentions, hence it looks like you are looking for evidence to justify your suspicions.

don't get me wrong, he could be seeing someone else, but 9 out of 10 he may not be. give him the benefit of the doubt, until you get cast iron evidence.

@snowdrops this has nothing to do with me suspecting him of cheating. When I called and asked him he told me maybe he would sleep out ok why not tell me before leaving the house a married man has no business sleeping outside his matrimonial home if he travels that is different. Don't u think

In that case, your husband is bang out of order. He should give you a reasonable explanation for sleeping out and should have informed you before hand.

However, has he done same before? Is he someone who womanises? This can give a hint as to his whereabouts. In addition, if he needs to play away game, abeg make he use condom o. Seriously speaking.

Which kain yeye husband/marriage be that? Carry brush n toothpaste ke?! Anyway you should know ur hubby more than we ever could, so figure it out urself. Can't imagine being in dat kind of situation sha, God forbid!

ragdollz:

Which kain yeye husband/marriage be that? Carry brush n toothpaste ke?! Anyway you should know your hubby more than we ever could, so figure it out urself. Can't imagine being in dat kind of situation sha, God forbid!

@chillbabe
I don't think the problem here is your husband is cheating. A man that is cheating doesnt need to take toothbrush and toothpaste out of the house. Thats strange and bizzare. How much is toothbrush and toothpaste that can be bought anywhere or gotten in the hotel room. If he was cheating, the babe would kick him out on the sight of bringing used toothbrush and paste from home, thats so unsexy & signifies he is a mincer.

If you said you saw lip stick stains thats better but no man would give himself away like that. Maybe he is suffering from mid life crises or depression or forgets stuffs. Watch him closely and observe, he might even be going through a medical treatment that he doesnt want u to know so it wont stress you. Please dont jump into conclusion.

He came in around 22:00u stone drunk now at 2pm he is awake cooking rice putting on all the lights and watching tv thus disturbing my sleep. I didn't want to sleep in the bedroom to avoid problems I asked him why he's doing this and he's just laughing this is just looking for trouble. But trust I would just ignore him. This is to me so disrespectful. I called him twice before he got home and didn't pick my call guess he wants us to quarrel but I won't give him that satisfaction. If he has a problem he should open his mouth and talk we are not newlyweds. Maybe I am the problem by giving him to much respect I don't know

@ OP: your husband is not cheating. Enjoy your marriage and stop feeding your fears.

@obowunmi I never said my husband was or is cheating at me am questioning his behaviour

Poster, if you tried talking to him but he never did gave you the right answer, i would suggest you let him read this your whole thread.

What xctly in his behavior are you questioning? That he took his toothbrush without your permission and described to you where he's taking it. You sound like a nag to me. Get over it. If he wanted to cheat, he won't be so blatant.

It seems OP is feeding us the whole gist piece meal. Was surprised you mentioned he came home drunk. Is there also an alcohol problem?

Snowdrops, ure onto something here. He may hv taken his tooth brush trying to hide the smell of alcohol when he comes home. OP might have just married an alcoholic. I hope ure not in Nigeria and it will not escalate to beatings.

I do hope this is only a one off behaviour and not something chronic, otherwise OP might have landed herself in some trouble.

He is not a drunk and am not a nag. To me it is not normale that u want to go and visite ure friend 30minutes away from our house and your contemplating in your had that u might spend the night. People please read my post well before replying. And more so he never has or will raise his hands on me why read more meaning in the post @obowunmi are u married?

I am still baffled as to why you started this thread in the first place. What sort of advice are you expecting from guys here? You sound confused.

snowdrops:

I am still baffled as to why you started this thread in the first place. What sort of advice are you expecting from guys here? You sound confused.

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@ op

don't even know what to tell you

you said he is not cheating so the only thing i can say is maybe a pastor told him to hide his toothbrush away from you

@ r231

no finish person with laugh

@OP, have u been using his toothbrush before?
Sowi o, no harm meant. Just wandering Y he keepz it awei 4rm u now.

Your husband is probably out there eating some sushi. You're not the problem, ask him what his problem is when he comes back.

Hello @op its like the answer to the question you raised lies right in your face. You said your doesn't womanize although he drinks. Or perhaps, you are the problem as you've posited. My sister, sit down and think about your situation and you will know that the solution lies in your own hands.

oh dear.

poster, better fast and pray even if you're not religious.

you say he's not an alcoholic even though he came home smelling of whiskey.

he took his toothbrush and toothpaste when going out, and later said he might or might not be coming home.

all these point to one thing imo- he's trying to disguise whatever it was that would be smelling on his breath when he finally arrives.


these are indeed perilous times, lord have mercy.

some of these men are the ones pushing women to babalawos and spiritualists i swear.

is your husband a nler @ poster.

^^^^^yea me

snowdrops:

I am still baffled as to why you started this thread in the first place. What sort of advice are you expecting from guys here? You sound confused.

OP is high on DRUGS!