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I think the op is the one with issues. If I was married to you, I will stay out too.

What kind of sick story is this. You were the one that said he took his toothbrush and toothpaste out in the morning when people were working so that means he was cheating.

Everyone said toothbrush and toothpaste is not enough reason to cheat. Then you brought in another dimension that he came back drunk and you are ignoring him so peoples assumptions was that he would probably have the tendency to beat you.

Then now you are on your hubby's side claiming he doesn't cheat and bla bla bla.

Why disturb our peace with this nonsense. Any man that goes out for fun in the morning means his wife is horror itself and not the nag that people are even using to appease you.

Comport yourself as a married woman and get useful rather than all these. Maybe you are a wealthy bored housewife, start knitting, playing the piano or writting.

You are unstable like someone who snif stuffs.

^^^ well said.

Lol @ replies. Well OP I'm on ur side

Ur story fascinates me, though I know u're not telling us everything. U guys are obviously not newly-weds, so I guess along the line the marriage degenerated to what it is today.

Try n save this marriage, it's in ur hands. Next time he takes his brush n paste , make sure u cook a delicious, aroma-cious meal that night so the smell alone will tempt the Esau in him . Lay the table n invite him to eat (even if it is 2am ) and sit with him to enjoy the dishes. Then gently ask what has gone wrong and how it can be solved. He just might open up. Remember, welcome him home with the house oozing of hot, scented food (if possible wear something skimpy)


Don't forget to tell me how it went

OP abeg calm down your attitude jor.

maybe it is high time you COMMUNICATE with your husband and get to the root of the missing brush/paste. from your post, it seems this might be a new development or something that has been going on for awhile without your knowledge. so, it is necessary you found out but be wise on how you go about asking about it because if he senses you are 'nagging' him, he might start leaving his own brush/paste at home and start buying it outside. tricking you into thinking problem is solved but . . . . . .


it is either he is drinking or smoking and concealing it by brushing his teeth

or

he is just a neat/germ freak that must brush his teeth after eating.

or he is doing some "things" that requires mouth cleaning

or he has poor oral hygiene and is self conscious about it

for all i care, it is abnormal in my book for one to be carrying paste/brush when you are not planning a sleepover, not a 'teeth be must be clean' freak kind of person and not drinker/smoker chronic or social.

only you can find out the reason.

*ignores story and waves at Sissy*

Wow! na you be dis . longest tymeeeeee . you are mean o, see how you just disappear from this place like that

how bodi

*E-hug* 

missed your presence around here jare!

abeg no be my fault. This site is becoming so unbearable. I dont even put much effort in my tyroublemaking anymore. So not worth it

anyway I dey, love. How are you? and LOL I finally read the story and I think OP's husband smokes and is an alcoholic, she's defensive cos at the end of the day he's her husband and she chose him, so by insulting him, you are also insulting her.

yep, things have changed quite a lot around here but the likes of you are not helping issue by disappearing nah. it gets worse so, abeg try to dey show your presence, i will bribe you if that will make you stick around . i dey fine my sista.

why then seek advice when you're going to defend him and still ask if there is a problem smh. with her type of defensiveness, even if she knows/founds he is smoking/drinking she might still be in denial of it. anyways good-luck to her sha.

fine I'll stay around longer

*makes a bribe list*

Folks pls take it easy on the OP, she came here for suggestions not castigation


@chillbabe, another thing just occurred to me; can ur hubby have started taking narcotics eg igbo? Maybe his friend introduced him to it that's why he hangs out with d guy. He masks the smell with d paste he carries. And igbo can make men act weird u know. Look into it

yay! make you keep your word oo, erhmm. . dont make the list to long too

@ ragdollz

nobody is castigating her, just the way she responds . . . .

I understand @ ~Sissy~ Well it's understandable (her attitude) I've seen friends come complaining to me about their bf/partner and if u criticise the man they turn on YOU instead So I learned to be 'neutral' cos girls get :touchy: about such issues

@ the thread derailers.

you are warned or you will be banned by me. the self made moderator