Some count themselves extremely lucky to have been the first or the last born of their parents, while to some, it's an unfortunate occurence. If you are the first or the last born of your parents, let's share your experience as regards the benefits and the challenges of been in that position.

Well, I'm the first born in my family and there are both benefits and challenges attached to being a firstborn but I think the challenges are more than the benefits. Right from when I was a kid, it has always beign drummed into my ears especially when I do something bad. Even when my younger ones are the ones at fault, I always take the blame for virtually everything. The good thing about it is that it molded me to what I am today since I had to work extra harder to meet up to expectations in every aspect of my life and that is where the benefit comes in. I earned the respect of both my parents and siblings. But it's not easy sha especially now that I happen to be the only one working, the financial responsibility is something else.

As first child when you're younger you'll enjoy some great benefits of getting largest meat, no washing of plates etc. But men as you grow you have to be the one doing everything for this boys (siblings). Pay first semester, second semester, hostel, hostel rent. Pay for a driver for your old man. And when your mom is thinking of expanding her business you'll pay. All you do is PAY PAY PAY PAY PAY!!!!

Well e no easy o.

The burden of responsibilities expected from you, comes hand in hand with the respect conferred on you from your siblings and parents. Last born, you are doted on by your parents, but sometimes, you are at a disadvantage if your parents die. God forbid, if they were to pass away when you are young, and your elder siblings are cold-hearted, it will be rougher to forge ahead financially.


As per school fees for your younger ones (to the respondent), please just see it as your obligation to them. Dont even consider it a burden.

Being the last means being spoilt, being the first means, pressured to be of good and great example and a role model, not everyone could handle this realy well, and i will advice that parents shuold just treat all kids equal, I am in da middle and not fair at all, that wasnt spoilt, but real fun being the only boy of da houze

am the first of four kids and the ONLY boy plenty of responsibilty, it is also fun.

I fell for you bro

Right from when I was a kid, it has always beign drummed into my ears especially when I do something bad. Even when my younger ones are the ones at fault, I always take the blame for virtually everything.

Yeah you are right.

Apart from that being a first born it means you will see things first hand.
When was a kid, i enjoyed all the attention before the other players came along.
It is not easy, but wetin man go do, it has been written that even in this part of the world you still no fit sell your birthright like our Great unlce Esau. ONCE A FIRST BORN, ALWAYS A FIRSTBORN[b][/b]

It's not funny being the first born in a family, i dont think a counsellor counsel as much as i do, i have to talk, beg, pray for my younger ones, and it's always bills, bills, bills.

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Can only speak as a "first"!!! Too many responsiblities. But the good news is that you grow up quickly and your parents have the energy to teach you all the "good, bad and ugly" of life before the "others" come along!