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20s And 30s For The Sophisticated Man by ExcelDBM: 2:58pm On Apr 25, 2022

Now you're already in your 20s or 30s and it's either you are about getting or already used to shouldering responsibilities (especially financial).

This stage is very very key to a worthy and worthwhile retirement.

Here are some factors to be considered for a near perfect youthful stage of your life.

1. If you have a long term goal and plans you have to achieve them: He who fails to plan has planned to fail.
You have to plan your life longterm by achieving short term goals which are in tandem with achieving your long term. However not all persons will suffer as a result of ignoring this factor.

2. Your family background or status: You must take into cognisance whether you're from a rich or poor home as it will go a long way in determining how hard you will need to hustle in order to be comfortable. If you are from a rich home, you will most likely already have a solid start and foundation unlike one from a poor home who will have to create a platform for himself to succeed.

Note: It'll be tougher if you are the first born for those from poor backgrounds as you'll need to support your younger ones till they have found their feet.

3. Your peers: This is a very vital factor. If your peers are treading the wrong path then it is most likely that you are following suit. If they are not talking investment, escaping 9-5 and so on then you have no business hanging around such people. However there are rare exceptions. You can't dream big yet rub shoulders with who has dream at all. Such peers will drag you backwards with their carefree attitude and nonchalance.

4. Your environment: Some places are bereft of opportunities while others are haven for mouthwatering opportunities because an example like the former will be a great hindrance to your climbing the ladder of success. When you realise your environment has little or nothing to offer you, it's best to change environment.

5. Spouse or relationship: It is normal to be in a relationship or married at this stage but who you're dating or married will make or mar you to a larger extent. A lady with an extravagant lifestyle yet lazy is a no go area as no matter hardworking you are, you will barely encounter persistent productivity and significant attainment as you will be pouring coins into a bag full of holes. Worse if you are a mugu money spender because some so-called womanisers are frugal too.

6. Possible family size: If you don't plan your family size then get ready for palaver in your later years as inability to cater for them will be a burden too heavy for you to bear. Know that many children means more bills for you to foot and you dare not fail in this aspect as the consequences will be grave.

7. Your spending habit: If you are the type that is eager to spend money at the slightest opportunity (mostly on frivolities) then you are in trouble already as you will find yourself always broke and indebted because you are living above your means. It is best to save as much as possible before you spend (mostly on necessaries)

I think these are the basics but feel free to add yours and please pardon any typos.

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Re: 20s And 30s For The Sophisticated Man by ibechris(m): 4:07pm On Apr 25, 2022

This post may not find relevance because majority of Nigerian youths are gambling away their destiny,many are into drugs,cultism and occultism,hookups for money,Internet fraud and many more.

The responsible ones will read and understand but the rest will over look it as Buhari is the cause of all Nigerian problems.

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Re: 20s And 30s For The Sophisticated Man by Threesha(f): 7:25pm On Apr 25, 2022

ibechris:
This post may not find relevance because majority of Nigerian youths are gambling away their destiny,many are into drugs,cultism and occultism,hookups for money,Internet fraud and many more.

The responsible ones will read and understand but the rest will over look it as Buhari is the cause of all Nigerian problems.

Re: 20s And 30s For The Sophisticated Man by ExcelDBM: 7:56pm On Apr 25, 2022

ibechris:
This post may not find relevance because majority of Nigerian youths are gambling away their destiny,many are into drugs,cultism and occultism,hookups for money,Internet fraud and many more.

The responsible ones will read and understand but the rest will over look it as Buhari is the cause of all Nigerian problems.

You're right Sir

Re: 20s And 30s For The Sophisticated Man by SeaTrade(m): 10:23pm On Apr 25, 2022

As for your number 5,avoid all flamboyant women,whether hardworking,lazy,rich or poor.
At the end of the day ,their superficiality,classism ,taste ,sophistication and wanting to belong will alter your reality, modesty and of course your spending.
As one grows and get to understand reality and is no longer excited over meaningless ,unrealistic luxury,one begin to understand the ancient concept of marrying poor,groomable young girls and mould to shape according to one's taste and finances was never wrong.
Most women who've already given themselves some certain standards can only be domesticated by old money bag,peaked out men.These ain't terrain for young guys still building their dreams.
And honestly,this is why men avoid these women and I find it hard to blame them .

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Re: 20s And 30s For The Sophisticated Man by DontBullshitMe: 11:53am On Apr 26, 2022

SeaTrade:
As for your number 5,avoid all flamboyant women,whether hardworking,lazy,rich or poor.
At the end of the day ,their superficiality,classism ,taste ,sophistication and wanting to belong will alter your reality, modesty and of course your spending.
As one grows and get to understand reality and is no longer excited over meaningless ,unrealistic luxury,one begin to understand the ancient concept of marrying poor,groomable young girls and mould to shape according to one's taste and finances was never wrong.
Most women who've already given themselves some certain standards can only be domesticated by old money bag,peaked out men.These ain't terrain for young guys still building their dreams.
And honestly,this is why men avoid these women and I find it hard to blame them .

100% on point, as always.

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Re: 20s And 30s For The Sophisticated Man by SeaTrade(m): 12:31pm On Apr 26, 2022

DontBullshitMe:

100% on point, as always.

Too much experience in these things brotherly.
There's this lady I work with,big girl by all ramifications.
So we suppose go on a trip together for work and we were the last two people to leave for that work trip as every other person don go.
We suppose go in the same vehicle according to plan from my partners she work for,but however since we were late for schedule as arranged by my partners,every other expenses we incur while waiting for logistic arrangements will be born by us since my partners don already provide the first ones we missed but we no use am due to lateness.
So she called me and said since as we dey go together ,say make we stay same hotel so that logistics go dey easier and to avoid chances for another mixup.
I say no wahala,go ahead and book.Na there I Bleep up thinking say na me and human being dey talk.
Na so this girl go land me 4 nights for 5 star hotel for VI ooo,pay already ,sent me the details and bill so I can refund her shocked

To her na normal thing,but to me street hustler it means a lot since I know I can have similar services for way cheaper and we didn't grow by spending carelessly.
The thing pain me ehn! angry

Now imagine someone dating this kind of person up to the point of marriage?you'll find out all your resources will be expended on catching up to someone's unrealistic,classist lifestyle for pointless reasons.
Since then I stopped being friendly with her because even before then I be don dey reason to enter the girl but I just run abeg.

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Re: 20s And 30s For The Sophisticated Man by DontBullshitMe: 12:53pm On Apr 26, 2022

SeaTrade:
Too much experience in these things brotherly.
There's this lady I work with,big girl by all ramifications.
So we suppose go on a trip together for work and we were the last two people to leave for that work trip as every other person don go.
We suppose go in the same vehicle according to plan from my partners she work for,but however since we were late for schedule as arranged by my partners,every other expenses we incur while waiting for logistic arrangements will be born by us since my partners don already provide the first ones we missed but we no use am due to lateness.
So she called me and said since as we dey go together ,say make we stay same hotel so that logistics go dey easier and to avoid chances for another mixup.
I say no wahala,go ahead and book.Na there I Bleep up thinking say na me and human being dey talk.
Na so this girl go land me 4 nights for 5 star hotel for VI ooo,pay already ,sent me the details and bill so I can refund her
To her na normal thing,but to me street hustler it means a lot since I know I can have similar services for way cheaper and we didn't grow by spending carelessly.
The thing pain me ehn!
Now imagine someone dating this kind of person up to the point of marriage?you'll find out all your resources will be expended on catching up to someone's unrealistic,classist lifestyle for pointless reasons.
Since then I stopped being friendly with her because even before then I be don dey reason to enter the girl but I just run abeg.

Thank God say you distance yourself from that leech. cheesy

Re: 20s And 30s For The Sophisticated Man by SeaTrade(m): 1:03pm On Apr 26, 2022

DontBullshitMe:

Thank God say you distance yourself from that leech.

Omo them no dey tell person.
I don't think she's a leech sha but na all these girls weh dey like to overvalue themselves,because I don't see what somebody in her income bracket is doing in a five star hotel on her personal expense.
When you ask them ,them go play the Nigeria is not safe bla bla bla as excuse,
Who want kidnap you before? undecided

Whether they think kidnappers go around to pick just about anybody is what I don't understand.

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Re: 20s And 30s For The Sophisticated Man by ExcelDBM: 3:30pm On Apr 26, 2022

SeaTrade:
As for your number 5,avoid all flamboyant women,whether hardworking,lazy,rich or poor.
At the end of the day ,their superficiality,classism ,taste ,sophistication and wanting to belong will alter your reality, modesty and of course your spending.
As one grows and get to understand reality and is no longer excited over meaningless ,unrealistic luxury,one begin to understand the ancient concept of marrying poor,groomable young girls and mould to shape according to one's taste and finances was never wrong.
Most women who've already given themselves some certain standards can only be domesticated by old money bag,peaked out men.These ain't terrain for young guys still building their dreams.
And honestly,this is why men avoid these women and I find it hard to blame them .

Spot on!

Re: 20s And 30s For The Sophisticated Man by ExcelDBM: 3:32pm On Apr 26, 2022

SeaTrade:
Too much experience in these things brotherly.
There's this lady I work with,big girl by all ramifications.
So we suppose go on a trip together for work and we were the last two people to leave for that work trip as every other person don go.
We suppose go in the same vehicle according to plan from my partners she work for,but however since we were late for schedule as arranged by my partners,every other expenses we incur while waiting for logistic arrangements will be born by us since my partners don already provide the first ones we missed but we no use am due to lateness.
So she called me and said since as we dey go together ,say make we stay same hotel so that logistics go dey easier and to avoid chances for another mixup.
I say no wahala,go ahead and book.Na there I Bleep up thinking say na me and human being dey talk.
Na so this girl go land me 4 nights for 5 star hotel for VI ooo,pay already ,sent me the details and bill so I can refund her
To her na normal thing,but to me street hustler it means a lot since I know I can have similar services for way cheaper and we didn't grow by spending carelessly.
The thing pain me ehn!
Now imagine someone dating this kind of person up to the point of marriage?you'll find out all your resources will be expended on catching up to someone's unrealistic,classist lifestyle for pointless reasons.
Since then I stopped being friendly with her because even before then I be don dey reason to enter the girl but I just run abeg.

As in ehnn...

Re: 20s And 30s For The Sophisticated Man by Tranquility2345: 6:53pm On Apr 27, 2022

SeaTrade:
Too much experience in these things brotherly.
There's this lady I work with,big girl by all ramifications.
So we suppose go on a trip together for work and we were the last two people to leave for that work trip as every other person don go.
We suppose go in the same vehicle according to plan from my partners she work for,but however since we were late for schedule as arranged by my partners,every other expenses we incur while waiting for logistic arrangements will be born by us since my partners don already provide the first ones we missed but we no use am due to lateness.
So she called me and said since as we dey go together ,say make we stay same hotel so that logistics go dey easier and to avoid chances for another mixup.
I say no wahala,go ahead and book.Na there I Bleep up thinking say na me and human being dey talk.
Na so this girl go land me 4 nights for 5 star hotel for VI ooo,pay already ,sent me the details and bill so I can refund her
To her na normal thing,but to me street hustler it means a lot since I know I can have similar services for way cheaper and we didn't grow by spending carelessly.
The thing pain me ehn!
Now imagine someone dating this kind of person up to the point of marriage?you'll find out all your resources will be expended on catching up to someone's unrealistic,classist lifestyle for pointless reasons.
Since then I stopped being friendly with her because even before then I be don dey reason to enter the girl but I just run abeg.

Snap a picture of your room key in its jacket that says Lagos Continental Hotel or I don’t believe …. undecided

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Re: 20s And 30s For The Sophisticated Man by Winnerly: 7:15pm On Apr 27, 2022

Tranquility2345:

Snap a picture of your room key in its jacket that says Lagos Continental Hotel or I don’t believe ….

That guy thinks he is talking to kids here grin

Re: 20s And 30s For The Sophisticated Man by SeaTrade(m): 7:34pm On Apr 27, 2022

Tranquility2345:

Snap a picture of your room key in its jacket that says Lagos Continental Hotel or I don’t believe ….

Whether you're convinced or not,I wouldn't care.
And I never said I was still there ,airhead.

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Re: 20s And 30s For The Sophisticated Man by Winnerly: 1:01pm On Apr 28, 2022

Tranquility2345:

Snap a picture of your room key in its jacket that says Lagos Continental Hotel or I don’t believe ….

You must be a kid. How can he do that

Re: 20s And 30s For The Sophisticated Man by seanwilliam(m): 11:25pm On May 03, 2022

SeaTrade:
As for your number 5,avoid all flamboyant women,whether hardworking,lazy,rich or poor.
At the end of the day ,their superficiality,classism ,taste ,sophistication and wanting to belong will alter your reality, modesty and of course your spending.
As one grows and get to understand reality and is no longer excited over meaningless ,unrealistic luxury,one begin to understand the ancient concept of marrying poor,groomable young girls and mould to shape according to one's taste and finances was never wrong.
Most women who've already given themselves some certain standards can only be domesticated by old money bag,peaked out men.These ain't terrain for young guys still building their dreams.
And honestly,this is why men avoid these women and I find it hard to blame them .

Hmm.. 100%

Re: 20s And 30s For The Sophisticated Man by Nobody: 7:48pm On May 04, 2022

SeaTrade:
Too much experience in these things brotherly.
There's this lady I work with,big girl by all ramifications.
So we suppose go on a trip together for work and we were the last two people to leave for that work trip as every other person don go.
We suppose go in the same vehicle according to plan from my partners she work for,but however since we were late for schedule as arranged by my partners,every other expenses we incur while waiting for logistic arrangements will be born by us since my partners don already provide the first ones we missed but we no use am due to lateness.
So she called me and said since as we dey go together ,say make we stay same hotel so that logistics go dey easier and to avoid chances for another mixup.
I say no wahala,go ahead and book.Na there I Bleep up thinking say na me and human being dey talk.
Na so this girl go land me 4 nights for 5 star hotel for VI ooo,pay already ,sent me the details and bill so I can refund her
To her na normal thing,but to me street hustler it means a lot since I know I can have similar services for way cheaper and we didn't grow by spending carelessly.
The thing pain me ehn!
Now imagine someone dating this kind of person up to the point of marriage?you'll find out all your resources will be expended on catching up to someone's unrealistic,classist lifestyle for pointless reasons.
Since then I stopped being friendly with her because even before then I be don dey reason to enter the girl but I just run abeg.

I read your post & I laugh, you're actually right with this statement. I can't even lie reading this post.

The issue with living a best honourable life is admitting to women that you aren't capable of some particular type of flex, you must remove shame from every part of your being regarding finance because that is where It starts from. You alone knows how you work for your money, so you shouldn't be comparing yourself with a lady or a guy that is booking a room at Oriental or 4 Point, fingers are not equal and don't be ashamed to state it.

Too much prudence might make your life boring but an extravagant life will send you to the trenches, at the end you need balance.

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