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Adulterer For Adulteress? Islamic Perspective Please by olapluto(m): 3:47pm On Jul 18, 2011 |
This is an issue that I want my brothers and sisters to enlighten me about. Case Study: A muslim brother proposes to a muslim sister. She says Yes. However, she later got to find out that the brother had pre-marital sex with some of his exs. She terms the brother an 'adulterer' even though the brother stopped since. She quoted a verse in the Quran which says Adulterer for Adulteress. My question to brothers and sisters here is this: Who is defined as an adulterer in this verse? Should the brother who had a bad past know fully that he doesnt deserve a 'non-adulterous' believing woman? |
Re: Adulterer For Adulteress? Islamic Perspective Please by LagosShia: 8:33pm On Jul 18, 2011 |
[24:3] The fornicator shall not marry any but a fornicatress or idolatress, and (as for) the fornicatress, none shall marry her but a fornicator or an idolater; and it is forbidden to the believers. English Quranic Commentary of Ayatollah Agha Mehdi Pooya on Verse 3 Chapter 24:
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Re: Adulterer For Adulteress? Islamic Perspective Please by zayhal(f): 11:26am On Jul 19, 2011 |
ola_pluto: The brother[b] WAS [/b]fornicating. Now he has repented and is no longer a fornicator. So the sister has no justification in that area not to accept the proposal, except of course, if there are other reasons. If the scenario you describe is real, sister yen aa pe nbe. |
Re: Adulterer For Adulteress? Islamic Perspective Please by limpopo: 12:20pm On Jul 19, 2011 |
in d fist place, who is an adulter & adulteress & why do pple just read things dogmanticly without applying sense, haba |
Re: Adulterer For Adulteress? Islamic Perspective Please by maclatunji: 9:37am On Jul 26, 2011 |
zayhal: @bolded, interesting submission. I think the sister sinned with her judgemental expression. It is okay for her to have a standard for the man she wants as her husband (remember this man will possess her being- no small matter). However, she would have created some degree of hatred in the brother's heart (no matter how sincere he is or how good a Muslim he has become). On the extreme side, the man may even begin to hate Muslim women or the religion all together. Islamic leaders have to be patient when they are preaching; breakdown the issues, put them in proper perspective so that people don't misapply the various rules that guide our lives as Muslims. Also, each one of us has to know that No Muslim no matter how pious is perfect and we should stop pretending or dealing with people in such a manner. For example, if you insult a fellow Muslim- he will be hurt even if he pretends as if nothing has happened and irrespective of what the Quran and hadith says about forgiving other people. @Zayhal, I think you see some of things we were talking about elsewhere on this thread. |
Re: Adulterer For Adulteress? Islamic Perspective Please by PAGAN9JA(m): 9:41am On Jul 26, 2011 |
LagosShia: what stu.pid things. thank Gods I am not muslim. |
Re: Adulterer For Adulteress? Islamic Perspective Please by isalegan2: 10:36am On Aug 03, 2011 |
maclatunji: This sounds too harsh against the woman. She has every right to set a standard for her life and the father of her children. (It is her choice; she has to live her life, just like we all live ours the way we choose.) If a man said he did not want a "fornicator" for a wife, not too many will say "well, she used to sin, but no more"? It's his choice. And if the man starts "hating Muslim women or the religion," he can go pick amongst the numerous other religions out there. There is no compulsion in Islam. |
Re: Adulterer For Adulteress? Islamic Perspective Please by maclatunji: 12:57pm On Aug 03, 2011 |
Did you read my post properly? We are saying the same thing, I only mean she should have told him politely that she cannot marry him instead of trying to use the verse in that context. It is in bad taste. We are not fighting a battle of gender here. Relax! |
Re: Adulterer For Adulteress? Islamic Perspective Please by isalegan2: 1:02pm On Aug 03, 2011 |
I'm not fighting a gender war either, trust me on that. I only object to blaming the woman or using her decision/answer as an excuse for the man or anyone's future behaviour. Each person is responsible for himself. That is all I meant, and have, to say on the matter. Salaam. |
Re: Adulterer For Adulteress? Islamic Perspective Please by maclatunji: 1:05pm On Aug 03, 2011 |
You still haven't read my post properly. Okay, are you saying that quoting the verse to the brother as the basis of breaking-up with him was okay in this context? |
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