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"Divorced? Don't message.
Got kids? Don't message.
Plethora of female friends in or outside Nigeria? Do not message me.
Criminal background in or outside Nigeria? Do not message me."

Dear sister, with the listed criteria, no Nigerian man is available in 2022... unfortunately

I just sent you an email,I am interested.

Any man who is above 30 and sends u a message definitely has at least one of those baggages you listed. Good thing is, most baby daddies you find around are deadbeats so u won’t even notice they have kids already until far later in the relationship.

Solution: lower the bar so they can come clean

Making unrealistic demands at 35 You aint ready

StPete:
Any man who is above 30 and sends u a message definitely has at least one of those baggages you listed. Good thing is, most baby daddies you find around are deadbeats so u won’t even notice until far later in the relationship.

Solution: lower the bar so they can come clean

Almost splurted my drink!

You can reach me on plus2349029477510

Unknownknowns:
Nigerian background. American citizen. Recently hit mid-30s. Late bloomer in dating. Never married. No kids. Seeking calm, gentle, honest, goodhearted, Godfearing, truly single man, preferably abroad in North America or Europe or in the process of relocating abroad. Good communication skills a must.

Divorced? Don't message.
Got kids? Don't message.
Plethora of female friends in or outside Nigeria? Do not message me.
Criminal background in or outside Nigeria? Do not message me.

Persephone1:


See them dropping numbers and emails, hungry lots looking for a means to Japa.

The hustle is real

ednut1:
Making unrealistic demands at 35 You aint ready

What’s unrealistic about a single, childless, non-criminal oriented man? That’s like below the bar bare minimum.

cococandy:


What’s unrealistic about a single, childless, non-criminal oriented man? That’s like below the bar bare minimum.

a single man with those specs abroad and above 35 is not going to marry a 35 year old woman . Even older celebs like rita and funke akindele had to marry divorced men. Make una dey tell these babes reality

...most likely going to meet a fraud...

ednut1:
a single man with those specs abroad and above 35 is not going to marry a 35 year old woman . Even older celebs like rita and funke akindele had to marry divorced men. Make una dey tell these babes reality

Please educate her because you are truly not far from the truth.

Nothing is impossible, so all I can wish her is Goodluck.

ednut1:
a single man with those specs abroad and above 35 is not going to marry a 35 year old woman . Even older celebs like rita and funke akindele had to marry divorced men. Make una dey tell these babes reality

Is the not-divorced part the unrealistic expectation here? First let me say that I personally don’t see any issues with being divorced. I’m an advocate for quitting a non-viable marriage and I believe divorced people can find love again. But what’s unrealistic about a non divorced man in his 30s?

1) why would someone look for a relationship if they aren’t already single. That makes the single part of her requirement a common sense requirement.

2)And what’s difficult about not being a criminal? I want to believe the greater percentage of the population aren’t criminals.

So again, the too much she’s asking for here is that he not be divorced?

Most people always say choose better men but when women try to, you guys say they are asking for too much.

She’s in her 30s, she’s young!!! And she can definitely find someone her age or slightly older who fits her requirements. It happens all the time.

Y’all quit this nonsense rhetoric that tries to tell women that once they are no longer 20+ then they are worth nothing. It’s insanely mind-blowing misogynistic.

Men and women in their 30s get hooked to each other every Saturday and we all go dance and make merry but come online to tell women that if they over 30 they can’t expect to marry a single non-criminal oriented man.

She didn’t even ask him to be tall, rich and handsome. Lmao. And she didn’t have an age requirement either. I’ve seen men in their early 40s who have never been married. Those men are passing their prime and can’t be that choosy either. So if a woman in her 30s says yes, they are to be thankful

ecolime:

Please educate her because you are truly not far from the truth.

Nothing is impossible, so all I can wish her is Goodluck.

Takes a miracle to find a single childless man who’s not a criminal?

cococandy:


Takes a miracle to find a single childless man who’s not a criminal?

You have millions of them around, but how many would be interested in a 35year old woman? I'm on the assumption that the guy is also below 40.

Anyway, she didn't indicate the man's age. So there should be old Bachelors (40 to 50) ready to wife her. Goodluck in her search.

ecolime:

You have millions of them around, but how many would be interested in a 35year old woman?

A good number of the women you see get married each weekend are in their 30s. If I personally know more than 5 Nigerian women in their 30 get married this past couple of months, what does that tell you? People I went to school with. Late 20s to mid 30s all getting married like clockwork.

I don’t know why NL is a den of perpetuating false and unrealistic narratives. 30+ is increasingly the marriage age I’ve been noticing recently.

ecolime:


Anyway, she didn't indicate the man's age. So there should be old Bachelors (40 to 50) ready to wife her. Goodluck in her search.

Same way there are men in their 20s and 30s who will propose if they like her.

cococandy:


Same way there are men in their 20s and 30s who will propose if they like her.

Okay oo

ecolime:

Okay oo

I know it’s not very common for the 20s men but it happens . So? That being said she might not even want them anyway.
I’m 32 and I wouldn’t touch a man in his 20s with foot long pole. So it’s definitely a preference thing.

ednut1:
Making unrealistic demands at 35 You aint ready

What do you mean by at 35?
I’m sure you’re in your 30s too. Would you choose to end up with someone’s baby mama with criminal records and multiple ‘male friends’?
If you wouldn’t, why should she?

Don’t be this way please. She’s only seeking a responsible man and there’s nothing out of place with her request. Even people in their 40s find clean and never married non criminal spouses to be with.

I know someone that got married in her late 40s and her husband a decent and never married guy and marriage is waxing strong.


@Op, do not let anyone discourage you. Go for only what you can manage and you’ll find just what you seek.

ednut1:
a single man with those specs abroad and above 35 is not going to marry a 35 year old woman . Even older celebs like rita and funke akindele had to marry divorced men. Make una dey tell these babes reality

Lol, now I’ve given up.
Wanted to write on the experiences of people i know around but the confidence in your write up ee

cococandy:


Is the not-divorced part the unrealistic expectation here? First let me say that I personally don’t see any issues with being divorced. I’m an advocate for quitting a non-viable marriage and I believe divorced people can find love again. But what’s unrealistic about a non divorced man in his 30s?

1) why would someone look for a relationship if they aren’t already single. That makes the single part of her requirement a common sense requirement.

2)And what’s difficult about not being a criminal? I want to believe the greater percentage of the population aren’t criminals.

So again, the too much she’s asking for here is that he not be divorced?

Most people always say choose better men but when women try to, you guys say they are asking for too much.

She’s in her 30s, she’s young!!! And she can definitely find someone her age or slightly older who fits her requirements. It happens all the time.

Y’all quit this nonsense rhetoric that tries to tell women that once they are no longer 20+ then they are worth nothing. It’s insanely mind-blowing misogynistic.

Men and women in their 30s get hooked to each other every Saturday and we all go dance and make merry but come online to tell women that if they over 30 they can’t expect to marry a single non-criminal oriented man.

She didn’t even ask him to be talk, rich and handsome. Lmao. And she didn’t have an age requirement either. I’ve seen men in their early 40s who have never been married. Those men are passing their prime and can’t be that choosy either. So if a woman in her 30s says yes, they are to be thankful

Preach

ecolime:

You have millions of them around, but how many would be interested in a 35year old woman? I'm on the assumption that the guy is also below 40.

You'd be amazed.

ecolime:

You have millions of them around, but how many would be interested in a 35year old woman? I'm on the assumption that the guy is also below 40.

Anyway, she didn't indicate the man's age. So there should be old Bachelors (40 to 50) ready to wife her. Goodluck in her search.

Because SHE IS ABROAD for a start.

Abi is it not on this same Nairaland that men have been going to church in search of quality women?

This is one of your 30+ Nigerian brothers. He got married last weekend.

Jesus said something, " By strength shall no man prevail"
And that I am come that you may have life and have it abundantly.

Why don't you just go to Jesus, let him work on you and then plan your life for you?

For I tell you, if He is in charge.
He will arrange every thing in place at the right time.

Unknownknowns:
Nigerian background. American citizen. Recently hit mid-30s. Late bloomer in dating. Never married. No kids. Seeking calm, gentle, honest, goodhearted, Godfearing, truly single man, preferably abroad in North America or Europe or in the process of relocating abroad. Good communication skills a must.

Divorced? Don't message.
Got kids? Don't message.
Plethora of female friends in or outside Nigeria? Do not message me.
Criminal background in or outside Nigeria? Do not message me.

pocohantas:


Because SHE IS ABROAD for a start.

Abi is it not on this same Nairaland that men have been going to church in search of quality women?

This is one of your 30+ Nigerian brothers. He got married last weekend.

Poco, dem go still use fake Oriamo charger cord wipe you for back.

pocohantas:


Because SHE IS ABROAD for a start.

Abi is it not on this same Nairaland that men have been going to church in search of quality women?

This is one of your 30+ Nigerian brothers. He got married last weekend.

Pocohantas, where did you get these pictures from?


Hahahahahaha

So that very young oyinbo woman will be the one enjoying that well kept beard !

Why's the other brother there frowning?


See the way our brother is swallowing the young woman 's mouth in the name of kissing

Do men dig gold too?

cococandy:


A good number of the women you see get married each weekend are in their 30s. If I personally know more than 5 Nigerian women in their 30 get married this past couple of months, what does that tell you? People I went to school with. Late 20s to mid 30s all getting married like clockwork.

I don’t know why NL is a den of perpetuating false and unrealistic narratives. 30+ is increasingly the marriage age I’ve been noticing recently.

Your second paragraph is the reason I laughed going through the quality women thread. It is only on Nairaland that a woman in her thirties is an anathema and should not be touched with a long pole. Let's not talk about the other false narratives of how she was choosy in her twenties and have bleeped her life and destiny away.

Reasons I barely comment on threads of that nature. What's the point arguing, going back and forth with people whose twisted minds are made up about the lies they tell themselves.

pocohantas:


Because SHE IS ABROAD for a start.

Abi is it not on this same Nairaland that men have been going to church in search of quality women?

This is one of your 30+ Nigerian brothers. He got married last weekend.

I wish I could see you in person and truly wipe your back with charger cords.

You just like to dey give us hot hot sha

BTW, see pictures of some of our 35s too

doggedfighter:



Pocohantas, where did you get these pictures from?


Hahahahahaha

So that very young oyinbo woman will be the one enjoying that well kept beard !

Why's the other brother there frowning?


See the way our brother is swallowing the young woman 's mouth in the name of kissing

Do men dig gold too?

This is an era of equal opportunities. They not only dig it, they mine it.