“Yeah, yeah, I am the Ezenwanyi (the queen),” she yelled. “After me nobody will commit adultery again in this town. I have been sent on a mission,” she turned hysterical and continued yelling as she scattered her well-fitted hair weave-on.

The crowd surged forward until she wanted to do the unimaginable. One of her wrappers fell off her waist and she went further to remove the other one to reveal her underwear. The crowd roared, some out of excitement while others cringed at what was unfolding.

It was like a Nollywood film location where the cast and crew were recording a scene to depict a young woman that suddenly ran mad at the market square. The only difference this time is that no camera was rolling, and it was not make-believe. It was happening live and the location was Nkwo Aji village junction in Enugu-Ezike, Igbo-Eze North local government area of Enugu State.

On enquiry, this reporter was told that the woman at the centre of the drama, who is in her late twenties, was married to a businessman based in Nnewi, Anambra State. They were blessed with three children and things went on smoothly in the family until tongues started wagging that she was allegedly seen in compromising positions with some young men. It got a climax one day after serving her husband dinner and she started behaving funny. Before one could say Enugu-Ezike, she started destroying valuable property inside their apartment.

Eyewitness account said that the house became too “hot” for her, to the extent that the clothes she wore were like coals of fire on her body. The husband summoned courage and with the help of other brothers in Nnewi brought her home. Immediately she stepped her foot on their compound, she went wild.

As if possessed by an invisible force, she overran everybody and went to the local village deity known as Enokpa and began to roll on the ground confessing all she “did” with other men. The family members, including her husband, searched for her throughout the day until the next morning when she was spotted at the village market junction acting like a mentally deranged person. From there, she was taken to the house of the eldest man in the village where all the necessary rituals were done and she regained sanity.

This is a true-life encounter among hundreds of cases of other married women in Enugu-Ezike that suffered momentary “madness” after engaging in extra-marital affair. Sunday Sun reporter gathered that it is considered a taboo in this part of Enugu State for a married woman to “know” another man other than the husband and for any married man to also sleep with another man’s wife in the town. This is an age-long tradition with terrible consequences for those who go against the unwritten rule. Any attempt to kiss or touch a married woman’s waist attracts the same consequences, and both Christians and non-Christians are bound by the rules.

A town and its unique culture
Enugu-Ezike comprises of 36 villages in Igbo-Eze North local government area in the Nsukka senatorial zone of Enugu State.
The town has common boundaries with Benue and Kogi states. On the north is Etteh, a non-Igbo-speaking community in Enugu State. On the north-east side is Ofante while on the north-west flank are Amaka and Akpanya communities in Benue State. On its boundary to the south is Ibagwa-Aka, the headquarters of Igbo-Eze South local government while on the south-west is Alor Agu, Unadu and Itchi. On the south-east lies Iheaka, Ovoko and Obollo Afor, the headquarters of Udenu local government area.

Oral traditional legends as documented by the late John Arji in the book “Enugu-Ezike in world history” revealed that the name Enugu-Ezike originated from Idah in Kogi State. Ezike, according to the story, was the eldest of the three children of the then Attah of Igalla, who migrated from his home in Idah to Elugwu (Hill top) where he settled.

His two other relations were Eekpa (also a man) and Omoka, the only woman among them. According to the story, these three persons were born of the same mother as their father married many wives. The Attah of Igalla was highly influential and respected then. One day, Eekpa, Ezike’s younger brother committed adultery with one of his father’s wives. As was the custom of the entire Igalla kingdom, such a heinous crime was punishable by outright sell-out, banishment or in most cases, death. The Attah represented the custodian of the people’s culture and must set example, especially in handing of the matter.

Ezike was said to have had compassion on his blood relation, Eekpa, whom he believed would receive instant punishment. He, being a hunter, was advised by his fellow hunters to device a means of saving the life of his brother, who was practically in danger of death. Ezike, bent on saving Eekpa, took his brother and sister, Omoku, secretly to a far place called Ogugu, which is today the name of a village with common boundaries with Etteh and Umuopu villages in Enugu-Ezike.

During the reign of the Attah of Igala, adultery, which caused Ezike and his relations to flee, normally attracted serious penalty and it was said that Ezike, the progenitor, before joining his ancestors, instituted the same traditional law in Enugu-Ezike and made it binding on all indigenes of the town. Till date, if one commits adultery, he or she must confess same publicly and only the eldest man (Onyeishi) in such village has the right to handle the matter. A spirit of adultery called Ndishi was usually appeased by the eldest man otherwise Ndishi would cause either death or madness to the violator.

Origin of the tradition
The stool for the eldest man in Enugu-Ezike known as Onyeishi is non-contestable. It is widely believed that old men in each village already know who is older than the other even though they may not have the exact recorded dates of births. They were expected to have interacted with each other during their youthful days.

This reporter gathered that another reason the position was never contestable was the general belief that anyone who ascended the throne as a result of greed or sharp practices normally died before or within months after installation. Ali Nwa Adonu from Mkpamute Ulo village is the reigning Onyeishi Enugu Ezike. Several times Sunday Sun reporter visited his compound but could not secure appointment for a an interview owing to various village matters pending on his table.

However, the momentary madness encounter at Aji village witnessed by this reporter provided a an opportunity that eventually led to an appointment with Elder Mamaja Agada, the Onyeishi of Aji village. Onyeishi Mamaja not only gave a historical account of the Ndishi phenomenon in Enugu-Ezike but also graphic details of how those affected by the spirit can be set free.

“Ndishi is a spiritual being in Enugu-Ezike land, which can be seen only by those that violate the laws of the land as regards fidelity. It has been in existence even before I was born. My own father told me it has been there even before the 17th century and it was instituted by our great father, Ezike Oba, the progenitor of Enugu-Ezike people for many reasons even as you can see that it is for the benefit of all of us.

“We have lots of cultural heritage, which will remain forever binding on any child of Ezike-Oba. But the most serious of them all that can even lead to death is this Ndishi issue, which involves extra-marital affair with another man’s wife or even an obvious attempt or intention to do that by kissing or having your hand across her waist, which attracts the same penalty as sex.

“This is binding on all Ezike-Oba descendants even outside the shores of this town, including overseas and on any woman married to an Enugu-Ezike indigene from any part of the world. Once a lady’s bride price has been paid, she is no more available for any other man apart from the husband. But if another man rapes her, it will turn around and deal with the rapist. This one is called Adaka onyeorukpo in our local dialect.

“Also a widow in Enugu-Ezike cannot be in his husband’s house and befriend another man unless she lives in a separate house away from the man’s compound. Any overt or covert attempt to do this results in the death of the woman’s first son.”

How the gods are appeased
Apart from extra-marital affairs, Sunday Sun learnt that married women are forbidden to give men money either as a gift or borrowing without the knowledge of the husband. Buying of property by a married woman in the name of her brothers without informing the husband also leads to the “arrest by Ndishi.”

Onyeishi Agada gave further insight into how the gods are appeased to avert death and cure the momentary madness of the affected person. He said: “There are processes of reconciliation and restitution but it affects the personality of the people involved. The first step is for the woman/man to confess openly that she engaged in such and must pronounce the name(s) of the person(s) involved in such act.

“After this, certain rituals are done with palm wine, yams, kola nut and goat as stipulated by the people. The woman will also submit the clothes she wore on the day she committed the act to the Onyeishi. If these measures are not taken urgently, the person will be killed by something only he or she can see and cannot be seen by other free people around. The Ndishi spirit normally manifests by forcefully pulling out the person’s tongue, stiffening of neck like somebody suffering from cerebral spinal meningitis, madness and in extreme cases death.

“It should be stressed too that the Ndishi will catch the man (husband) and kill him leaving the woman (wife) if she told the husband what happened or the man had the slightest idea that the wife was unfaithful but didn’t act immediately by saying “Ndishi nso” or the woman tried to reveal it to the man but the man out of carelessness failed to understand the signs and proceeded to sleep with her or eat her food. For instance, sometimes when your wife keeps telling you that a particular man is being unusually kind to her, don’t take it for granted. Rather investigate whether such kindness is without any strings attached.

This is because sometimes if it didn’t result immediately, it can suddenly happen and cause incurable madness to the person that may see to the end of his/her life.
“The man whose wife was caught by Ndishi spirit stays away from the scene during the confession. He is also not allowed to taste or eat the items used to appease the gods. Some have tried it and died instantly and such incident happened recently in Umuogbo Ulo village. It is the husband‘s sister that conveys/relays one by one to him, names those mentioned by the unfaithful wife who slept with her. Any single omission of names wilfully or unintentionally renders the whole restitution exercise null and void. The sand is normally raised from the ground and thrown into the air by the confessor to signify that it is finished and to include both remembered and omitted names if not the madness may remain incurable.”

Men are allowed to keep mistresses
Another subject of discussion that has trailed the issue of “Ndishi” in Enugu Ezike land is the argument by some elite that the progenitor of the tradition made it to keep Ezike women in perpetual subjugation while the men are allowed to “sample” ladies other than their wives. Sunday Sun investigation, which was confirmed by Onyeishi Mamaja Agada, revealed that Enugu-Ezike men are only forbidden from sleeping with married woman but are free to have a harem of girlfriends/concubines or mistresses.

Some clever women from Enugu-Ezike challenged this ‘anomaly’ and experimented only to see instant consequences. Those in this category were alleged to have prepared charms to “blind” the spirit of Ndishi so that they can also experiment.
However, recent happenings in the town revealed that this set of people only postponed the doomsday as they only succeeded in making their own public confession and “madness” so weighty and topic of discussion on every lips.

Unlike others the Ndishi spirit caught in one encounter, those in the latter category reportedly ran mad across the market square during confession and also had to contend with the shame of mentioning the names of 10 to 17 men they had illicit affairs with.
Recently, a female spiritualist based in Onitsha, a native of Aji village and married to a man from Umuopu village, was “arrested” by the Ndishi spirit. It was alleged that she initiated other women of her ilk into a club where they engage in extra-marital affairs and come out unscathed. However, the day of reckoning suddenly came and she started acting funny.

Before her case degenerated to full-scale madness, she reportedly called her husband aside and began to confess to him to save face. Ndishi suddenly “arrested” the husband and afflicted him with a mysterious sickness. Other family members got wind of the ugly development and took both of them to the village for the necessary rituals. The woman went wild on getting home as she reeled out about 18 names. The necessary rituals were done and she regained sanity while the husband is still in coma at the time of filing this report.

The Enokpa deity connection
Sunday Sun also gathered that several villages in Enugu-Ezike have different deities that serve as points of contact for the gods and the spirit of Ndishi to arrest any transgressor of the laws of the land. Apparently disturbed that some women have devised the means of “blinding” the Ndishi spirit from arresting them when they indulge in extra-marital affairs, some custodians of these deities took a decision and made sacrifices to fortify the power of Ndishi.

Among the 36 villages in Enugu-Ezike, Ozzi community comprising of 17 villages, and Essodo made up of six communities are areas the efficacy of the Ndishi is felt instantly. At Aji village, a herbalist Nkpozi Simon Odo (the man with 48 wives and 168 children whose story was published in Sunday Sun on October 24, 2010) reportedly visited the village deity known as Enokpa with cows for sacrifice and told the deity to “wake” up and do the job. As if to add fillip to the story, suddenly many married women residing in various parts of the country began to fall as cases of returning home to confess became so rampant.

Speaking on this development, an elder in Ogrute village, Ovute Omeh told our reporter that the Ndishi phenomenon is a good omen for the society that has degenerated in morality. He regretted that the loss of moral values and recourse to loose lifestyles have assumed a dangerous trend in the society that if not for the known implications associated with such acts, some Enugu-Ezike women would have gone to the extent of employing their husband’s younger brothers to “service” them without batting an eyelid on what the society may say.

“For the fact that once you do such public confession, your dignity is gone forever has made many people to zip up,” he said.
This reporter also visited the Enokpa deity. Located at the hilly part of the village known as Ugwu Aji, it is a shrine with a wooden effigy domiciled in a one room zink-roofed building with the frontage open for public gaze. Assorted pieces of cloth in different colors dot the inside. On the building was inscribed: “This is Enokpa (Inikpa), Aji’s mother.”

Something bizarre happened on the said day as all efforts by this reporter to get a pictorial view of the deity proved abortive. A digital camera that was used to take pictures nearby suddenly turned blank on focusing on the shrine but returned to normal when other objects were focused on.
Ezike women turn beautiful brides

The story of the spirit of Ndishi and Enugu-Ezike women as regards marital fidelity has been subject of discussion among people from different states in the South East geopolitical zone of Nigeria. This has led to an unprecedented rush by eligible bachelors outside Enugu State to seek for prospective brides from the community. Some people who spoke with Sunday Sun described marrying an Enugu-Ezike woman as a natural antidote against marital infidelity while others countered such belief, saying faithfulness in marriage is a matter of personal decision and orientation irrespective of where one comes from.

Ejike Okeke, an indigene of Oraukwu in Anambra State and a businessman at the Onitsha main market, told Sunday Sun that initially it was the curiosity to know more about the culture of Enugu-Ezike people based on stories he had heard that made him fall in love with a lady from Umuiyida village in Enugu-Ezike. Today they are happily married with four children and, according to him, “my wife has not only proved to be a faithful wife but also such a humble woman.”

Though people of Enugu-Ezike are usually conservative in matters of marriage as they generally intermarry within the communities, investigation by Sunday Sun revealed that in recent times that reservation has given way to cross-cultural and trans-national marriages as many of their women now marry outside the town. Recently, a Togolese citizen conveyed his people all the way from Lome to marry a wife at Umuodeje area of Aji village.

The people react/position of the church
Some educated indigenes of Enugu-Ezike who spoke to Sunday Sun in Onitsha and Enugu still lamented that the Ndishi tradition was skewed from the outset to keep their women under perpetual domination while their men are allowed to philander. Nkechi Itodo, a lawyer, reasoned that although adultery or extra-marital affair is morally wrong, it is unjustifiable that married men in Enugu-Ezike date unmarried ladies and flaunt it while their female counterparts dare not try it.

Perpmario Ebere, a teacher and Marian devotee, went a notch higher as she told this reporter that she has taken it as a challenge to involve her fellow prayer warriors so that irrespective of the Ndishi spirit, all those who desecrate their marital vows shall be exposed whether male or female.
Also speaking, the Diocesan Dean of Clergy in Nsukka Diocese and Parish Priest, Immaculate Heart Parish, Aji, Rev Fr. Chibundu Omeje, condemned the practice of subjecting people to ritual cleansing to be free from the consequences of adultery.

“It is established that all religious creeds forbid adultery. The Bible, which is the holy book of Christians, also made it clear in Exodus 20:14, Deuteronomy 5:18 and other relevant verses. However, should one fall into occasions of sin, there are ways of reconciliation and penance instead of relying on public confession and fetish practices,” he said.



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I WISH THIS GOD SHOULD GO FOR ANY IGBO WOMAN NOT JUST ENUGU EZIKE INDIGENOUS WOMEN

so dis old beliefs are still effective

The lunatic who posted this in the Politics section is no less insane than the woman described in the OP.
Can't you dolts read?

Ibo people are too primitive.

Honestly, this should be extended to all igbo land. It seems the oracles in most parts of igbo land have gone to sleep with the advent of christianity. Enugu ezike still have a large pagan community but i like the custom

abouzaid:

Honestly, this should be extended to all igbo land. It seems the oracles in most parts of igbo land have gone to sleep with the advent of christianity. Enugu ezike still have a large pagan community but i like the custom

You are right, as it stand now, that means if you marry a girl from enugu ezike you got noting to worry peace of mind at list,

Christianity and westernization has dealt a great blow to morality of the society. If cultures like this were sustained in our land, the land would've been a principled and progressive place. In my place, if a woman indulges in extra-marital and husband finds out without sending her packing, the moment that husband eats from that woman's dish, the man will get sick immediately.

Bullshit!!Men can cheat but women cannot.Anyway,if I was from that area,I'd sacrifice myself to make the diety which catches the cheating men or permanently erase that which catches women.As my hubby will say "check all the traditions and cultures that are anti- women and u'll see its men who made them for men's benefit".And mehn,is that true.

Lexoria: Bullshit!!Men can cheat but women cannot.Anyway,if I was from that area,I'd sacrifice myself to make the diety which catches the cheating men or permanently erase that which catches women.As my hubby will say "check all the traditions and cultures that are anti- women and u'll see its men who made them for men's benefit".And mehn,is that true.

No one should cheat ... .. but in the process of cheating, only one (woman) could get pregnant!

Unfortunately, it was man that was "made" from dust ...like the erudite Prof. Wole Soyinka will say, "Women were made as an appendage.. from a man's rib"!
How would the "sub" be better than the "original"? Abi you wan say God no get sense again?

It was also the woman that sinned ab initio, only to tempt the man along, as an accomplice!

Finally, there is a Yoruba cliche which says "let a woman walk and urinate simultaneously while walking.... and let a man do the same thing ...and lets see who will have all his/her legs soaked in Urine"! (Literally translated).

Your guess is as good as mine on that one.

Its not about being "anti-women" or "made-for-men"...
Man and Woman are NOT the same, dont think with same side of the brain, dont grow in the same pattern, dont look alike (except those gays!), dont react to situations alike, ..and you can go on forever!

But then, each one has its own "unique role" to play in the society in a way that is complimentary and most beneficial to the society!

The moment we recognize and adjust to these principles, the better we become.

Lastpage!

Lexoria: Bullshit!!Men can cheat but women cannot.Anyway,if I was from that area,I'd sacrifice myself to make the diety which catches the cheating men or permanently erase that which catches women.As my hubby will say "check all the traditions and cultures that are anti- women and u'll see its men who made them for men's benefit".And mehn,is that true.

My dear, you are very correct. I wonder why this deity will not catch men who commit the same offence. When a culture truncates the natural law of equity, the society suffers. Is there any wonder why we keep running round the same point? Visit any community that upholds that kind of culture and you will see the fruits of injustice everywhere.

Crap

lastpage:

No one should cheat ... .. but in the process of cheating, only one (woman) could get pregnant!

Unfortunately, it was man that was "made" from dust ...like the erudite Prof. Wole Soyinka will say, "Women were made as an appendage.. from a man's rib"!
How would the "sub" be better than the "original"? Abi you wan say God no get sense again?

It was also the woman that sinned ab initio, only to tempt the man along, as an accomplice!

Finally, there is a Yoruba cliche which says "let a woman walk and urinate simultaneously while walking.... and let a man do the same thing ...and lets see who will have all his/her legs soaked in Urine"! (Literally translated).

Your guess is as good as mine on that one.

Its not about being "anti-women" or "made-for-men"...
Man and Woman are NOT the same, dont think with same side of the brain, dont grow in the same pattern, dont look alike (except those gays!), dont react to situations alike, ..and you can go on forever!

But then, each one has its own "unique role" to play in the society in a way that is complimentary and most beneficial to the society!

The moment we recognize and adjust to these principles, the better we become.

Lastpage!

Noted. Location locked down for a new wify.

Predictably, dubious women are beginning to run their mouths here about the "unjustness" of this WONDERFUL deity. The most important area they want "equality" with men is the right to be promiscuous. Does that not tell you that virtue is a burden to most of these pretenders? They don't want equality in sharing financial responsibilities, spending in relationships, wooing the opposite sex, engaging in manual labour, and other key areas where men are expected to take the lead. Women don't want 'justice' in these vital areas, yet they don't want to take the lead in faithfulness. The most important thing for them is to have equal right to f**k whoever they want to f**k, even while married or in a relationship in which the men bear all the financial burden! That to them is 'equality'.

Too bad this amazing deity cannot be nationalised, it would have been Enugu's greatest contribution to national peace and development.

lastpage:

Finally, there is a Yoruba cliche which says "let a woman walk and urinate simultaneously while walking.... and let a man do the same thing ...and lets see who will have all his/her legs soaked in Urine"! (Literally translated).

Your guess is as good as mine on that one.

Its not about being "anti-women" or "made-for-men"...
Man and Woman are NOT the same, dont think with same side of the brain, dont grow in the same pattern, dont look alike (except those gays!), dont react to situations alike, ..and you can go on forever!

But then, each one has its own "unique role" to play in the society in a way that is complimentary and most beneficial to the society!

The moment we recognize and adjust to these principles, the better we become.

Lastpage!

Thank you sir. Unfortunately, they would never understand this.

Onyegecha:


My dear, you are very correct. I wonder why this deity will not catch men who commit the same offence. When a culture truncates the natural law of equity, the society suffers. Is there any wonder why we keep running round the same point? Visit any community that upholds that kind of culture and you will see the fruits of injustice everywhere.

Lexoria: Bullshit!!Men can cheat but women cannot.Anyway,if I was from that area,I'd sacrifice myself to make the diety which catches the cheating men or permanently erase that which catches women.As my hubby will say "check all the traditions and cultures that are anti- women and u'll see its men who made them for men's benefit".And mehn,is that true.

True words!

I've heard about this tradition. The consequence is that ladies from that area get promiscious in their youth, as its the only window of opportunity they have

lastpage:

No one should cheat ... .. but in the process of cheating, only one (woman) could get pregnant!

Unfortunately, it was man that was "made" from dust ...like the erudite Prof. Wole Soyinka will say, "Women were made as an appendage.. from a man's rib"!
How would the "sub" be better than the "original"? Abi you wan say God no get sense again?

It was also the woman that sinned ab initio, only to tempt the man along, as an accomplice!

Finally, there is a Yoruba cliche which says "let a woman walk and urinate simultaneously while walking.... and let a man do the same thing ...and lets see who will have all his/her legs soaked in Urine"! (Literally translated).

Your guess is as good as mine on that one.

Its not about being "anti-women" or "made-for-men"...
Man and Woman are NOT the same, dont think with same side of the brain, dont grow in the same pattern, dont look alike (except those gays!), dont react to situations alike, ..and you can go on forever!

But then, each one has its own "unique role" to play in the society in a way that is complimentary and most beneficial to the society!

The moment we recognize and adjust to these principles, the better we become.

Lastpage!

you captured it so well Mr lastpage. I have always have Respect for disciplined ladies who in a society where morality is seen as old school still keeps the flag flying. I wanna raise such daughters and sons who understands Respect, discipline,loyality and what the term family truely means. I have 10% chance of achieving such by merely looking around at the quantity of ladies that abound. I mean no disrespect for such quality ladies but my fear is that such ladies are endangered species.

I need a wife from that area. Am dead serious.

wow... I remember watching a cultural video of that town, so devilish......though on the article Akpanya is in Kogi State and not Benue

Very nice one. I hope it doesn't affect the men sha and I wish I would be extended all over nigeria

Ekpo nka owo..... lol

pro01: Predictably, dubious women are beginning to run their mouths here about the "unjustness" of this WONDERFUL deity. The most important area they want "equality" with men is the right to be promiscuous. Does that not tell you that virtue is a burden to most of these pretenders? They don't want equality in sharing financial responsibilities, spending in relationships, wooing the opposite sex, engaging in manual labour, and other key areas where men are expected to take the lead. Women don't want 'justice' in these vital areas, yet they don't want to take the lead in faithfulness. The most important thing for them is to have equal right to f**k whoever they want to f**k, even while married or in a relationship in which the men bear all the financial burden! That to them is 'equality'.

Too bad this amazing deity cannot be nationalised, it would have been Enugu's greatest contribution to national peace and development.



Thank you sir. Unfortunately, they would never understand this.

Men and women are not the same. They are created differently but none is superior to the other. It is against nature to act as if one was made to be a slave to the other. Allow the law of natural justice to shape your thoughts and you will grow an inch taller in every facet of life.

^^ DAYUMMMMMMN!!! Yuzedo Is Upstair, Am Downstair

According to African culture, a man can marry as many wives as he can handle while a woman stays true to only one man.
The Enugu Ezike idol also torments any man that engages in any sexual act with any married woman, so I can't find any injustice in it.

So, UNRELIABLE women should stop running their mouth.

Uche4eck: According to African culture, a man can marry as many wives as he can handle while a woman stays true to only one man.
The Enugu Ezike idol also torments any man that engages in any sexual act with any married woman, so I can't find any injustice in it.

So, UNRELIABLE women should stop running their mouth.

If you brand people unreliable because they stated the obvious, logical truth, then you cannot be relied upon to handle serious issues that border on maturity and social responsibility.

[quote author=pro01]Predictably, dubious women are beginning to run their mouths here about the "unjustness" of this WONDERFUL deity. The most important area they want "equality" with men is the right to be promiscuous. Does that not tell you that virtue is a burden to most of these pretenders? They don't want equality in sharing financial responsibilities, spending in relationships, wooing the opposite sex, engaging in manual labour, and other key areas where men are expected to take the lead. Women don't want 'justice' in these vital areas, yet they don't want to take the lead in faithfulness. The most important thing for them is to have equal right to f**k whoever they want to f**k, even while married or in a relationship in which the men bear all the financial burden! That to them is 'equality'.

Too bad this amazing deity cannot be nationalised, it would have been Enugu's greatest contribution to national peace and development.



Spot on!!

Onyegecha:

If you brand people unreliable because they stated the obvious, logical truth, then you cannot be relied upon to handle serious issues that border on maturity and social responsibility.

Coming to African setting, I don't see anything logical in what these women are arguing. You can't repair what is not spoilt.

What is the history of the nso ala, I mean how did it come to an existent. And what was the reason?

Coming to African setting, I don't see anything logical in what these women are arguing. You can't repair what is not spoilt.[/quote]

175:
I need a wife from that area. Am dead serious.

Contact me...i can help you.

Onyegecha:




Men and women are not the same. They are created differently but none is superior to the other. It is against nature to act as if one was made to be a slave to the other. Allow the law of natural justice to shape your thoughts and you will grow an inch taller in every facet of life.

Madam, you're beating about the bush. Who said anything about anyone being a slave to the other? Oh, is it too much to ask that women should take the lead in faithfulness (since men take the lead in numerous other areas)? Since you agree that women and men are not the same, why is it difficult for you to understand why women are expected to be faithful (when married), while men are permitted to have multiple affairs if they can afford to?

Besides, what do you mean by "natural justice"? Would it not be natural justice for women and men to share every responsibility and every 'privilege' equally - assuming the right to extra-marital affairs is a privilege? If a woman woos me (spending good money on me in the process), pays my 'groom price', marries me, and works hard to put food on my table and pay household bills (rents, children's school fees, etc)., I'm not sure I would want to be "equal" with her in terms of promiscuity - if she decides to be promiscuous. Life is all about trade offs. Natural justice isn't about having the best of both worlds - or having your cake and eating it too.