fineboynl:
One of the problem with dating a single mother is bills that will be tie to that child, you just can't escape them. Although Dating every Nigerian girl as a young guy one must face bills either you like it or not.

But the one from single mother is something else that most guys can't handle when they are still young without any child yet.

The only thing about single mother is that they are easy and don't cause much trouble for the guy. It maybe due to the fact they are way out of the dating game competition and as a single mother that will tame them down to be loyal and respectful. It's kind of crazy when the father of the child is elsewhere. And the mother want you to chest some bill for them when you are fresh single without any child yet.

Persephone1:
Only on Nl is marrying or dating a single mother is an abomination.

MALIGNANTGuest:


There are far good single mothers than virgins. There are good virgins too.
Everything boils down to a woman who makes you release enough dopamine on sighting her.
But avoid Leeches! They're never good! They liquidate & have no single sense of replacement

Exactly! I pity those who take threads like this seriously. People like op would make mouth here to do another offline. Few weeks ago a guy opened a thread on how he is dating a single mother with three kids and he is getting possessive. not long after another opened a thread on his single mother not giving him attention. I come dey wonder if Nl users are not Nigerians who spite single mothers

dawnomike:
According to your opinion... Not all single mothers are broke

dawnomike:
According to your opinion... Not all single mothers are broke

fineboynl:
One of the problem with dating a single mother is bills that will be tie to that child, you just can't escape them. Although Dating every Nigerian girl as a young guy one must face bills either you like it or not.

But the one from single mother is something else that most guys can't handle when they are still young without any child yet.

The only thing about single mother is that they are easy and don't cause much trouble for the guy. It maybe due to the fact they are way out of the dating game competition and as a single mother that will tame them down to be loyal and respectful. It's kind of crazy when the father of the child is elsewhere. And the mother want you to chest some bill for them when you are fresh single without any child yet.

yemmit90:
The only single mother a single guy should date or marry is the one that's lost her husband to death. Don't venture into that journey from the beginning of your life. You can date but don't marry the ones that their husbands are somewhere enjoying life, while you work your ass out to sponsor the children they will come and claim someday.

Single dad, divorcees, widowers, elderly men can marry them though.

ZIMDRILL:


why is that black people we always want help only were benefit?

what about helping in showing love and care ?

We only help were we benefit ? do you think if you raised that child with love and care they will
forget you ? Nope you would given them
something that their father never managed to five them

yemmit90:


I don't think you understand my post. As a bachelor, there is nothing wrong if you marry or take care of a widow children and children from motherless homes, but everything is wrong if you chose at early stage of your life to start taking care of irresponsible man children, who will still come and reap where he did not sow in future.

Hope you get the point now.

ZIMDRILL:


you are still repeating the same thing

those kids you raise out of love, do you think if you raise them well they forget about you like that and simply go to irresponsible father?

Explain how a responsible father will
reap what he didnt saw? Will be the children like stones were one can just pick them and take them home?

If you raise those kids well they will value you more than the absent parent

yemmit90:


You need more experience about real life situations to understand my point.

If you want an answer, marry one, train her children and stop them from going to their real father in future. People like you learn from experience, which is very good sometimes. I will say no more about this sir.


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ZIMDRILL:


You see you are creating a negative scenario to fit your point of view "train her children and stop them from going to their real father"

why would you stop them? like am
saying if raise them right they will treat you right

The problem with people of your mindset you take kids as investment hence what is love and care is secondary hence you fear raising someone child because you want your investment back

Your view is based on fear becoz you want to reap on children, whereas some people are comfortable on raising out of love

Your fear is very common among africans hence you find that we generally dont adopt

fineboynl:
Ok what he meant he is not ready for that now. And if he does he knows where to look for someone to help. A young man without kid do you think his parent will be happy for him to cater for another man child when he is yet to get is own?