Hello there, please i need your advice on this matter, my boyfriend and i have been dating for seven years now, in those years we had a child. The big problem we have is my mother, she does not want me to marry him. Now my bf wants us to do a court marriage. After the court marriage i intend to keep it secret until after sometime. Is it wise?

Please explain further,why your mother does not want you to marry a man whom you already have an issue for?
More facts are needed,please.

No u cant conduct a marriage without d knowledge of ur mum or parent,knowing she has her season for not wantin u both
to be married. Betterstill u can call on d attension of her best friend or people she listens to (like leader in the church), ask dem to plead on your behalf so she can see reasons with u why u want to marry the man, since He is stil interested in u. The blessing of a mother is important in your marriage Good luck.

If u love tihs man why not ? Wait again, why doesn't your mom approve of him ?

I Thank you all for your comments, basically from what my mother says that he is from the east, he is tempermental, he is not rich. I have asked her why she does not want to approve him if there is maybe something but i dont get a reply. So i dont know what to do i think i have waited enough.

@OP
As you already have a child for this man, you people can go ahead and marry. You will do well to get people your mother respects to speak to her on your behalf.

He is has a hot temper then I don't blame your mom. She sees the potential of an abuser in him. Has he hit you in the past? I still don't understand why you want to secretly wed him though. How old are the both of you by the way?

Though we need to put our parents decisions into consideration, sometimes we need to be happy with our lives and do what we like. If you love your man and you even have a child with him then why not marry him, unless if your mother has a good reason, go a head and marry him.

Outstrip:

He is has a hot temper then I don't blame your mom. She sees the potential of an abuser in him.

Did you not see this:

Tiana155:

basically from what my mother says he is not rich.

Your mother only wants a rich son-in-law without caring about your feelings and ur baby.
Her reasons appears selfish.
How come most poor mothers wants rich sons in laws?
Follow your heart.

It is wise to take your mothers' concerns into consideration and wiser to take God's concerns into consideration, marraige is far different from relationships, my problem is his (fiance) temper, if he cannot control that, then there is going to be a bigger problem tomorrow, if you think that his temperament is not an issue, make your mum understand your reason for marrying him, especially since you have a child for him, would be wise to have all your children by the same man,