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Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by Justkatty(f): 10:03am On Jan 04, 2023 |
Afodot0022:So sorry I didn't know they were girls and that alone should be the reason why she should restrategies and think of something else to do,to atleast bring her closer to her girls because of how evil the world is today. Please for the sake of the kids and your mom please forgive her fully , I know it's not very easy to do that but please try and I just hope she doesn't gets distracted again because of any rubbish thing. God will see you through Always remember no marriage is perfect, forget everything you see online. Just keep watering your own. 1 Like |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by 4ward4: 10:24am On Jan 04, 2023 |
I feel your pain OP. The worst part of all this is that ,her salary might not be up to 100k Considering her educational qualifications. To be a man is complicated and uttermost wisdom is needed in handling issues . Number 1 and most importantly is home running monetarily. Letting her work with such poor qualification was your mistake, she will definitely flirt to argument her poor pay, Considering Lunch and transport fare. It might be an innocent flirt ,but she will definitely do. Your solution is simple, take her on a Trade. Take a loan and establish her...Discuss this intensively with Her and make a comprehensive business plan ,that will entice her. Show her how to make more money than the little salary she earns. Divorce and those shouting out of points aren't conversant with Marriage reality. If you like go pick another wife, and same might befall you . If you don't plan for your woman properly. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by BATified2023: 10:35am On Jan 04, 2023 |
Tokskob2008:women will always have plan B At this point op said she made it clear she was willing to quit the job meaning she would have gotten enough sugar daddy numbers by that time n when she’s out of job she can always give excuses to go out n meet them which will still b d same thing n at that stage she won’t even help d op cos she will make it clear she’s not working n she won’t want to drop money so op won’t b suspicious So I guess d op should just let her keep working n just live like closed neighbors cos once she goes for 6 months course in Enugu that’s an official permission to do whatever she likes |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by BATified2023: 11:00am On Jan 04, 2023 |
Afodot0022:sorry u keep hammering cheating but did they have any sexual affair ? If it’s still flirt chat u can reprimand her which is normal but still keeping it in mind will break d marriage in d long run If they didn’t have sex u can still take measures that will help d family especially as a man, with the way u are going any small pressure will break d marriage especially from your end 1 Like |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by BATified2023: 11:10am On Jan 04, 2023 |
Afodot0022:I pity u bros with what I have read here just tell her to stop d work asap I was thinking she’s earning better money How can someone b earning 32k with 2k tfare everyday which is a loss already n still b giving u issues U can get small loan or change n look for a better junction where she can b selling snacks with fried yam,fried fish, n co Everything should b under 150k 2 Likes |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by BATified2023: 11:14am On Jan 04, 2023 |
4ward4:divorce is not even in d picture if op really wants to help himself 2 Likes |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by Afodot0022(m): 11:20am On Jan 04, 2023 |
My brother i have never been this pained in my entire life. I felt it to my born marrow. The mistake i made was granting her permission to go for the job which i am regretting now. She entered with SSCE qualification as a level four and her pay is 38k with deduction what she earn is 32k. Imagine a govt worker earn such amount in this dispensations. Her tfar to work montly is close to 55k, just imagine, despite the inconveniences the job brings to the homes, its not even helping financially but rather taking from me again. So frustrating.. the only option is her to go and stay close to her office with the kids but what is my own faith here as a married man with the issue of trust on ground. She has tried business bfore but didn't work reason she opted for this job but we never knew what we were going into then. It messed everything up. It was during this job she started relating with another man and reason she did was to get money to augment her tfare money. Its keeps getting crazy with this woman i married and seems am already loosing it. 4ward4: |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by Afodot0022(m): 11:25am On Jan 04, 2023 |
Well the cheating wasnt already sexual but still emotional. How do u feel your wife telling a guy she loves him and misses him so much and remember every emotional affairs have tendencies to lead to sexual. If not that i came and disrupt what they were doing then, that guy might have had his way with my wife. U know woman can be vulnerable when they are emotionally attached to something. BATified2023: |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by Sammy07: 12:45pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
Afodot0022: Why will she be earning 32k? Government job? And BTW Going through your threads, You married wrongly, the foundation of the marriage is faulty 1 Like |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by Sweetvie: 12:45pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
Bruh, for me I think you're the only one in that marriage. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by Konjiboii: 12:49pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
That's how women are naturally once they start making small money they lose control and their true nature get exposed. This is why women in power is a dangerous thing that should never happen. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by femoomo(m): 12:49pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
Meandmycrew: |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by everythinggirly(f): 12:49pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
Omo, this one choke. |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by Yankiss(m): 12:55pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
Zonefree:It's obvious he doesnt know what he wants. He has to choose between that job and his marriage. The woman obviously need to leave that job. It's SIMPle 8 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by Lamanii22(f): 12:55pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
She should just resign, a job that is not bringing peace is no job at all 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by We4all: 12:57pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
Kollins11: Keep barking! I know your type. 2 Likes |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by clems88(m): 12:58pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
Before I married my wife I told her she's not working for anyone,rather I'll open a business for her. That's what I did. I dislike what will bring unnecessary problem 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by Akalia(m): 12:59pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
Kollins11:Honestly, most men of today lack the ability to be firm especially in the context of handling infidelity issue on the part of their spouse(s). I for one will dissolve my marriage any day I discover that my wife had or is still having affair with another dude. WTF, so my dick is not enough for her and my effort at providing for her isn't worth it to her 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by Yesboss0009: 12:59pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
Establish business for her or file for DIVORCE 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by ZooOga: 1:02pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
Op sorry to inform you but your wife is damaged goods and belongs to the streets. Any woman that doesn't want to be close to her young children that she birthed is trash. plus as you stated she has a trashy attitude and is untrustworthy. Slowly unwind from this toxic marriage for your peace of mind and do the best you can for your kids. That's all I got. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by Shadysen: 1:02pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
i dont want to be harsh this year but this story is really fuvk up story. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by iamjavadem(m): 1:03pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
Hmmmm.....the fact that your mum stays with you means a lot in this. I would like to hear from your wife because the problem can stem from this. Emotional affair from the old friend could have stemmed from this. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by Mrnairalandd: 1:04pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
Justkatty: Listen to this fool at your own peril! The only reason why women are getting kicked out of marriages in this generation is cos most of these ladies seek advice or opinions from senseless ladies like this. You see the way she is praising you for putting up with a cheating wife but if the table is turned, the same bitch ll call you a dead beat husband that deserves to be discarded like a piece of shit. Mr man, if you truly want that marriage even though it seems that bitch wife of yours is not willing and ready to stay with you in that marriage, stop d job now. Don’t give a Bleep about what people like this fool would say... Hold it right there, I think it ll be a great disservice to you if i fail to tell you that your so called wife was only respecting you before cos you are d breadwinner. Take this fact out of equation and see her dragging you in d mud. Sadly, a woman who is deliberately making attempt or attempted to cheat on you has no minimal respect for you. And for this reason, she ll continue to cheat at every slightest opportunity unless she hasn’t seen her choice of a man. Listen, the best way to deal with a cheating partner with your self-esteem intact as a man is to get rid of her asap. If you forgive a cheating wife, you have just told her you are nothing but a worthless weakling who deserves nothing but to be cheated on. It’s an approval for future cheating and total disrespect. The most disrespectful way to belittle or disrespect a husband is cheating on him. If your wife cheated which is always intentional, trust me, all d respect for you is dead. If you now chooses to forgive her on top of that you are finished. There are million ladies out there that ll worship, respect and adore you as a husband, why settling with someone who has no respect for you? Listening to your mother is like listening to your cheating wife’s friend. If your mum was like your wife in her heydays, she won’t see big deal in it or she ll judge d whole situation from the fact she has done similar thing in the past. Get rid of that bitch before your time is up. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by Kingzeez10: 1:06pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
Afodot0022:Crying bitterly doesn't mean anything my brother. No be women again. I don't have any advice to give but do what's best for you. Im very sure the signs are there and it's glaring. All the best 1 Like |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by amojis(m): 1:09pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
Your kids and mom should move in with your wife while you stay alone in the present house. Go for weekend every week. This should be the arrangement pending when she leaves for her 6 month training. Reasons: 1. Your mum will be a check to your wife eventually misbehaving over there 2. Your kids will need their mum at that age (s) 3. Your needs will be met when you visit weekends and can spend time with the kids 4. Your wife will have extra change to cater for the home while you'll have more to save after sending them their upkeep 5. You'll still have a hold on the present home you stay Know this..... Your wife is ready to change and such a humble woman to agree to want to resign for peace to reign Downside..... Change of school for the kids New friends for the kids Change of environment for the kids Running two homes but you'll manage as a man living alone 3 Likes |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by MrNipplesLover(m): 1:09pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
The most peaceful guys on earth are those without any serious relationship... I've always told u people that some women are not marriageable... Stay single and have as many pussies as you want and enjoy ur life... A man with no girlfriend/wife has no one to break his heart, or have one to file for divorce... I never see that lady wey fit gain my commitment or have a serious relationship with... She is not in this life... When toto full ground like ocean sand... Una dey let one woman dey take Una play all because of marriage (Tueh). If u need a child, find one fine babe give am Belle make she be ur baby mama... Then be taking care of her and the child without any commitment... This is how we retain peace of mind till we die... Know this and know peace... |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by anthonyuncle(m): 1:10pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
wait o, 1. her t fare consumes her salary even before month end. 2. during the period of the quarrel, you weren't giving her money for her own upkeep. how did she get the money she used to rent the apartment in the barracks you just have to accept one truth: your wife is emotional gone from you and your kids. she didn't consider even the kids when renting the apartment. there is obviously another man (or men) in her life and you are appearing as the barier to her fantasies with others. please, don't push her to quit her job. this cannot stop her from cheating if she wants to - it will even increase, and you might not even be aware. and if she quits, she will be on your neck for even matches. her demands will escalate. the day you won't be able to provide, you will see her. she will blame you for all her misfortunes. allow her continue her job. she is following a good career path that'll favour the family - especially your kids. let her relocate to the barracks, the kids should live with you and your mum. it is a greater danger if they stay with your wife away from you cause they will notice her promiscuous character and become worse. no matter the force or actions you take, she will only change if she wants to. give your wife, the free role she's asking for. if she's reasonable, she will opt for a responsible life. if not, she alone will suffer the consequences. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by lordkrys(m): 1:11pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
peepydelano:You've said it all |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by bonnyhope: 1:12pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
You are not even bothered about her infidelity Again, your wife got another apartment without your consent. Well, is good you have forgiving heart Keep it up 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by Belleful: 1:12pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
My question is, did you discuss the issue of wanting the children to stay with her in the barracks and you visiting them once in a while? If yes, what was her reaction? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by iammolise(m): 1:13pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
I hate to be a barer of bad news but i think ur wife has become somewhat "i don't care", and she damn well is still doing "sheenor" in that barracks... Her oga dem will be using the job to be blackmailing her n shining her congo. Let her stop the work... All the best. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Work Wahala In My Marriage by ogify1(m): 1:13pm On Jan 04, 2023 |
This same man said his wife refused to block the guy she cheated with… All this r*bbish story 2 Likes 1 Share |
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