maclatunji:

P. S: See my spelling of "Mushyness", I would not want to offend my Mushin people. #Hehehe

You are forgiven.

harmeenart:
Author: Muhammad Mustafa Al-jibaly
Books:
The Fragile Vessels: Rights & Obligations between the Spouses in Islam
Closer than a Garment: Marital Intimacy according to the Pure Sunnah
The Quest for Love & Mercy: Regulations for Wedding & Marriage in Islam
Our Precious Sprouts : Islamic Regulations for Newborns
The Dreamer's Handbook: Sleep Etiquettes & Dream Interpretation
Visit www.goodreads.com or kalamullah.com. It might be helpful.

many thanks

harmeenart:
You are forgiven.

Ha! Mama Niyen...awon ti Ojuwoye/Idioro/Avenue/Amun. More blessing, nothing do you. #LOL

maclatunji:

Ha! Mama Niyen...awon ti Ojuwoye/Idioro/Avenue/Amun. More blessing, nothing do you. #LOL

I couldnt help laughing.
Abi o, awa niyen o.

Sisters, please do your homework before marriage. Do not let your feelings becloud judgement. I know you already like him but women bear the brunt of a bad relationship. Once, the honeymoon phase wears off, real issues arise. And it does wear off. It is difficult to be a woman and you deserve the best man to support you.

May Allah bless my sisters.

Brothers:

Our righteous women are the best things in the world. Treat them as such.

The messenger of Allah said: The world is but (a quick passing) enjoyment and the best enjoyment is a pious and virtuous woman.
(Muslim)

May Allah make us the best husbands.

Assalamu aleikum.

Salam'alaekum.

Y is it dat most sisters dont wanna woo a brother they like. It is halal in Islam. I am not saying you should meet him directly but u can simply tell his close freind or an Alfa to tell him.

However, make sure d guy is matured and Islamically oriented odawise he might wanna take advantage.

I av observed most nice and God -fearing Muslim men are very shy and lack confidence in approaching the opposite sex. He likes u but doesnt know how to convince u cos of confidence. It isnt o. That is why most tend to use arrangee method to seek for wife which is also good.

May Allah guide us all. Amin

maclatunji:

I'll say...

You'll say what...

kayword:

You'll say what...

Kindly visit this link http://www.yourdictionary.com/i-ll-say

tbaba1234: Sisters, please do your homework before marriage. Do not let your feelings becloud judgement. I know you already like him but women bear the brunt of a bad relationship. Once, the honeymoon phase wears off, real issues arise. And it does wear off. It is difficult to be a woman and you deserve the best man to support you.

May Allah bless my sisters.

Brothers:

Our righteous women are the best things in the world. Treat them as such.

The messenger of Allah said: The world is but (a quick passing) enjoyment and the best enjoyment is a pious and virtuous woman.
(Muslim)

May Allah make us the best husbands.

Assalamu aleikum.

wa alaykum Salam
A sister and a brother were planning on getting married; but after a while, the sister quit, because she felt the man was not serious about making things formal on time, and the mans family was also interfering so much in their decision-making.
After 5 weeks, the man came back to the lady again, so that they might solve the problems and plan on getting married. All the while, the mans family had been searching for another sister for the man, and had warned him not to contact the runaway sister again. Now, the lady is confused because she feels the man's family didn't try enough to solve the problem before starting to look for someone else for him. The man is adamant on having her back, because he feels everything was his fault. should she marry the man, hoping that everything will be sorted out, or stand on her decision, considering that the family might not welcome her wholeheartedly?

^No. You don't just marry an individual, you marry a family.

am33rah:
wa alaykum Salam
A sister and a brother were planning on getting married; but after a while, the sister quit, because she felt the man was not serious about making things formal on time, and the mans family was also interfering so much in their decision-making.
After 5 weeks, the man came back to the lady again, so that they might solve the problems and plan on getting married. All the while, the mans family had been searching for another sister for the man, and had warned him not to contact the runaway sister again. Now, the lady is confused because she feels the man's family didn't try enough to solve the problem before starting to look for someone else for him. The man is adamant on having her back, because he feels everything was his fault. should she marry the man, hoping that everything will be sorted out, or stand on her decision, considering that the family might not welcome her wholeheartedly?

I do not know the level of 'interference' but it is important to include both families in decision making at this stage.

I have the feeling that she might have over-reacted and offended the family.

What the family did was normal.

Right now, it depends on the man.

tbaba1234:

I do not know the level of 'interference' but it is important to include both families in decision making at this stage.

I have the feeling that she might have over-reacted and offended the family.

What the family did was normal.

Right now, it depends on the man.

As far as I know, there hasn't been any formal sitting between both families. Just that when the man and the lady decide on a way regarding the marriage, the man comes back with a different say after consulting his family.

am33rah:
As far as I know, there hasn't been any formal sitting between both families. Just that when the man and the lady decide on a way regarding the marriage, the man comes back with a different say after consulting his family.

It looks like early days, but if she is interested in his proposal then there should be a meeting with the families even informally.

That way, everyone is aware.

That should be one of the first things. She should make sure that happens.

PHEMIEY:

Being with the RIGHT person is better than being alone...

Hard to find the right person. Sometimes you may like someone a lot, but that same person does not reciprocate the same sentiments.

!!! You dont do women?

toba:

pathetic. Im not high on anything.

FYI im a good xtian that doesnt drink, smoke or go to parties/club, neither do i do women.

In the real world, i dont even have a close frind cos i dont like it. I only Play on NL and FB.

So get that clear

DMainMan: Salam'alaekum.

Y is it dat most sisters dont wanna woo a brother they like. It is halal in Islam. I am not saying you should meet him directly but u can simply tell his close freind or an Alfa to tell him.

However, make sure d guy is matured and Islamically oriented odawise he might wanna take advantage.

I av observed most nice and God -fearing Muslim men are very shy and lack confidence in approaching the opposite sex. He likes u but doesnt know how to convince u cos of confidence. It isnt o. That is why most tend to use arrangee method to seek for wife which is also good.

May Allah guide us all. Amin

lol... Someone should answer now... for those of us that are shy

maclatunji:

Kindly visit this link http://www.yourdictionary.com/i-ll-say

Got it. The ... made it seem like you didnt complete the sentence

am33rah:
wa alaykum Salam
A sister and a brother were planning on getting married; but after a while, the sister quit, because she felt the man was not serious about making things formal on time, and the mans family was also interfering so much in their decision-making.
After 5 weeks, the man came back to the lady again, so that they might solve the problems and plan on getting married. All the while, the mans family had been searching for another sister for the man, and had warned him not to contact the runaway sister again. Now, the lady is confused because she feels the man's family didn't try enough to solve the problem before starting to look for someone else for him. The man is adamant on having her back, because he feels everything was his fault. should she marry the man, hoping that everything will be sorted out, or stand on her decision, considering that the family might not welcome her wholeheartedly?

She should try to know why the family wouldnt want her in the first place. If they are unable to accept her before marriage, it wont be good for their relationship in the long run.

PHEMIEY:

Being with the RIGHT person is better than being alone...

Seconded.Noone's an island and there are various opportunities that are abounded by being associative but one just have to be selective so that he/she might not go astray!!

tbaba1234: Sisters, please do your homework before marriage. Do not let your feelings becloud judgement. I know you already like him but women bear the brunt of a bad relationship. Once, the honeymoon phase wears off, real issues arise. And it does wear off. It is difficult to be a woman and you deserve the best man to support you.

May Allah bless my sisters.

Brothers:

Our righteous women are the best things in the world. Treat them as such.

The messenger of Allah said: The world is but (a quick passing) enjoyment and the best enjoyment is a pious and virtuous woman.
(Muslim)

May Allah make us the best husbands.

Assalamu aleikum.

AMIN

DMainMan: Salam'alaekum.

Y is it dat most sisters dont wanna woo a brother they like. It is halal in Islam. I am not saying you should meet him directly but u can simply tell his close freind or an Alfa to tell him.

However, make sure d guy is matured and Islamically oriented odawise he might wanna take advantage.

I av observed most nice and God -fearing Muslim men are very shy and lack confidence in approaching the opposite sex. He likes u but doesnt know how to convince u cos of confidence. It isnt o. That is why most tend to use arrangee method to seek for wife which is also good.

May Allah guide us all. Amin

Amin bro,this is my thought too.The reasons are not far-fetched: One of the most grave mistakes our sisters make is spouse.This is somewhat due to arrogance.A sister that like a particular trait(s) about a brother and she knows that if they could be married,it'll be good for her,she stays back and wait for the brother proposal which might not be forthcoming @ d end.The reason 4 dis is d@ dey av many suitors.To our sisters,marriage is not a thing u can just go in and come back,it involves a lot of things expecially patience and it's not all that glitters is Gold!!!

am33rah:
wa alaykum Salam
A sister and a brother were planning on getting married; but after a while, the sister quit, because she felt the man was not serious about making things formal on time, and the mans family was also interfering so much in their decision-making.
After 5 weeks, the man came back to the lady again, so that they might solve the problems and plan on getting married. All the while, the mans family had been searching for another sister for the man, and had warned him not to contact the runaway sister again. Now, the lady is confused because she feels the man's family didn't try enough to solve the problem before starting to look for someone else for him. The man is adamant on having her back, because he feels everything was his fault. should she marry the man, hoping that everything will be sorted out, or stand on her decision, considering that the family might not welcome her wholeheartedly?

I think this is where communication works in a relationship.B4 the sista took such decision,has she discussed it with the brother?It's possible that that habit is one of his weakness.But from the way u said it above,she took the decision unilaterally.Life now has gone beyond 'just married'.It entails a lot of things even what u can't discuss with your parents,you should be able and feel free to discuss it with your spouse.I blame the sista her(she sould change asap)!about interfering also,they should talk also.What's the guarantee th@ she'll meet a better person by jettisoning the said broda @list dere's something that got her attracted to the broda in the 1st instance

tbaba1234:

I do not know the level of 'interference' but it is important to include both families in decision making at this stage.

I have the feeling that she might have over-reacted and offended the family.

What the family did was normal.

Right now, it depends on the man.

If it's interfering on day to day activities,it's bad,if odawise,it is still ok!

am33rah:
As far as I know, there hasn't been any formal sitting between both families. Just that when the man and the lady decide on a way regarding the marriage, the man comes back with a different say after consulting his family.

Is d@ a man??

baba11: If it's interfering on day to day activities,it's bad,if odawise,it is still ok!

What are day to day activities?? They are not married or even close..

I made that comment thinking they were already on the path to marriage and she pulled out but the families haven't even met.

It is too early to even be talking about interfering when she has no ground to stand on.

What she should do is to get the boy's parents to visit hers and the boy to speak to her father.

The below is by sheikh kamal el mekki.

Asalamu Alaykum Everyone,

There is a glass of water on a table. A brother walks up, points to it and knowing that it's water, says, "This is Haram to drink".

There is a glass of wine on a table. A brother walks up, points to it and knowing that it's wine, says, "This is Halal to drink".

Which is more serious? Answer with ONE WORD only.

Only write "water" or "wine".

Wine

Water

Wine

Water

Water is the answer. To make halal haram is more serious than to make haram halal.

Courtesy Sheikh Kamal el Mekki.

A brother wrote this on whatsapp.
The Quest

Having a good partner could be so PLEASURABLE.
It's a pity people's way of life is so QUESTIONABLE.
Many men but few are HONOURABLE.
Many ladies but few are MARRIAGEABLE.
The best woman is the righteous and not only the ADORABLE

Having known this life is full of TEST,
Coupled with the fact that in my family I am the third to the FIRST,
Being the third doesn’t mean I shouldn’t get the BEST

So, I thought it’s high we organized a FEST
A fest of nothing more than a QUEST.

A quest for the future wife that will treat me like a PET
But in my search I discovered they (Women) are like PESTs,
Except the few of them that believe in Allah will treat men like PETs.

Imagine the struggle and hustle men go through aren’t we suppose to get the BEST?
I am happy there exist some of them are ready to treat men like a PET.

Honestly, it’s a great TEST
To get the BEST amongst the REST

The good man and the good woman is a good combination that equals the BEST

The bachelors should also be good too in order to get the best among the REST
So that in the long run we will say ALHAMDULILLAHI we got the BEST.