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Re: The Agonies Of A Freethinker by kkins25(m): 8:39pm On Oct 03, 2023 |
uncleck:i am not married, and i can relate to it.... lost mine too last month.... we were fine until she became born again and started speaking in tongues.. Even then i was fine with it... I think LordReed advice is the best.. Here's what I've planned to do, 1) keep ur criticism of the religion away from whatsapp status nd Facebook. Or, at least not the church she attends. 2) Don't say you're an Atheist, instead, say u follow Christ to the core... and take "don't let your left hand know what your right hand is doing" seriously.... 3) U also believe Jesus doesn't want to people to serve in public as shown in the Bible.. That's ehat i intend to do... the heart wants what it wants... π π.. After marriage, u can slowly slowy and small small begin to reveal ur Atheism... Na weytin me i dey plan do be dat sha... |
Re: The Agonies Of A Freethinker by kkins25(m): 8:53pm On Oct 03, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: πππ That's unnatural.. |
Re: The Agonies Of A Freethinker by Kobojunkie: 8:54pm On Oct 03, 2023 |
kkins25:*** yawn*** 1 Like |
Re: The Agonies Of A Freethinker by uncleck: 9:13am On Oct 15, 2023 |
kkins25:The thing is, I don't go about announcing to everyone about my conviction. However, I don't pretend to be what I am not. I've been severally called upon in meetings to lead in prayers, I'd just politely tell them to appoint another person . As much as possible, I avoid religious conversation... |
Re: The Agonies Of A Freethinker by LordReed(m): 9:53am On Oct 15, 2023 |
uncleck: For our clime, this is the way. Most people here are not open to having their ideas about their religion openly challenged especially when you begin to highlight the illogicalities in the religion no matter how gentle you are. |
Re: The Agonies Of A Freethinker by virginboy1(m): 10:17am On Oct 15, 2023 |
uncleck: I can imagine this... |
Re: The Agonies Of A Freethinker by budaatum: 5:03pm On Oct 15, 2023 |
LordReed: I've been going to church myself, though the habit is not catching. It's Kate you see, almost 90, who likes walking the 500 metres from her house to church but can't walk there alone. So I've offered myself for whenever she wants and it takes us 45 minutes to an hour to very slowly walk there. The church bores me but I so enjoy her company, and she appears to too. No, that's not me in the image below.
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Re: The Agonies Of A Freethinker by Anjinsan: 5:12pm On Oct 15, 2023 |
I count you fortunate to have taken a stance on such sensitive subject before marriage. In marriage, e for no easy. Because if I understand you correctly, you still believe in God, but don't want to identify with a religious group. It's easier for one who doesn't believe to compromise and associate, to play along for any reason whatsoever. When you still believe, the way you express your spirituality is something that will be difficult for a honest person to pretend about. On how to go about finding an appropriate partner. First, go through your post, you will realize that mentally you have given up even before you started. Change that mindset. There are decent ladies who aren't churchy or will still marry someone like you. Our society is littered with cross religious marriages etc, without one spouse trying to change the other. What most women really need is a man who can be faithful, non-violent, and ability to comfortably provide for the home. The last is even more important to them. You will come across a lady that will love you as a 'freethinker', if you start by convincing yourself you would. Another thing, don't hide your identity, when you go on dates. But don't bring it up during the onset of the relationship if you can, or if she doesn't know. Let her know you for you, and love you for you. Even if she identifies with a religion, she will convince herself that this other thing doesn't matter to love. She will even recount to herself marriages that have failed despite both partners belonging to same religious group. All the best. With Love. uncleck: 1 Like |
Re: The Agonies Of A Freethinker by LordReed(m): 6:23pm On Oct 15, 2023 |
budaatum: Kate's in good company though. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Agonies Of A Freethinker by budaatum: 8:06pm On Oct 15, 2023 |
LordReed: Gentle, meek and the best my Lord. She honours me when I'm called upon. 1 Like |
Re: The Agonies Of A Freethinker by TenQ: 8:32pm On Oct 15, 2023 |
uncleck:Won't you both want to entertain your father in laws when they come visiting? Your ex-girlfriend's father is probably Jesus! Your own father is satan! Your girlfriends sworn enemy is your father and You despise your girlfriend's Father How do you expect things to work in harmony in your marriage? You had probably made her commit fornication against the rules of her father and she is tired of breaking her Father's rule of holiness. Of course, you don't see anything wrong with it because your own father encourages it. She is tired! She is broken! She needs to heal! She loves you, but she loves her father more. It is best for you to find a lady that you share the same father with and you will have peace. |
Re: The Agonies Of A Freethinker by budaatum: 6:26pm On Oct 16, 2023 |
uncleck: Your choice dude. And I like your ex by the way, for accepting you for whom you are but wanting you to help her navigate past all those who wouldn't. You mentioned Buddhism. When a Buddha arrives in a place, they eat what is eaten and wear what is worn and worship the gods that are worshipped, because in so doing others would see their doing and learn to accept them for whom they are. But much more beneficial is that in joining in doing with them the Buddha gets to learn who they are and better teach them. Learn to be liberal minded yourself perhaps, and compromise a little. It might help you keep the "liberal minded person that is contented with one d***k". |
Re: The Agonies Of A Freethinker by FRANCISTOWN: 6:33pm On Oct 16, 2023 |
uncleck:Lemme leave you with a word of wisdom. Know the truth, and use the truth against people. |
Re: The Agonies Of A Freethinker by MaxInDHouse(m): 8:00pm On Oct 16, 2023 |
Are you saying there are no female atheists? |
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