₦airaland Forum

.

Peacefulplace:
I caught my husband flirting in multiple women's comments when we were first together and engaged. I told him he cannot do that. He then stopped. But then I found out he was following ex's and other women alot on Facebook. I mean like 100+ other women with very inappropriate photos.

I told him to stop. He stopped for awhile and then I found out he did it again. I told him off again and so far he never did these things again as far as I know.

But tonight he told me that the two women that were accusing him of cheating, he actually was cheating with in the beginning when he first proposed to me.

Not cheating on person, just cheating online. He had me believing they were crazy. Only now, 8 months later did he tell me... In total though, we have known each other 2 two years. So it's been a long time.

I am so upset. He does not do well when I cry. He does not like it. So I excused myself to cry. He told me not to get upset, but I feel betrayed.

We are getting married this month and now I am so worried upset with him. I am 31 and he is 30. I am a Australian woman and he is a Igbo man. I am moving across the world to be with him. I have visited him many times but I decided to stick by him and marry him.

I am very upset with him and hurting from within. I am trying to deal with this pain but it is a lot. Should I continue to stay by my man? Or should I leave? So far he has not cheated for quite awhile and I am hoping he has learnt his lesson. .

I think you ignored the warnings and married the wrong person and now can't live with the consequences.

But you'll work out what to do when he hurts you some more.

Peacefulplace:
He is not talking much at all. Even when I am in hospital sick right now, I had to call his sis just so he would answer my calls. And tell her to get him to call me. It been 3 wks now he has been this way. We have been together 1-2 yrs now.


He doesn't want to talk on the phone or text unless I nag him, but sometimes he give me no choice now. Lately it is so strange. We get married in just 2 weeks and then move in together.


He told me he is not himself. He said he is angry and stressed and doesn't like me calling. He told me he is so worried about moving in and marriage because he is worried he may not have much money on his hands right now, and doesn't want to look broke or that we have to struggle when I come to live with him. Like so many things he is worried. Like he won't stop. And it is turning into anger for him and ignoring me even more. It is driving me crazy I swear. He ignore me and shit me off and is rude to me during this time. But I need support too as I am feeling so unwell these days.

His sis told me that he ghost everyone sometimes. But it is the first time he done it to me like this. My friend told me it is because maybe he is cheating or that maybe he does not want to be with me no more. . this made me worry.

Though, he just told his brother yesterday that he is marrying me and he told me that I should meet his brother, and that his brother come to stay. I already meet his mommy and sis. He talked about travelling with me out of the country to different places and agreed to having baby with me. All these things in the past. But he seems to just be so mad at me and ignoring as of late. He will just never answer the phone or reply.

So today I told him that he has to change or I will leave. He left me on "read". I will give him time to make his mind up.

Are Nigerian men usually like this when they feel maybe overwhelmed or going through some things? What should I do? Is this a bad sign?

are you a nigerian? take a step back and find out the source of his cold feet. it might be a third party or bad business. Dont ignore red flags.