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The encouragement to seek children covers both sons and daughters, and along with this general encouragement Islam has given special merits to seeking and bringing up girls – contrary to the thinking of the people of ignorance (age of ‘Jaahiliyyah’) of the past and present, since the people of ignorance – wherever and whenever found – hated (some of them ‘still do’) to have daughters and were grieved and angered by their births!

“And when the news of (the birth of) a female (child) is brought to any of them, his face becomes dark, and he is filled with inward grief! He hides himself from the people because of the evil of that whereof he has been informed. Shall he keep her with dishonor or bury her in the earth? Certainly, evil is their decision.” (An-Nahl 16:58-59)

But the Messenger of Islam, Muhammad(saw), came elevating the status of this gift given by Allah(swt),
welcoming the daughters, and raising high the importance of their upbringing with words to delight the hearts of the believing fathers and bring joy to their souls:

“Whoever takes care of two girls until they reach adulthood – he and I will come (together) on the Day of Resurrection – and he interlaced his fingers (meaning in Paradise).” (Reported by Muslim)

So can there be any greater honor given to daughter!? And for those who wish to have them and bring them up properly!? And he said in another Hadith:

“Whoever has three daughters or sisters, or two daughters of two sisters, and lives along with them in a good manner, and has patience with them, and fears Allah with regard to them will enter Paradise.” (Reported by Abu Dawud, Al-Tirmidhee and others)

And in another Hadith:

“They will be a shield for him from the Fire.” (Reported by Ahmad and Ibn Maajah)

And along with the Messenger’s(saw) honoring the daughters with his words, we find that he also gave us a
living example in his own actions and behavior – for example,

“One day he(saw) led his Companions in Prayer whilst carrying Umaamah bint Zaynab(ra) when he made rukoo’ he would put her down, then when he stood, he would pick her up.” (Reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

So the position of daughters in Islam is very clear and the encouragement that it gives for them, and also the
hatred it has for those who hate them or are grieved at their births! We know from this that hatred in some souls toward something – if found – is not a true judgement upon that thing and this is explained in the Qurân, as Allah(swt) says:

“…If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good.” (An-Nisa’ 4:19)

So how many righteous women have brought happiness and well-being upon their families and theirUmmah!? And how many corrupt young men have brought every form of misfortune and trial upon this Ummah!?

Therefore, it is upon the parents who have intellect to accept whatever Allah’s(swt) gift is with full joy and
happiness, whether the gift is male or a female. Since its being a male or being a female is due only to Allah’s(swt) order alone – He, the One free from all imperfections – and Most High says:

“To Allah belongs the kingdom of the heavens and the earth. He creates what He wills. He bestows female (offspring) upon whom He wills, and bestows male (offspring) upon whom He wills. Or He bestows both males and females, and He renders barren who He wills. Verily, He is the All-Knower and is Able to do all things.” (Ash-Shura 42:49-50)

And finally, a stern warning of the ‘Day of Judgment‘ is given to all those people who went (still go) to the extremes of killing their (infant) daughters (or these days knowingly go for an abortion after finding out the gender of the fetus) out of fear of poverty or shying away from responsibility, superstitions or ignorant customs etc;

“When the sun (with its spacious light) is folded up; When the stars fall, losing their lustre; When the mountains vanish (like a mirage); When the she-camels, ten months with young, are left untended; When the wild beasts are herded together (in the human habitations); When the oceans boil over with a swell; When the souls are sorted out, (being joined, like with like);

(When the female (infant), buried alive, is questioned – For what crime she was killed; When the scrolls are laid open; When the world on High is unveiled; When the Blazing Fire is kindled to fierce heat; And when the Garden is brought near; (Then) shall each soul know what it has put forward.” Qur’an 81:1-14)

note- d writer of the blog is sufi. but do we not agree on things we agree on and disagree on the ones we dont? We still all are Muslims. May Allah reward us all and accept all our ibadah.

How is this jargon you posted above related to the NON-EXISTENT rights of women in Islam?. You and I know that women have no rights in Islam because Muhammed himself compared them to cattle. You can imagine the limited rights animals have compared to the ones humans have. Islamic men caught in adultery are punished lightly but the women they slept with are out-rightly beheaded or buried alive. Remember Amina from Nigeria?. I just can't understand why some women still support Islam for real.

to buttress the points raised by alloy, u guys have no right to be sincere.

u just told me that its unlawful for a young Muslim lady to marry outside her religion but lawful for the man to do same.

This' slavery and BS. do men have 2heads for them to be permitted that much unlike the women?

a woman cannot complain if her husband marries another lady, yet the man may kill a woman caught in the act.

U guys need to wise up and realise that religion is more of a deceit by men

toba:

to buttress the points raised by aloy, u guys have no right to be sincere.

u just told me that its unlawful for a young muslim lady to marry outside her religion but lawful for the man to do same.

This' slavery and BS. do men have 2heads for them to be permitted that much unlike the women?

a woman cannot complain if her husband marries another lady, yet the man may kill a woman caught in the act.

U guys need to wise up and realise that religion is more of a deceit by men

",  Marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly [with them], then only one, " Q 4:3

The above verse permits a man to take more than one wife on the condition that he can deal justly with them.  So justice  between wives is a precondition to marry more than one,  This offers a practical solution to some of the societal problems. For example, In war torn regions of Africa, there are many widows caught in tough financial conditions because they have to take care of their kids alone. The Islamic model offers them Justice in a family environment.  In the African American community in the U.S., there are so many men in prisons that the ratio of men to women is unfavourably skewed. We have many women without husbands and end up being mistresses and 'baby mamas'. It is a practical solution to problems societies face.

Also, Islamically a man provides for his family,  Whatever a woman earns belongs to her and she has the freedom to do whatever she wants with it.

A muslim woman who doesn't want to be in a polygamous marriage can include the condition in her marriage contract. With that in her contract, her husband can not take more wives.

Also honour killing is a cultural practices, not an islamic  one

what u ve just posted above is a good eg of human conjectures coined to cajole, brainwash, deceive and indoctrinate women.

women simply dont have any right in Islam. what u brought up regarding a woman expressly stating her unwillingness to harbour a second wife prior to a marriage is a big lie and I'm sure Muslims will disagree with u that such doesn't exist in Islam.

I'm talking about the inequalities. man can do but a woman cannot. why should that be? any logical reason for such?

Right from ojo ti aiye ti wa, population of women has been higher and in the bible, its written that a time would come when about 13 women would be chasing a man. all these are still no good enough reason(s) for polygamy cos its not every that must marry, build a house, buy a car etc. the only thing we jointly owe is death and nothing else.

toba:

what u ve just posted above is a good eg of human conjectures coined to cajole, brainwash, deceive and indoctrinate women.

women simply dont have any right in islam. what u brought up regarding a woman expressly stating her unwillingness to habour a second wife prior to a marriage is a big lie and im sure muslims will disgree with u that such doesnt exist in islam.

im talking about the inequalities. man can do but a woman cannot. why should that be? any logical reason for such?

Right from ojo ti aiye ti wa, population of women has been higher and in the bible, its written that a time wou,d come when about 13 women would be chasing a man. all these are still no good enough reason(s) for polygamy cos its not every that must marry, build a house, buy a car etc. the only thing we jointly owe is death and nothing else.

You will believe what you want,  I have no incentive to lie,  Islam gave women the right to own property and inheritance when the church was still arguing about whether a woman has a soul. Property rights  for women in the west  only came about just over a century ago.

Any educated muslim woman will tell you the same.

If you are willing to learn, you will,

Deception Deception Deception, that is ISLAM for you.

Watch this small video clip , A true woman who thinks and does not follow follow.

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BONDAGE !!!!

tbaba1234:

You will believe what you want,  I have no incentive to lie,  Islam gave women the right to own property and inheritance when the church was still arguing about whether a woman has a soul. Property rights  for women in the west  only came about just over a century ago.

Any educated muslim woman will tell you the same.

If you are willing to learn, you will, 

The same Islam that described women as booty and property?
Tabari IX:137 - "Allah granted Rayhana of the Qurayza to Muhammad as booty."

Ishaq 969 - "Men were to lay injunctions on women lightly, for they were prisoners of men and had no control over their persons." - This same text also justifies beating women for flirting.

Tabari Vol 9, Number 1754 - "Treat women well, for they are [like] domestic animals with you and do not possess anything for themselves." From Muhammad's 'Farewell Sermon'.

aloy/emeka:

The same Islam that described women as booty and property?
Tabari IX:137 - "Allah granted Rayhana of the Qurayza to Muhammad as booty."

Ishaq 969 - "Men were to lay injunctions on women lightly, for they were prisoners of men and had no control over their persons." - This same text also justifies beating women for flirting.

Tabari Vol 9, Number 1754 - "Treat women well, for they are [like] domestic animals with you and do not possess anything for themselves."  From Muhammad's 'Farewell Sermon'.

The Al-Tabari and Ibn-Ishaq and other sources are extremely doubtful and unauthenticated.  Most Muslim scholars today firmly and strongly believe in this. As most Muslim Scholars agree, we Muslims can't take them as absolute Truth or accurate information.  Much of these volumes are either corrupt or taken out of context.  Again, this is according to the Muslims scholars.  This is why these volumes are considered "unauthenticated".

Again you know nothing about islamic hadiths,  Before you quote a hadith, talk about its chain of narration and its authenticity.

The methods of the collection of ibn ishaq and tabari hadiths are unknown; the chains are unknown. Ibn ishaq did not know whether the hadiths were fabrications or true.

To base your ludicrous assumption on hadiths that have no authencity is like getting news from a soft sell magazine.

Now look at verses of the Quran and authenticated hadith:

“And give the women (on marriage) their dower as a free gift; but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, take it and enjoy it with right good cheer” (Qur’an 4:4 )

"then marry such women as may seem good to you, two, three or four. If you feel that you will not act justly, then one.”

“Do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they agree between themselves in a lawful manner.” (Q.2:232)

“Live with them (your wives) on a footing of kindness and equity. If you dislike them it may be that you dislike something in which God has places a great deal of good” (Qur’an).

“But if you decide to take one wife in place of another, even if you had given the latter a whole treasure for dower, take not the least bit of it back; Would you take it by slander and a manifest of wrong?” (Qur’an 4:20)

“It is not lawful for you (men) to take back any of your gifts except when both parties fear that they would be unable to keep the limits ordained by God. The is no blame on either of them if she give something for her freedom. These are the limits ordained by God so do not transgress them.” (Qur’an 2:229)

“If a wife fears cruelty or desertion on her husband’s part, there is no blame on them if they arrange an amicable settlement between themselves; and such settlement is best.” (Qur’an 4:128)

“When you divorce women and they fulfill their terms (three menstruation periods) either take them back on equitable terms or set them free on equitable terms; But do not take them back to injure them or take undue advantage, If anyone does that, he wrongs his own soul. Do not treat God’s signs as a jest.” (Qur’an 2:231)

“If any of you die and leave widows behind, they shall wait for four months and ten days. When they have fulfilled their term, there is no blame on you if they dispose of themselves in a just manner ‘( Qur’an 2:234)

“Those of you who die and leave widows should bequeath for their widows a year’s maintenance and residence. But if they (the widows) leave (the residence) there is no blame on you for what they justly do with themselves” (Qur’an 2:240).

Qur’an 24:23: “Surely those who accuse chaste believing women, unaware (of the evil), are cursed in this world and hereafter, and they shall have a grievous chastisement.”

Hadith

A Hadith reported by Aisha (Prophet’s wife): “The messenger of God (p.b.u.h.) has never beaten a wife nor a servant, and has never hit anything with his hand except when fighting in the cause of God.”

The Prophet advised one Muslim woman (Fatimah bint Quais) not to marry a man because the man was known for beating woman: “I went to the Prophet and said: Abul Jahm and Mu’awiah have proposed to marry me. The Prophet (by way of advice) said: As to Mu’awiah he is very poor and Abul Jahm is accustomed to beating woman” (a Hadith by Muslim)

Another Hadith by Bukhari (= highly authentic) : “A woman came to the Prophet Mohammad seeking the dissolution of her marriage. She told the prophet that she did not have any complaints against her husband’s character or manners. Her only problem was, that she honestly did not like him to the extent of not being able to live with him any longer. The Prophet asked her: ‘Would you give him his garden (his marriage gift) back?’ She said: ‘yes’. The Prophet then instructed the man to take back his garden and accept the dissolution of the marriage.”

Muawiyah Al-Qoshairi reports: “I asked God’s messenger about our women and what we may do and what we may not do with them. He said, ‘You may come into her when you wish. You must feed her when you eat and clothe her when buy clothes. You must not insult her, nor may you hit her’.” (Hadith related by Abu Dawood)

But you are too blinded by hatred to see:: Q.E.D.

Now look at what the Quran and authenticated hadiths say:

Inheritance
Women in the Judeo-Christian Tradition in the 19th century Europe women did not have the right to own their own property. In Britain, perhaps the first country to give women some property rights, laws were passed in the 1860’s known as “Married Women Property Act.” In Germany i.e. this conception has been responsible for denying the wife any control over her property until 1922 by civil law!

“Whatever men earn, they have a share of that and whatever women earn, they have a share in that.” (Qur’an 4:31)

Marriage

“And give women (on marriage) their dower as a free gift; but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, take it and enjoy it with right good cheer” (Qur’an 4:4)

She has the right to her own wealth and must not share it with her husband or use it for the maintenance of the family. The maintenance of the family is the responsibility of the husband alone and therefore the financial burden of men far exceeds those of women. This is also the reason why a woman’s share from an inheritance is only half of the share of a male.

Qur’an gives women a substantial role in choosing their own life partners. It lays down: “Do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they agree between themselves in a lawful manner. “(Qur’an 2:232)

The Prophet recommended the suitors see each other before marriage. It is unreasonable for two people to live together and be intimate when they know nothing of each other. The couple are permitted to look at each other with a critical eye. This ruling does not contradict the verse which says that believing men and women should lower their gaze. The choice of a partner by a virgin girl is subject to the approval of the father or guardian under ‘Maliki school’. This is to safeguard her welfare and interests.

The Prophet said: “The widow and the divorced woman shall not be married until she has consented and the virgin shall not be married until her consent is obtained.” The Prophet did revoke the marriage of a girl, who complained to him that her father had married her against her wishes.

Women’s Property, Divorce,

A married woman retains her independent legal personality and her family name. She has the right to divorce her husband in certain cases, like his absence. In that case she has the right to keep the children, boys till the age 6 or 7, and girls until puberty. Each wife has her right to a separate home and no wife has the right to dominate another. In case a husband divorces his wife, he has no right to retrieve any of the marriage gifts he has given to her.

Qur’an 4:20 : “But if you decide to take one wife in place of another, even if you had given the latter a whole treasure for dower, take not the least bit of it back; Would you take it by slander and a manifest of wrong?”

In the case of the wife choosing to end the marriage, she may return the marriage gifts to her husband. Returning the marriage gifts is a fair compensation for the husband who is keen to keep his wife while she chooses to leave him. The Qur’an instructs Muslim men not to take back any of the gifts they have given to their wives except in the case of the wife choosing to dissolve the marriage

Qur’an 2:229 : “It is not lawful for you (men) to take back any of your gifts except when both parties fear that they would be unable to keep the limits ordained by God. There is no blame on either of them if she give something for her freedom. These are the limits ordained by God so do not transgress them.”

The Prophet advised one Muslim woman (Fatimah bint Quais) not to marry a man because the man was known for beating woman: “I went to the Prophet and said: Abul Jahm and Mu’awiah have proposed to marry me. The Prophet (by way of advice) said: As to Mu’awiah he is very poor and Abul Jahm is accustomed to beating woman” (a Hadith by Muslim)

For the wife whose husband’s ill-conduct is the cause for the marriage’s near collapse, the Qur’an offers the following advice: ”If a wife fears cruelty or desertion on her husband’s part, there is no blame on them if they arrange an amicable settlement between themselves; and such settlement is best” (Qur’an 4:128)

A Hadith by the Prophet from his farewell speech (which makes it a final verdict) : “Do treat your women well and be kind to them, for they are your partners and committed helpers.”

A Hadith reported by Aisha (Prophet’s wife): “The messenger of God (p.b.u.h.) has never beaten a wife nor a servant, and has never hit anything with his hand except when fighting in the cause of God.”

Another Hadith by Bukhari (= highly authentic) : “A woman came to the Prophet Mohammad seeking the dissolution of her marriage. She told the prophet that she did not have any complaints against her husband’s character or manners. Her only problem was, that she honestly did not like him to the extent of not being able to live with him any longer. The Prophet asked her: ‘Would you give him his garden (his marriage gift) back?’ She said: ‘yes’. The Prophet then instructed the man to take back his garden and accept the dissolution of the marriage

Now look at what the Quran and authenticated hadiths say:

Inheritance
Women in the Judeo-Christian Tradition in the 19th century Europe women did not have the right to own their own property. In Britain, perhaps the first country to give women some property rights, laws were passed in the 1860’s known as “Married Women Property Act.” In Germany i.e. this conception has been responsible for denying the wife any control over her property until 1922 by civil law!

“Whatever men earn, they have a share of that and whatever women earn, they have a share in that.” (Qur’an 4:31)

Marriage

“And give women (on marriage) their dower as a free gift; but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, take it and enjoy it with right good cheer” (Qur’an 4:4)

She has the right to her own wealth and must not share it with her husband or use it for the maintenance of the family. The maintenance of the family is the responsibility of the husband alone and therefore the financial burden of men far exceeds those of women. This is also the reason why a woman’s share from an inheritance is only half of the share of a male.

Qur’an gives women a substantial role in choosing their own life partners. It lays down: “Do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they agree between themselves in a lawful manner. “(Qur’an 2:232)

The Prophet recommended the suitors see each other before marriage. It is unreasonable for two people to live together and be intimate when they know nothing of each other. The couple are permitted to look at each other with a critical eye. This ruling does not contradict the verse which says that believing men and women should lower their gaze. The choice of a partner by a virgin girl is subject to the approval of the father or guardian under ‘Maliki school’. This is to safeguard her welfare and interests.

The Prophet said: “The widow and the divorced woman shall not be married until she has consented and the virgin shall not be married until her consent is obtained.” The Prophet did revoke the marriage of a girl, who complained to him that her father had married her against her wishes.

Women’s Property, Divorce,

A married woman retains her independent legal personality and her family name. She has the right to divorce her husband in certain cases, like his absence. In that case she has the right to keep the children, boys till the age 6 or 7, and girls until puberty. Each wife has her right to a separate home and no wife has the right to dominate another. In case a husband divorces his wife, he has no right to retrieve any of the marriage gifts he has given to her.

Qur’an 4:20 : “But if you decide to take one wife in place of another, even if you had given the latter a whole treasure for dower, take not the least bit of it back; Would you take it by slander and a manifest of wrong?”

In the case of the wife choosing to end the marriage, she may return the marriage gifts to her husband. Returning the marriage gifts is a fair compensation for the husband who is keen to keep his wife while she chooses to leave him. The Qur’an instructs Muslim men not to take back any of the gifts they have given to their wives except in the case of the wife choosing to dissolve the marriage

Qur’an 2:229 : “It is not lawful for you (men) to take back any of your gifts except when both parties fear that they would be unable to keep the limits ordained by God. There is no blame on either of them if she give something for her freedom. These are the limits ordained by God so do not transgress them.”

Now look at what the Quran and authenticated hadiths say:

Inheritance
Women in the Judeo-Christian Tradition in the 19th century Europe women did not have the right to own their own property. In Britain, perhaps the first country to give women some property rights, laws were passed in the 1860’s known as “Married Women Property Act.” In Germany i.e. this conception has been responsible for denying the wife any control over her property until 1922 by civil law!

“Whatever men earn, they have a share of that and whatever women earn, they have a share in that.” (Qur’an 4:31)

Marriage

“And give women (on marriage) their dower as a free gift; but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, take it and enjoy it with right good cheer” (Qur’an 4:4)

She has the right to her own wealth and must not share it with her husband or use it for the maintenance of the family. The maintenance of the family is the responsibility of the husband alone and therefore the financial burden of men far exceeds those of women. This is also the reason why a woman’s share from an inheritance is only half of the share of a male.

Qur’an gives women a substantial role in choosing their own life partners. It lays down: “Do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they agree between themselves in a lawful manner. “(Qur’an 2:232)

The Prophet recommended the suitors see each other before marriage. It is unreasonable for two people to live together and be intimate when they know nothing of each other. The couple are permitted to look at each other with a critical eye. This ruling does not contradict the verse which says that believing men and women should lower their gaze. The choice of a partner by a virgin girl is subject to the approval of the father or guardian under ‘Maliki school’. This is to safeguard her welfare and interests.

The Prophet said: “The widow and the divorced woman shall not be married until she has consented and the virgin shall not be married until her consent is obtained.” The Prophet did revoke the marriage of a girl, who complained to him that her father had married her against her wishes.