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"He has never done anything for me"
"He has never spent on me."
"He abandoned me and the kids."
"He's the worst man I’ve ever met."
"I paid the children’s school fees myself."

These are just a few of the many damaging statements we hear often from some wives in moments of anger, bitterness, or while trying to score sympathy from others. But how many of them are really true?

And even if they are partially true, is complete erasure and ingratitude justified?

Some women, out of frustration or desire to paint their husbands in a bad light, ignore years of effort, sacrifices, and struggles that those same men made to keep the home standing.

The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ once said:

“I was shown the Hellfire and found that the majority of its dwellers were women.”
The companions asked, “Why, O Messenger of Allah?”
He said, “Because of their ingratitude.”
It was said, “Are they ungrateful to Allah?”
He replied, “They are ungrateful to their husbands and deny the good done to them. Even if you do good to one of them for a lifetime, then she sees something (she dislikes), she will say: ‘I have never seen any good from you!’”
(Sahih al-Bukhari 29, Muslim 907)

Subhāna’Llāh! What a frightening consequence for something that may seem as small as words yet the pain it causes, the injustice it inflicts, and the lies it spreads, are enough to anger the One who sees all.

I once came across a story of a woman who constantly told people her husband was wicked that he never provided, never loved her, and never cared. Her friends believed her.

But when the man died, and reality hit, she discovered that no one was ready to bankroll her sorrows. The man who had sheltered, fed, and clothed her for years even if imperfectly was gone. Her fabricated image of him couldn’t provide. She was left in regret, and only then admitted that she exaggerated and lied. But it was too late.

Gratitude Is a Sign of Īmān
Allah says:

“If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]...”
(Surah Ibrahim, 14:7)


Let us all women and men learn to appreciate the little, praise the efforts, and pray for the one we married.

Marriage is not always 50/50; sometimes it's 80/20, sometimes 100/0 and only Allah knows the burdens each one silently carries.

If your husband truly does wrong, seek solutions with wisdom. But don’t lie. Don’t exaggerate. And don’t turn people’s hearts against the one who might be doing his best in difficult times.

Let us learn to say: “Jazaakallahu Khayran, may Allah continue to bless you for all that you do.”

Even if it's small gratitude invites barakah.

May Allah grant us tongues that are truthful, hearts that are grateful, and homes that are full of mercy and peace.
Ameen.

Well said

It's always good to show gratitude to God and human who have been of help to our life

Nothing like Hell.
It's all in your brained that's been mentally caged.


When you have money and you are 80% comfortable with everything you ever desire just know you are in heaven.
But when you are poor.
You are in hell.
It's not fiction but reality

VinnyBaba:
Its not Freedom to yarn Opata o.

Pls respect our Muslim brothers.

But if any Imam or Sheikh mess up, we go Yab am well.

Bcus that's how on Christian threads, they Yab Pastors who messes up.

Ok papa

Finally I can commend on Islam section

The people who want self gratification and validation.

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Okay so I can now comment on an Islam post without having to swear and post some gibberish on my profile.

By the way Seun, knowing you as atheist, what prompted that move to swear to an oath before commenting on Islam topics?

On the subject, I always ask one question

With the way Arabs and European treat black people, with the way they so jealously guard and protect their territories from black people,

And generally other good things

If they had access to a literal heaven, do you think they would want to see your black ass there?

Now I can't swear

Lukgaf:
"He has never done anything for me"
"He has never spent on me."
"He abandoned me and the kids."
"He's the worst man I’ve ever met."
"I paid the children’s school fees myself."

These are just a few of the many damaging statements we hear often from some wives in moments of anger, bitterness, or while trying to score sympathy from others. But how many of them are really true?

And even if they are partially true, is complete erasure and ingratitude justified?

Some women, out of frustration or desire to paint their husbands in a bad light, ignore years of effort, sacrifices, and struggles that those same men made to keep the home standing.

The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ once said:

“I was shown the Hellfire and found that the majority of its dwellers were women.”
The companions asked, “Why, O Messenger of Allah?”
He said, “Because of their ingratitude.”
It was said, “Are they ungrateful to Allah?”
He replied, “They are ungrateful to their husbands and deny the good done to them. Even if you do good to one of them for a lifetime, then she sees something (she dislikes), she will say: ‘I have never seen any good from you!’”
(Sahih al-Bukhari 29, Muslim 907)

Subhāna’Llāh! What a frightening consequence for something that may seem as small as words yet the pain it causes, the injustice it inflicts, and the lies it spreads, are enough to anger the One who sees all.

I once came across a story of a woman who constantly told people her husband was wicked that he never provided, never loved her, and never cared. Her friends believed her.

But when the man died, and reality hit, she discovered that no one was ready to bankroll her sorrows. The man who had sheltered, fed, and clothed her for years even if imperfectly was gone. Her fabricated image of him couldn’t provide. She was left in regret, and only then admitted that she exaggerated and lied. But it was too late.

Gratitude Is a Sign of Īmān
Allah says:

“If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]...”
(Surah Ibrahim, 14:7)


Let us all women and men learn to appreciate the little, praise the efforts, and pray for the one we married.

Marriage is not always 50/50; sometimes it's 80/20, sometimes 100/0 and only Allah knows the burdens each one silently carries.

If your husband truly does wrong, seek solutions with wisdom. But don’t lie. Don’t exaggerate. And don’t turn people’s hearts against the one who might be doing his best in difficult times.

Let us learn to say: “Jazaakallahu Khayran, may Allah continue to bless you for all that you do.”

Even if it's small gratitude invites barakah.

May Allah grant us tongues that are truthful, hearts that are grateful, and homes that are full of mercy and peace.
Ameen.

gratefullness will always take you to greater heights

Hurray . We are FREE @LAST

A religion doing everything to degrade women and suppress their voice.

Thanks a lot brother

So we can finally walk in here freely...

Antlislaam:
doffman Expanse2020 gaskiyamagana what is the fate of your sisters and mums aftermath bayii? They are also not among the virgins allah will dash you in virgin's island

In Sha Allah they are not among the dwellers of hell but your generation is initially preserved fir the hell....
Hadiths didn't lie because most of the women the Hadiths explained to us let us know that all the trait of the hell is plenty on your family behavior
✌️

Antlislaam:
doffman Expanse2020 gaskiyamagana what is the fate of your sisters and mums aftermath bayii? They are also not among the virgins allah will dash you in virgin's island

Pagan 🤣. The question to ask is that , what will be your fate and your entire lineage in the afterlife ?
Just die first , you will know score .

Wetin pagan know self .

Antlislaam

Keferi himself 🤣

Pagan , Oya read Genesis 19:30-38

Lot and His Daughters:

32 Let’s get our father to drink wine and then sleep with him and preserve our family line through our father.”

33 That night they got their father to drink wine, and the older daughter went in and slept with him. He was not aware of it when she lay down or when she got up.

Pagan , according to your corrupted book , does Lot , the prophet of God impregnate his daughters, YES OR NO ?

🤣

Ok