luckgames:

The dude is sick
But who was first to throw blow

Sisi_Kill: I have a question for the guys and I hope you answer sincerely. . .How would you react if your wife's younger brother comes to your house, not greet you or acknowledge your presence, I mean giving you serious attitude, after all the house belongs to his sister too. Ten mins later, you hear a car starting and before you can say Jack Robinson he has driven away with your car without asking permission.

Please be honest and don't say it is not the same thing. . .we've already established that this is about being territorial.

BABE!:


She didn't fight them; according to her post. She only called them to tell them what they did was very idiotic.

Take a look at Sisi_kill's scenario. What sort of uncivilized behavior is that?

The sister in-law didn't necessary have to go her and say "m'aam, I observed that you're done cooking. May I please have a portion of your nicely prepared soup?"

The SIL could have gone to the kitchen while OP was cooking and jovially said "Haaaa.. there's no way I'm not finishing that food. Better start preparing another round for your husband and yourself. It smells so good! Chei My brother is lucky".

I'm sure the SIL just dashed into the kitchen frowning, with an attitude, and mounted a hip of goat meat on her plate. See ehn, the problem here is not the food. It's common courtesy. The relationship you have with a person determines the kind access you'll have to the person's things.

You can't be giving me serious attitude all they long and jump at my food. You no get shame? Which kind shameless behavior be that?

Some people need to be put in there place, and apparently the husband is no where near putting his sister(s) in check.

debby999: Dear married women and men,pls I need your advice on this issue. I just had a baby boy and still on recovery, my sister inlaw came and Since then my peaceful home has turn to war zone. As am writting this I feel like runing away with my little boy.This lady has never talked to me since she came into the house.she is type that does my "brother's house I don't send anybody".Big war started the day I finished cooking and was about dishing food this lady went to pot and started taking her own. After she finished the eating, I called her and explain to her as I should to my younger ones, that it was not right for her to take the food I just finished cooking without letting me knw. Most times they will take all the meat in the food. The next day my husband called me that her siSter reported me to him. So I told him and he to said it was right. I didn't knw they have tabled the matter with their other sisters and all of them called me and saying I must allow their sis. To go the pot anything anytime she wants which I refused,she was just calling me names. I was suprised when she said my husband supported that the lady should be allowed. My husband came in I told him all that happened,he couldn't stand on his ground to defened his wife infront of his sisters. I felt unprotected. The last one that happened that made me write this was the day my husband brought up dat issue again,bcose he noticed his sister has not been eaten the food in the house. He said I have to treat his sisters with care and piortity and if I don't treat them dat way, bcose a always insist on the right thing, dat anything I see I should take.I told him since you cannot give me protection I have to let my parents knw about incase anything happens to me.called my parents to let them. My baby started crying I bathed him and gave him the baby so I can prepare his food. On bringing the food to feed him,my husband pushed me out, took the food frm me and gave his sister to feed him. Carried me up and threw me on the bed, my hand hit the wardrobe, I was carrying. I dressed up to get a recharge card to let my people knw, he carried me up again and threw me on thE bed. I have to sneaked out late at night when he was sleeping. I called them and I was scared to go back again, I remebered my baby I had to go back. When I got back he has gone out to look for me, I opend my room to sleep, I found his sisters sleeping on my bed, I left them and slept on the couch. I asked the little girl he said my husband told them to sleep there. Am no longer feel protected with him. Since he can humulaite his wife in the presence of his sisters. Waiting for advice. Sorry for the errors, typed it in hurry so I can attend to my baby. ThAnks all.

2mch: Please when did personal property now become synonymous with food? Which was cooked for the house? a house in which the inlaws were staying in at the moment? Food that the brother most likely paid for? Lets compare apples with apples. If the sister in law entered the kitchen to cook for herself another problem abi? . Crazy OP.

dayokanu:

The thing is the situation didnt start from the food, The wife and sister have been having issues before which possibly stems from the wife being too overbearing?

No one would come to your house and go stright to the pot of Soup,

And I am sure you know the manner which the "Call to tell her" was done. It was done to the extent that the SIL stopped eating in the house, That should tell you that that was no ordinary "Calling to tell" like she wanted us to believe

If you go to your brothers house and go serve yourself food Maybe thinking everyone has taken theirs or the Wife wasnt around to inform her, 30mins later the Wife comes and gives you a dressing down over mere food.

The wife's post reek of "This is my territory" too much and that was what drove the husband against her. And now all the family

dayokanu:

The thing is the situation didnt start from the food, The wife and sister have been having issues before which possibly stems from the wife being too overbearing?

No one would come to your house and go stright to the pot of Soup,

And I am sure you know the manner which the "Call to tell her" was done. It was done to the extent that the SIL stopped eating in the house, That should tell you that that was no ordinary "Calling to tell" like she wanted us to believe

If you go to your brothers house and go serve yourself food Maybe thinking everyone has taken theirs or the Wife wasnt around to inform her, 30mins later the Wife comes and gives you a dressing down over mere food.

The wife's post reek of "This is my territory" too much and that was what drove the husband against her. And now all the family

Sisi_Kill:

Of course she didn't come in and head straight for the kitchen. . .it would even be better if she had done that sef.

What she probably did is come to the house, doesn't greet her sister in law, chats with her brother while pointedly ignoring her sister in law, plays with the baby when her sister in law is not there. . .maybe that one quickly went to check the soup in the kitchen and as soon as she comes out, pereku walks away. . .with attitude too (she gotta show SIL she doesn't have her time naa just in case the ignoring and the not greeting is too subtle), she goes back to chat with her brother some more. . .still ignoring her sister in law and then no sooner has the sister in law turned off gas than she carries her wogowogo leg to the kitchen to serve herself. . .ina ruwa, the slave they brought from the village has finished cooking.

Come now!!!!

debby999: This lady has never talked to me since she came into the house.she is type that does my "brother's house I don't send anybody".Big war started the day I finished cooking and was about dishing food this lady went to pot and started taking her own.

2mch: Please when did personal property now become synonymous with food? Which was cooked for the house? a house in which the inlaws were staying in at the moment? Food that the brother most likely paid for? Lets compare apples with apples. If the sister in law entered the kitchen to cook for herself another problem abi? . Crazy OP. Is something that can spoil or replaceable worth spoiling your relationship with family? i pity you OP. Get yourself in the situation where his family hates you first, and see yourself packing out very soon.

Outstrip:

What is your take on the husband taking the food his wife served him and giving it to his sister?

debby999: My baby started crying I bathed him and gave him the baby so I can prepare his food(this would mean the baby IMO). On bringing the food to feed him,my husband pushed me out, took the food frm me and gave his sister to feed him.

BABE!:


Dayokanu . . .

The SIL is not normal. lol. It'a very obvious a guy just broke her heart she needs [i]se[/i]x. OP needs to match-make her arse.

You're right. The relationship between her and the OP is obviously not a good one.

That itself should caution her on how she acts around the wife. Dayokanu, it's very abnormal for me to go finish your pot of soup while I know we're not on good terms. I'll feel uneasy. Plus, it's plain rude! The wife just had a baby for Jupiter's sake. The SIL is a troublemaker. She is the one blowing things out of proportion and not the OP. Only God knows what she told the husband.

She also stopped eating in the house to make look like OP stabbed her with a sharp knife. Yeye people!

BABE!:


Dayokanu . . .

The SIL is not normal. lol. It'a very obvious a guy just broke her heart she needs [i]se[/i]x. OP needs to match-make her arse.

You're right. The relationship between her and the OP is obviously not a good one.

That itself should caution her on how she acts around the wife. Dayokanu, it's very abnormal for me to go finish your pot of soup while I know we're not on good terms. I'll feel uneasy. Plus, it's plain rude! The wife just had a baby for Jupiter's sake. The SIL is a troublemaker. She is the one blowing things out of proportion and not the OP. Only God knows what she told the husband.

She also stopped eating in the house to make it look like OP stabbed her with a sharp knife. Yeye people!

Outstrip:

EPIC FAIL. This is where you guys start making mockery of your position in your home. Food he likely paid for. What if the woman was the bread winner then what? Most families depend on the two incomes to survive now adays. So murdar flipping what if he paid for the food? Good Lord. You have issues you need to deal with. With that mentality you already show that you have an inferiority complex. If the woman happens to carry the family for a little while you will probably make her life misreable because the only thing you believe you are good for you find that anybody with two legs and two hands can do

dayokanu:

Obviously you got it wrong, She was referring to the baby and not the husband or why would the sister need to feed her husband? is he an 1mbec1le

moremi2008: This is why unwise children shouldn't be allowed to get married. A truly simple situation has now blown-up into an extended family conflict. What kind of families do you both come from? Don't you have wise men and women to talk some sense into you all? Why are you jeopardizing your marriage with childish grudges and fights?

From what I have read, I can say confidently that the OP is a bit foolish and immature. She's not yet ready to live in a man's house as the woman of the house. Her sister-in-laws are obviously wrong but they did nothing that couldn't have been nipped in the bud with a few calm, soothing words to the husband in bed, a little patience, a little bit of humility, a little bit of maturity and a soft but firm touch. Now that your husband has sided with his sisters against you, what are you going to do? Pack out of the house? This is a horrible start to a marriage. I am very afraid of the future ahead of you. You need prayers, wise counsel and divine intervention. Good luck!

Outstrip:

Okay thanks for correcting me but wait oh. The man took the womans baby and gave him to his sister to feed. it is over now. Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaat. I am laughing because I don't know what else to do. wow. That is even worse. What nonsense. Honestly I am livid. Just the thought. I will probably slice my husband. I mean. In what land does someone do a thing like that. The man is obviously not ready to be married. No woman will stand for that. I will forgive adultery before I forgive that. What nonsense. Honestly if I was the SIL and put in that position by my useless brother I will refuse. I will refuse. You are already calling your wife a bad wife in the presence of his family but to insinuate that she is bad mother? Where was that bloody sister when your wife carried the child for nine months, where was she all the nights you woke up every 2 hours. What utter disrespect. The man needs a public flogging. This should be classified under abomination

armyofone: not right acting anyhow when you visit your inlaws house. it is their home and not yours.
how long will it take for nigerians to change this mentality?

act as a guest and don't feel too layback.
going into the kitchen to take meat and soup with madam there, not so cool.

hey autie, can i have some food please, simple. how hard is that?

ku na buga dongo turenchi.
da godiya.

dayokanu:

Look at it this way, a confrontation was brewing and things are about to explode, an infant is in the middle of things? Whats the rational thing to do? push the wife while she is carrying the baby? if he did that what would you say about him?

dayokanu:

Its obvious OP was embelishing.[b] No one would come into your house without greeting you unless you have a prior issue. [/b]You should learn to read in between the lines. Are you not Nigerian? Havent you heard the familiar "I was just going [i]jejely [/i]before John slapped me and tore my clothes" obviously you were not going on your own and a complete stranger slapped you


One question if you were the SIL after the "calling and talking" over food, Would you continue eating in that house?

Yes, it's obvious they had prior issues. The OP didn't state that, but it's very glaring. I don't know what the issue was and I don't know who was at fault. Those things are not important at this point.

Fast forward to when she came into the house. The two are not on talking/good terms. Why would she just dash into the kitchen after the OP is done cooking and start dishing her food? ? ? I ask again, isn't that shameful and impolite?

Don't forget that this is the Wife's house and not the SIL's. See what late marriage can cause? Pock-nosing and sniffing around people's pots of soup.

Answer to your question; I can't be the SIL. Sorry. Going according to OP's story, I won't be caught dead acting the way the SIL is acting... even if I HATE my brother's wife.

2mch:

From what i read of the OP they live in Nigeria. Also, she ran away from the house, it is most likely HIS house. She is working, and apparently he also has a source of income. From what i know about Nigerian women in that situation, they collect money from their husbands, typical and cultural. If she is claiming culture forbids anyone from entering her pot, i assume culture allows the husband to also bring food money? Abi no be so?

kaboninc: @OP Honestly I think if you follow some of these ideas proffered here, it'll take farther away from your home. Also most of these advisors either are not married or don't have any experience. If in your husband's house the kids are free to eat as they like, then this is your own house. A mum and wife in your own house and they must follow your rules. I don't see why someone will come to one's house just because their husband is their brother and they'll act like its their father's house. Where's the respect? And then your husband supports them? Please seek advice from elders not these people here!

baggy4luv: Your hubby is spiritually blinded.
Ur inlaw na strongwoman(she aint ordinary).
You:you are too soft.
Solution
1.be mad(wear your armour)
2.prayer points
3.confront her with deep proverbs
4.look for spiritual backup
5.dry fasting
6.do smthing that would make the girl dread you.
Your mum self na gentle woman oh.if u like op say na rubbish i dey type.#peels groundnuts#

baggy4luv: Your hubby is spiritually blinded.
Ur inlaw na strongwoman(she aint ordinary).
You:you are too soft.
Solution
1.be mad(wear your armour)
2.prayer points
3.confront her with deep proverbs
4.look for spiritual backup
5.dry fasting
6.do smthing that would make the girl dread you.
Your mum self na gentle woman oh.if u like op say na rubbish i dey type.#peels groundnuts#

BABE!:


She didn't fight her; according to her post. She only called her to tell her what she did was very idiotic.

Take a look at Sisi_kill's scenario. What sort of uncivilized behavior is that?

The sister in-law didn't necessary have to go her and say "m'aam, I observed that you're done cooking. May I please have a portion of your nicely prepared soup?"

The SIL could have gone to the kitchen while OP was cooking and jovially said "Haaaa.. there's no way I'm not finishing that food. Better start preparing another round for your husband and yourself. It smells so good! Chei My brother is lucky".

I'm sure the SIL just dashed into the kitchen frowning, with an attitude, and mounted a hip of goat meat on her plate. See ehn, the problem here is not the food. It's common courtesy. The relationship you have with a person determines the kind access you'll have to the person's things.

You can't be giving me serious attitude all they long and jump at my food. You no get shame? Which kind shameless behavior be that?

Some people need to be put in there place, and apparently the husband is no where near putting his sister(s) in check.