He keep leaving me then refuse to talk to me at all. I love him very much but dont know how i can make him stay? Any advice?

This just might be a guinean tradition.

tradition? to just up and leave then refuse to talk to me? Why?

I would have loved to give you my priceless advise but after readin your one line all I can say is you have no self worth/value, no head on your shoulders and no brain to match anything at all. So nope, I would not spend time advising a brainless Girl with such a low self esteem who has not even a $1 value attached to her name.

Anu ohia. Enjoy ya thread

you no i ask for advice not insults, so tek ur nastiness somewhere else

(double post)

That was a tad bit harsh tho @ JennyKadry but i can understand!

At poster, point is two people can do the getting up and leaving. You should try it! My previous post was irony.

Basildon1: That was a tad bit harsh tho @ JennyKadry but i can understand!

At poster, point is two people can do the getting up and leaving. You should try it! My previous post was irony.

U understand what? Pls elaborate b4 I talk my own o!

jannat: you no i ask for advice not insults, so tek ur nastiness somewhere else

Lol! Is dat all?

I laff in my indian accent *Nehinehinehi*

I know this was a silly post really cause i know its over but i dont want it to be?

Idowuogbo:
U understand what? Pls elaborate b4 I talk my own o!

LOL. She made herself clear that the poster should wake up from slumber but the dissing was a lot tho! No sha add your own join o!

Poster you dd not explain anything well enough for you to get tangible advice, what transpired between you and him? Why does he keep leaving you? Why does he keep mute on you? If you are doing your best in the marriage and he wants to leave you, there's nothing that you can do for a man that wants to leave you for somebody else or over something.
You did not paint the picture clear enough for one to make a deduction but in my own opinion you may be happier without a man that wants to up and leave without first discussing/sorting out problems with his wife----I may be able to view this from a better angle when your story is clearer. You sound unhappy---do pull yourself together okay, everything will be alright.

jannat: He keep leaving me then refuse to talk to me at all. I love him very much but dont know how i can make him stay? Any advice?

For something this serious, if you really want help here, you should make more effort to provide a bit more background information.

For example:

* How long have you both been married for? Have you got kids from the union? Where are you based?

* You mention that he keeps leaving you - meaning he walks out then returns? Any idea why? Have you done something to offend him?

* Something must have gone wrong somewhere, surely you know that. What was it? A man wouldn't wake up one morning and decide to walk out on his matrimonial home. Something(s) must have triggered that action of his. What?

Based on the very little you've given us to go by here, I would suggest you try to get to the root of the matter. Communicate with him. Get people he listens to and respects to try and talk to him. You obviously want your marriage to work. Book yourselves a couple of sessions with marriage counsellors. And above all, have faith and pray for your marriage to overcome this difficult hurdle.

Hope this helps and goodluck

Is your being english hijabi and his being guinea fula part of what you suspect to be the problem of your marriage?

Basildon1:
LOL. She made herself clear that the poster should wake up from slumber but the dissing was a lot tho! No sha add your own join o!

Made herself clear indeed! add my own join? Na boss! Only a reptile would cough unnecessary BS.

Poster, can you kindly answer the questions posted by Efe

Efemena_xy:

For something this serious, if you really want help here, you should make more effort to provide a bit more background information.

For example:

* How long have you both been married for? Have you got kids from the union? Where are you based?

* You mention that he keeps leaving you - meaning he walks out then returns? Any idea why? Have you done something to offend him?

* Something must have gone wrong somewhere, surely you know that. What was it? A man wouldn't wake up one morning and decide to walk out on his matrimonial home. Something(s) must have triggered that action of his. What?

Based on the very little you've given us to go by here, I would suggest you try to get to the root of the matter. Communicate with him. Get people he listens to and respects to try and talk to him. You obviously want your marriage to work. Book yourselves a couple of sessions with marriage counsellors. And above all, have faith and pray for your marriage to overcome this difficult hurdle.

Hope this helps and goodluck

Mrs Solomon! Dis section fit u o!

^^ ID wetin naw?

You nor gree return to lounge, I don beg you tire - wetin you want make man pikin do sef?

Idowuogbo:
Mrs Solomon! Dis section fit u o!

As in, you go fear essay with spacing, paragraph and bulletpoint join!

^^ *** Screams wiff lafter!***

Na mobile phone I dey type from naw!

Abeg make una free me jor!

Basildon1:
As in, you go fear essay with spacing, paragraph and bulletpoint join!

See u! D efenenawanchuckwu me no na Shakespeare pikin.

U go take wen she offload her shorthand

Efemena_xy: ^^ ID wetin naw?

You nor gree return to lounge, I don beg you tire - wetin you want make man pikin do sef?

Awwh.... I dey come cabarn today

Show face o!

Ma face dey dia now-now...

LMAO. Don't like my post? Hit your head on the wall all of you of ask your mother why she brought you into this world to read JK's posts.

Basildon1: That was a tad bit harsh tho @ JennyKadry but i can understand!

At poster, point is two people can do the getting up and leaving. You should try it! My previous post was irony.

You know me naaa. I take pride in saying things people don't like. Been doing it and won't stop ever

jannat: you no i ask for advice not insults, so tek ur nastiness somewhere else

And so I shall. I have made my point.

Sorry. Why does he keep leaving you?

You have decided to stay at all cost, so what exactly do you want us to say.Just wait until he comes back home again. And then you all continue where you stop.

Its hard to see someone writhing in pain and then stab them to the ground still.

Sad!

Jannat...you have got to find the will power to either sever the relationship or sit him dowm and ask him which way forward.

Thanks! we been together 5yrs married for 2! The thing is I am hurting both sad and angry that I a usually well balanced woman would let myself get in this situation?
Me being an english hijabi and him a guinean fula man definately not at the core of probs, but explains that we face many cultural differences n these add to the stress!
I love this man with every ounce of my being, but the truth is he's an extremely selfish man and not worthy of these feelings!
I have told him i will wait only till Ramadan finish for him to talk about our issues with me and if not I want a divorce as I deserve better?

some people just bomp into someone thread, one who,s already damaged and hurtin badly, foolishly and stupidly bash d person with insult as if dey have THE PERFECT LIFE, only in their IGNORANCE, they expect people 2 like their post and applaud dem. Godiswashingyou as u no get conscience!

i really miss being intimate ! i like sex n am really missin it but i am no dutty gal n cant just go n get me some? only God know wat really goin happen so I'll just have to wait and see?
One thing i am sure of tho is he not goin treat me like a dutty door mat any more!

@Jannat
Hugs to you dear. Did he leave you alone in your house? Does he have another love interest somewhere? Be strong okay, yes try and sort it out with him as you said so that you can know what best to do. Do take care of yourself okay Baby.