₦airaland Forum

Kobojunkie:
Sorry, but those sort of lies no be my thing. I am at least glad this one over here is finally cutting the purse strings of those on this side who have been taking advantage of the system for so long. 🥱🥱

I don't like it when able bodied individuals think it is OK to game the system while depriving so many others of the opportunity they deserve by it. Yes, there are probably some old folks eating cat food because they can't get money to eat from the same government. 🥱🥱🥱

I insisted that you'll understand when you get there.

I know that about 70% of Nigerians over there are doing this.

I won't go to details make I no cast people hustling

Kobojunkie:
Wat in the world? How big are those checks that people would prefer them to progress? 🤔

When you get there you'll understand

Dtruthspeaker:
I understood that it is fake and I commented. And you have gotten the attention you aimed for

Okay, thanks.

kwaso2:
He must have been through HELL. Would you rather your brother commits suicide? God forbid, I guess. Some women are more deadly than poison in marriage. Men are psychologically wired to endure or tolerate. When they finally explore, they react differently. MY ADVICE: Just provide some psychological/emotional support to him. i feel he needs some re-assurance. He will snap out of it (If you can, step in to do daddy role to his son, he will surely come by- he needs to fix himself from too much toxicity from his spouse). If you can(again) arrange to bring his son to his hideout(new accommodation). I wish y'all well.

They're in UK, I am in Nigeria

LordReed:
Probably telling some fibs to get government assistance. She'd expose those lies if she reports the correct situation. Had a relative have the same thing happen. The woman refused to get married to him so she could keep getting those benefits for their child.

Only those in the situation understand better.

doncartel:
The same thing your brother do naim I for do.

Hmmm.

tgmservice:
Your bro don find another banny

He doesn't Keep ladies, just like me.

Josywhyte:
My advice? Get the boy away from his mother so she doesn't poison his mind about his father. You can give the boy to your mum and let your brother know what you've done. I think from there he'll come pick his child or start supporting him again. He till feels his ex-wife is trying to use his son to draw him back to the marriage, hence, his reluctance to expose his current location. Who don faint before no be stranger to death. He may not know other deeper things that guy went through in that marriage. Marriage these days na something else. I know of a pastor that faces this same issue with his wife, but he can't leave the marriage because of what people will say(may be because of his title). He smiles and plays when you see him outside, but at home....HELL from his Lucifer wife...

They're in UK, we're in Nigeria

Dtruthspeaker:
Fake.

One minute, you sounded like it was abroad; next, you sound like it is in Nigeria.

Read very well to understand and not to comment.

BRATISLAVA:
BTW, can someone determine the actual gender of this child?

When you all want to crucify a woman, you'll tell us the same story: man pays all the bills, blah blah blah, but emphasis on he pays all the bills. Is it something they teach you guys in the school of female crucifixion? What was a family man supposed to do anyway, that you guys like telling us this line? If he doesn't pay the bills, who should— her parents? Her ex boyfriend? Her family??

Strungup78 comes to mind.

Until we hear from this woman, nobody can give any real advice. Especially not with the "he pays all the bills" line intended to destroy women.

Don't try to be smart by half...

I am not really interested in thier issue and I never blame the wife in the narration. All I want is how to convince him not to abandon his son.

anonimi:
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You can watch the video to hear from the horse's mouth live & direct.


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So, where did he mention the judiciary in what you posted?

Yes, he claimed to help in Osun, but does that translate to the judiciary?

erico2k2:
Leave your brother ohhh, the lady fit frame am true true, wahala don start B dat

It's well

DeGLORIOUS:
When she was locking him out in the cold, what was she thinking of?

I wonder o

meobizy:
Face your matter and leave them alone. They will be all right, last last.

But they both run to me, even as a very small boy, to them.

I had to ask for help when I got confused too

Where did he mention using the judiciary to help the APC?

You people are just desperate.

meobizy:
Your hand break? Them dey forbid taking care of niblings for your village? Your brother has abandoned his post. Take it up.

So, if he dies now, this is how you will abandon his children?

Why are you frustrated? I have my bills to pay too, and I am in Nigeria, not in the UK, with them.

LibertyRep:
There's no way he'd leave ADC before the primaries, that'd make him appear flippant and directionless.

So he'd rather stay put in ADC and fight for the ticket.

He'll leave ADC if he knows that he doesn't have a chance. He can't contest the primary and later go to another party for a ticket. It's a suicide mission

Kobojunkie:
I mean that the fact they are in the UK should not stop you from keeping in touch with the woman and the child, so you can at least probably be contacted by her if things change regarding her caring for the child.🥱

Ok. Thanks

Kobojunkie:
I know, so you have your work cut out for you. It is sad! 🥱🥱🥱

I don't understand please

Kobojunkie:
Your family should try to maintain contact with the woman and the child. Not on behalf of your brother, but the fact that the child is blood. Call him often and talk to him as often as possible, doing your best to provide for him when possible. That way, even if the woman thinks of giving him up for adoption, she would let you all know out of courtesy.

They're in UK

Melancho:
I stopped reading at the part that his wife always lock him out from his house. That's first problem, some men are just weak. Simple.

He's not weak, it's in the UK and not Nigeria.

If you have married men in the UK, ask their story, and you'll see the similarities.

silibaba:
Which ever one that suits her.

Life is not as hard as we think. I love the young man's decision.

Lets assumed the man died on depression. Will the wife and son stop living?

You have a point. I see some level of depression in him and I don't blame him for abandoning the marriage, but the boy deserves a father's care

Kobojunkie:
Not if she decides to leave him in the system or orphanage. 🥱🥱🥱

My fear too

LeoThaGreat:
Your brother and his estranged partner should appoint a proxy or an intermediary between him and his son.

He must not shy away from his responsibilities as a father.

He is right to think of negative things the woman might do to him to get him into more trouble, but with an appointed intermediary between them, he may not necessarily have to contact the woman anymore. The intermediary can bring his son at times when he's chanced, either weekly or monthly so they can catch up.

His son is his descent and the one to sustain his DNA is alive in generations to come. It doesn't matter if he will have other children from other women. He must be a good father to all his children

This is where I wish he could understand.

I have been separated from my marriage for 4 years, but I don't joke with both my kids

CandyOps:
Hopefully he comes around to supporting his child. But that’s the sad reality. Sometimes you have to leave what’s good for what’s better. He was a victim of circumstance

Hmmm

SixSeven:
Your story is incomplete. What will give it completeness is the location of your brother and your families.

UK and Nigeria

CandyOps:
Collateral damage

Wickedness

CandyOps:
The best way to handle a woman’s eff up is to leave her. To walk away. Let her know she’s replaceable

I agree, but what about the Child?

Kobojunkie:
1. Ah! Your brother and the women were leeching off the system before this? Oh..wow! 🥱🥱

Anyways, so long as the child belongs to him, she can file for child support using his name and I believe garnishing of wages is possible in the UK in the case of those who default on child support payments. 🤔

2. Why should a woman share support with man whose job it is to provide for the family, though? Worse, your brother and this woman were milking the system and you thing the support is to blame for their individual moral failings? 🥱🥱🥱

Your brother was paying next to nothing in rent and bills and didn't need to worry much about providing for his own child, thanks to government subsiding his living, yet you feel he should have been given even more? 🥱🥱

How they earn is none of my business. I only want him to be present for his child.

And again, the woman can not go to thengovernment else she'll put herself in big trouble

Kobojunkie:
What about child support? Does your brother currently pay that? If he does pay only a portion , the woman can request more from him since he now requires she handles the child 100%. 🥱🥱

They did not even know where he stayed.

The government must not know she has a husband, else they will cut off all her support, and that would never favour her.

I think government support is one of the main issues that affects marriages in the UK. The women will get it and not share with their partners who still pay all the bills.

Lalami3232:
Anyways, this one no be big issue to resolve. Wetin you go do na to support your brother in getting a divorce and cutting off the woman completely. Na who wear shoe na know where E dey pinch am. But advice your brother not to abandon his child, especially when DNA test don prove say he's the father. Wetin me go suggest be say make he take her to court make dem grant am access to the child once in a while. When I dey read about marriages online, I no go wan just marry again. But that aside sha, once again, try to support your brother because most men dey silently die for marriage and the society dey expect dem not to complain all because they're "the stronger vessel" according to gaslighting chapter 2.

What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

This happened in UK and they're not married legally under the UK law.

I this there's this thing they do to get government support.