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Thanks in advance

hysterical

hubby and i had a long talk last night for about three hours and i even showed him this site and what id asked he said that despite what one has said some of you are not true nigerians becaus if you were you wouldnt blast in such a way

oh well

signing off now have a good life!

strangers to me well yes you are since i do not know you nor you know me - thats the definition of being a stranger.

thanks fo your post agathamari, its very interesting that a non-nigerian wife cannot complain about her husband without a backlash very interesting indeed. this site says it is for nigerians and friends of nigerians , oh well nevermind , with that in mind im wasting my time here so good luck people and i do hope in your life you too do not get "backlash" from white people if you are probably surrounded by esp. if you live in the US. From my experience nigerians, some, are not very popular amongst white people although gregarious they are seen as very arrogant and overbearing especially the women, I have never bought into that stereotype but ive been shocked at some of the responses her , its does nigerians as a group no justice whatever , and for the most part just because i am white/ foreign and i have a complaint about my husband (lucky those women who have perfect husbands)

Good day

hahahahaha just what i execpted

I ask because this has to be the most critical of forums i have ever been on - and to be honest i see this in person too - so im seeing a pattern too!

this forum isnt actually for me im not getting much contructive im getting responses that are criticisng me , i dont mind being critised but im thinking these people know nothing about me LOL

I think i know the answer to this question already but will post anyway

This has to be the most critical forum ive ever come across is this a nigerian thing i suspect! i experience this will my inlaws too everyone telling us what to from what to wear and what to eat!

jeez this forum is weird - do people not have a life outside their PC? do they have to sit on the PC 24/7 so they can respond in a timely manner i have a baby to take care of and dont have to answer to a bunch of "strangers" GET A LIFE

hahahahaha the last comment from Jenny! I didnt know this forum could be so amusing , thats one very unhappy female shame , husband off eyeing up the white women ? the venom towards ww makes me chuckle

but yes thanks to all the other posters i have my own thoughts as to his behaviours hes been very stressed and by his own admission doesnt really DO gifts etc.

that post is hysterical jenny keep it coming with have to tell my girlfriends about you classic tho do hope youre not as verbal in real life orally other wise you get seriously bashed by not so nice people , tho suspect you are , will say a prayer for you that you see the error of your ways have a lovely day

hes probably fat and short and ugly like you

Have a lovely day jenny im sure you got it coming right back at you

thank you ebonyz for answering my question on point

jennny shame goodnight to you and all the best

*karma*

enjoyed th intimacy and how he gave it to me    hahahahahahaha darling im not talking about SEX romance is not all about the bedroom and why would a woman marry a man just because hes good in bed , sigh , i detect a bit of racism from you because of my colour

is it possible to be in two sections at any one time  

no i didnt get that either i just thought of maybe nigerian men arent that romantic - i thought that at the time anyhow which is why i asked the question - i do recall my spouse was romantic much more so than now , oh well!

jenny have you been drinking

i have bought him lovely gifts, some very expensive he doesnt appreciate them at all and doesnt return the favour , its weird to me , one of his friends commented that because i was white did he have to be more romantic! thats always stuck in my head

seriously all my friends' hubbys do all sorts of romantic gestures for them we havent even been married 2 years , my wedding anniversary was a non event too , thats just mean

no not at all - My experience is once married all nice gestures go - hes gone lazy in that regard thats what ive noticed

my husband is nigerian and would never have done that and just take it from me his family is wealthy, no not in nigeria we live in the US

I ask because mine doesnt acknowldge birthdays, christmas, new year, valentines day , not that he needs to per se but what i mean is on days such like when nice gestures can be performed they pass by like a non event ALL THE TIME. My experience is once married all nice gestures go , or is that just me? and no im not a materialistic person at all i always believe the thought counts ,

so, in general are they romantic , ?

yes I can read thank you I figured you would understand what married the man meant - you know had a big weddding party met the family! these things happen when you marry and yes i have

From what I have read and the replies it sounds like your husband doesnt appreciate you at all, why should he always be going out what about you and when do you get a break from childcare. A child that is 5 months old is HARDWORK I see some male replyer asked you what you did in the house all day he should try looking after a baby all day. I am tired of hearing how us women should dress up be sexy and pamper our husbands egos. Once a woman has given a child to her husband he should do all he can to show appreciation and love towards them and the rest will come naturally. Men in general see us as below them I for one do not believe I am here to serve expecially to someone that is undeserving ie. doesnt appreciate.

I feel your pain that your family had reservations too that is painful, you do need to sit him down and tell him what would make you feel a bit happier. You child is probably a bit young just yet to go back to work but aim for when she is say 9 months so you can get out and meet more people.

Good luck hope something happens for the better soon

I am married to the man

Please can you help me answer something that is troubling me, I would really appreciate any feedback/ comments/ thought:

I have a nigerian husband, I am white.  We have been married for 2 years only and married relatively quickly after a short courtship.

He is from a reasonably wealthy background and I am starting to question his sense of reality because he is very childish.  His childishness only became apparent once I got pregnant when he showed no interest.  He operates so singularly like hes a single man.  He tells me little.   With our child he doesnt help much tho now the child is getting older he is playing with him more.  He doesnt do much housework.  He also doesnt seek to help me carry bags when he sees I am struggling.  It is very strange to me.  It is almost like he lives in his own little world.

Any thoughts?