I ask because mine doesnt acknowldge birthdays, christmas, new year, valentines day , not that he needs to per se but what i mean is on days such like when nice gestures can be performed they pass by like a non event ALL THE TIME. My experience is once married all nice gestures go , or is that just me? and no im not a materialistic person at all i always believe the thought counts ,

so, in general are they romantic , ?

I am sorry to ask but was your marriage an arranged marriage? i asked this because didnt u know he was like that before marrying him?

Oh i see, are u saying he used to acknowledge those dates b4 u got married?

no not at all - My experience is once married all nice gestures go - hes gone lazy in that regard thats what ive noticed

abi2008:

no not at all - My experience is once married all nice gestures go - hes gone lazy in that regard thats what ive noticed

Lol, u have said it all usually when people get married they tend to relax n become lazy.
why dont you try and do something for him on those dates maybe that might shake him up?

seriously all my friends' hubbys do all sorts of romantic gestures for them we havent even been married 2 years , my wedding anniversary was a non event too , thats just mean

i have bought him lovely gifts, some very expensive he doesnt appreciate them at all and doesnt return the favour , its weird to me , one of his friends commented that because i was white did he have to be more romantic! thats always stuck in my head

ebonyz:

I am sorry to ask[b] but was your marriage an arranged marriage? i asked this because didnt u know he was like that before marrying him?[/b]
Oh i see, are u saying he used to acknowledge those dates b4 u got married?

See how she dodged these questions? shes been dodging some questions too in the family section

abi2008:

i have bought him lovely gifts, some very expensive he doesnt appreciate them at all and doesnt return the favour , its weird to me , one of his friends commented that because i was white did he have to be more romantic! thats always stuck in my head

Im sorry, i dont get that part

jennykadry:

See how she dodged these questions? shes been dodging some questions too in the family section

oh?

jenny have you been drinking

no i didnt get that either i just thought of maybe nigerian men arent that romantic - i thought that at the time anyhow which is why i asked the question - i do recall my spouse was romantic much more so than now , oh well!

No darling, i have not been drinking, just think you are one of those that had a good sex with a nigerian man and as usual enjoyed the styles and way he gave it to you, that the next thing that crossed your mind then was " Marry him and forever enjoy the sex"

is it possible to be in two sections at any one time  

abi2008:

no i didnt get that either i just thought of maybe nigerian men arent that romantic - i thought that at the time anyhow which is why i asked the question - i do recall my spouse was romantic much more so than now , oh well!

Most Nigerian guys arent romantic.

yes, same way its possible to used by a nigerian man the same way yours is using you, whats next? dump, same way he is going to dump you for his own pple(women), im i harsh? nope sweetheart im not

enjoyed th intimacy and how he gave it to me    hahahahahahaha darling im not talking about SEX romance is not all about the bedroom and why would a woman marry a man just because hes good in bed , sigh , i detect a bit of racism from you because of my colour

jennny shame goodnight to you and all the best

*karma*

thank you ebonyz for answering my question on point

call me whatever, but we've had issues with women coming on here cos their hubby did one thing or the other to them, like someone asked, did you not notice all these b4 you married him? could all these nagging be the reason why alot of the so called nigerian men leave you lot later for a fellow nigerian

Im going to speak my mind, pity im off to work soon, but i dont care if you call me a racist or not, but it is so obvious you are lying about a lot of things, cos questions have been asked about these marriage and you keep avoiding it? a marriage done in the states? where are his parents? no tangible answer

abeg go with your arranged marriage and suffer as much as you like

Have a lovely day jenny im sure you got it coming right back at you

No honey, i looked before i leaped, Lucky me

Enjoy

hes probably fat and short and ugly like you

abi2008:

hes probably fat and short and ugly like you

OUCH!!!!!

That must hurt real Bad

The perspective with which a man remains romantic in a marriage depends on what the wife puts up. If the wife doesn't demonstrate that she still appreciates romance, most men won't budge. Weird but that's the truth. You will be surprised to see some married women not dressing sexy anymore because they believe they're married and should be confined to a certain dress code. What do you expect the husband in question to do when he sees another lady outside, all dressed up sexy?

The pelican correct!

HAHAHAHA.

abi2008:

I ask because mine doesnt acknowldge birthdays, christmas, new year, valentines day ,  not that he needs to per se but what i mean is on days such like when nice gestures can be performed they pass by like a non event ALL THE TIME.  My experience is once married all nice gestures go ,  or is that just me?  and no im not a materialistic person at all i always believe the thought counts , 

so, in general are they romantic ,  ?   

HAHAHAHA! Not our fault we dey hustle. U don ever hear of austerity, na im be the Prime Minister 4 Nigeria. Face it if ur hubby buys a new ride una no dey go flex, promotion nko? All these occassions when u mention so u no no if ground no level? abeg free the guy the only thing u can do is try rekindling the old flame. Its still there somewhere if not e 4 no marry u!

ebonyz:

I am sorry to ask but was your marriage an arranged marriage? i asked this because didnt u know he was like that before marrying him?

Oh i see, are u saying he used to acknowledge those dates b4 u got married?

Thats why he asked those questions. Since u married 4 love, u bam , nothing do u. If ur hubby is not making the right moves make them for him and u will c e go follow, e nor b guy? even my popsi self e dey understand code.

hahahahaha the last comment from Jenny! I didnt know this forum could be so amusing , thats one very unhappy female shame , husband off eyeing up the white women ? the venom towards ww makes me chuckle

but yes thanks to all the other posters i have my own thoughts as to his behaviours hes been very stressed and by his own admission doesnt really DO gifts etc.

that post is hysterical jenny keep it coming with have to tell my girlfriends about you classic tho do hope youre not as verbal in real life orally other wise you get seriously bashed by not so nice people , tho suspect you are , will say a prayer for you that you see the error of your ways have a lovely day

abi2008:

I ask because mine doesnt acknowldge birthdays, christmas, new year, valentines day , not that he needs to per se but what i mean is on days such like when nice gestures can be performed they pass by like a non event ALL THE TIME. My experience is once married all nice gestures go , or is that just me? and no im not a materialistic person at all i always believe the thought counts ,

so, in general are they romantic , ?

Not speaking from personal experience, just what I've noticed from the Naija guys I know - they are NOT romantic. But, they remember birthdays, anniversaries and say "happy birthday", etc. . . rarely any gifts, maybe a card if you're lucky

Was he always this way, or only after you married? If he has always been this way, you cannot expect him to change it.
You married him knowing this. If he wasn't always this way, I think you need to talk to him about the change and how it affects you.

Gosh, it looks like bagdad in here Cant we all just get along people?

I dont think Nigerian or African people are romantic. A card is even stretching it, you should be lucky if you get a vocal acknowledgment.

he poster is white

and her husband is either a scrub

or hes from the bushes

@op

unfortunately for u no- nigerian men are not natural romantics

i mean there mite be the few that watch alot of tv and can make sporadic gestures

but i wont count on u findin one!!

Omg, Why all the bashing?

Good to see you're still around
@topic,yes they are,my husband doesn't even wait for an event,he does little things like send me a really nice txt from work or buys a box of my fav chocolate or smth nice,just because.Hope I answered your question.