Ibechris2:



I am a married man,never u start ur marriage on a bad footing...marriage is a very serious business. It is not a place u profess love to a woman but an institution where u work out the love in real time.

U cannot love that woman as u claimed. Because if reality sets in u will remember this day. Baby mama's cannot be trusted,all what they want is just for somebody to father their child while still have serious contact with their ex.

In fact,they are like second wives always trying to protect the interest of their away child and this could spell a doom to the entire family.

Young man,go ahead with ur decision as this is just my opinion.

Wish u well in ur pursuit.

Its Okay sir, That is why I needed people suggestions especially those that are married, ... Thank God for my family too. This thing they call love is serious ooo. I pray for God's decision to take place. As I can't afford to have a broken home or marry twice, God forbid.

Plz what suggestions do u hv for me at this point in time?

The latest now is that my people has been informed abt the child by me, Everyone has agreed that I should move ahead with marriage plans except my Dad who is the head of the family. And we need his consent b4 anytin can be done. So their can be peace.

Ibechris2:
I am an advocate of marriage but not with a baby mama...anyone who does not like my comment should pray their children finds such a woman.

In fact,most of them can't be trusted...80% for sure.

And if must go ahead, on behalf of nairaland I say congratulations but don't come back to regrets ur decision.

Wish u the best.

can't be trusted in terms of what sir? Remember she got that child as a result of past dating not dat she has been married b4.

realtalk19:


What if she is also loaded and has her own money?

she's not loaded as you are thinking, though she has a job.

realtalk19:


What if he is a dead beat father?

The biological Father is still Alive and married now.... but without kids for now..... According to my girl.

Resurgent2016:


It seems you gone past the point of deciding if she is the one you'll like to spend the rest of your life with. However, I'll advice you to give a second thought to what people are telling you here. Indeed you may actually find more happiness there than with non-single mom. However, the people reading you the riot act also have a point, these relationships can get very complicated once you officially go in because there are more than two parties at the center. Stay safe, stay happy...

https://www.nairaland.com/5731810/husband-doesnt-want-son-come

Thanks I will read it up...

AngryNigerian:


My take: don't tell them yet. They'll find out later and deal with it by then. For now, focus on blending well with her, her with your family and vice versa.

But...hope it's worth it oo. Good luck; don't mind the barrage of I'll comments you will get from people. I'm there with you on this one

its Alright, Believe me.... It has been difficult for me deciding because of d kind of family I come from.... I wouldn't like to hide tinz from my my ppl... But she's saying I shouldn't tell them now........

ZINIBANKS:
So out of all the 65 million girls in Nigeria you no see any single one choose na after 1 abi
Your stupidity has full Jerry-can
You will open another thread again

This doesn't call for insult, I will Appreciate u make ur suggestion and leave. Simply.

Bigblessed:
Can it be said that you don't know what you want?

I know what I want dear... it seems coming out is difficult.

Thanks to All your comments, believe me I expected different advices from different angles. What matters is LOVE and RESPECT from both couples. Thanks

Good day, My fellow nairalanders, I have to create this second account for ur advice.
I have a lady I met for some months now, We fell in love with eachother but the problem is that she had a daughter for another man. She's a single mum...should i tell my people about her daughter, because of the way our relationship is moving towards marriage... please I need the house to tell me the implications of hiding it from my people?