The Unseen Language in partnership with Sanemind Advocacy Organization present AN ART EXHIBITION ON MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS AND STIGMA.
THEME : Not Seen But Felt
DATE: July 31st - Aug 5th.
VENUE: 18 Libreville crescent, Wuse 2, Abuja, Nigeria
Painting by Ayogu Kingsley
MEDIA PARTNERS: Africa Independence Televidion (AIT) and Across Africa Communication Project Limited.
EVENT SCHEDULE:
DAY1: July 31st, Private viewing of art works 5pm - 10pm ( Strictly by Invitation)
DAY2: Aug 1st, On the couch, Interactive Session, 12pm - 4pm ( open to all)
DAY3 - DAY6: Aug 2nd - Aug 5th, Walk Inn, Art Display, 9am - 7pm Daily ( Open to all)

Some will say relationship is all about forgive and forget, oh yes you are right but there are somethings you shouldn’t take for granted, that is why a lot of relationships are not going right. Here are the ten things you shouldn’t forgive him for:

Disrespecting your friends and family

Your friends and your family are your world. They’ve been there for you through thick and thin and you would do absolutely anything for them. Now imagine someone coming into your life and basically shitting all over that? No matter how much you like someone, don’t let them think it’s okay to slag your family off or be disrespectful about them to you, or even to them. No man worth his salt would even dream of it.

Texting his ex

Okay, I know that in VERY FEW situations, a man remains to be friends with his ex for one reason or another, or perhaps he and his ex have a child together, so under these circumstances, it’s perfectly understandable, however in general, if he’s in a relationship with you, why on EARTH would he be getting in touch with someone he used to go out with? There is absolutely no reason to, especially if it’s on the sneak. This will only cause trust issues among other things but above all things, it’s just not cool. Not cool at all. Your ex is your ex for a reason.

Being violent

Need I say any more? If ANYONE, EVER, thinks it’s okay to physical harm you, walk away immediately.

Putting pressure on you

If you don’t want to do something, here’s the great thing about free will, you don’t have to do it. You always have a choice when it comes to, well, almost everything. If your partner is pressuring you to do things you don’t want to, or he’s pushing you into making decisions you’re not ready to make, have a conversation, perhaps he’s trying to be supportive but going about it the wrong way? If not, make him understand that it’s not acceptable to force someone to do something, and if he still doesn’t get it, well, bye Felicia.

Snooping

Unless you have a legitimate, almost certain, evidenced reason for looking through your partner’s phone (for instance), under any circumstances, this shouldn’t be done. Snooping breaks trust, period. Even if you live together or are married, you still have the right to privacy, so if your partner’s been looking through your emails or something similar without cause, can you really forgive him for being so untrustworthy without reason?

Blaming you for everything

Accountability makes the world go round, and relationships work for that matter. If you’ve ever been in a situation where everything is always “your fault” you’ll know what I’m talking about because a) you’ll know that everything wasn’t your fault and b) it was just easier to blame you so your partner didn’t feel bad. Erm, ladies, you do not have mug stamped on your foreheads so don’t just agree if you feel that you’re not to blame, put your foot down and “woman up” so to speak, it takes two to tango after all.

Making you second best

In any relationship, you want to feel like you’re a priority of your partner’s and a big one at that. You want to feel like you’re supported by them and generally, just adored by them. If it doesn’t feel like this way and you’re starting to get the vibe that you’re an option, have a word. Being second best is not normal in a relationship, you were not made to be put on a back burner.

Disrespecting you

If someone decides that disrespecting you by being patronizing, aggressive or rude (etc) is okay, then you have my permission (and the rest of the world’s for that matter) to inform them that it most certainly is not. Public displays of humiliation and other such nonsense are a vile way to assert dominance and make you feel plain bloody stupid, something you are not, so don’t stand for it.

Lying

As the Narcoleptic Argentinian taught us in Moulin Rouge, “without trust, there can be no love” and he’s spot on. Lying, even about the most trivial things, can erode any sort of trust you have built up over a period of time. Honesty is an integral foundation to a healthy relationship and once that’s broken, it’s pretty difficult to salvage. Sometimes, we’ll tell the truth about things we don’t necessarily want to because we’re afraid of the consequence but trust me, the consequences of being dishonest are a hell of a lot worse.

Cheating

I realise a lot of people believe infidelity to be circumstantial but in my honest opinion, I feel that if your man can be intimate with someone other than you, does he REALLY love you? I can’t even comprehend it. Cheating is cruel, cowardly and more than anything, unnecessary.

What are your views about this?

Source: http://www.adebayothevoice.com/2017/02/20/10-things-you-shouldnt-forgive-him-for/

Relationships, whether new or long-term, seem to take a whole lot of reading between the lines, a concept we simply don’t have time for. In a perfect world, we’d spell things out in black and white for our significant other but let’s face it, that just doesn’t happen. We women especially, are tremendously guilty of expecting things we never ask for and then complain or feel bad when we don’t receive. Messed up eh?

The old saying goes that women are from Venus and men are from Mars and it couldn’t be more true. Women are complex beings (or so it would seem) whereas men on the other hand are pretty simple (no offence) so sometimes, the male of our species just need a wee nudge in the right direction. Believe it or not, as complicated as us girls come across, it really is the little things that mean a lot to us in a relationship. We’re not after grand gestures or lavish expense to display your affection, we want simple things (good news eh) but there’s a catch… we won’t ask for them.

So guys, fret ye not, no need to wonder about what women want any longer for here are 10 things shared by Naomin X. about what girls want, but won’t ask for…

Nice Texts (especially in the morning and before bed)

Trust me, a “morning beautiful” or a “goodnight gorgeous” will put the biggest smile on a girl’s face and probably make her entire day (or night). A simple text message with a compliment means you’re thinking of her for all the right reasons and at all the right times; as soon as you wake up and before you go to sleep.

Pictures Together (especially just the two of you)

A lot of us girls like physical memories. Sure, we appreciate the stuff going on inside our head (of which there is a lot let me tell you) but generally speaking, if your girl whacks the selfie stick out and wants a snap, rather than making a fuss, just smile and go with it. You won’t believe how happy she’ll be to have a new screensaver.

Surprises (especially little ones)

I’m not talking “surprise! I booked us a five star holiday!”, I’m talking “surprise! I cooked dinner” or “surprise! I ran you a bath!” Girls live for thoughtful gestures and little surprises like these show that you care, and boy, do we feel good knowing that a guy would do for us what we’d do for them.

Really Long Hugs (especially from behind)

I don’t even know why we love this so much. Is it because we feel safe? Secure? Loved? Adored? All of the above? Who knows, but by God it’s the best feeling in the world when your man wraps his arms round you from behind and gives you a good ol’ squeeze.

Compliments (especially sincere ones)

Generally, a f**kboy might describe a girl as “fit” or even go so far as to state something classy like “I’d bang you” or the likes. Sure, backhanded compliments are still somehow complimentary but it’s the real, sincere ones that really get us girls going. Take note: calling a girl “beautiful” create butterflies beyond all reason. If you give a girl that feeling, you’ve pretty much nailed it.

Flowers (especially unexpected ones)

Of course it’s lovely to get flowers for a birthday, for instance, but if your man comes home from work and presents you with a £5 bunch of Carnations from Tesco, my God, is that romantic! This isn’t about gifting, or being materialistic, women love flowers and that’s that. Want your girl to be weak at the knees? A small floral investment will certainly be a strong idea.

Conversations (especially deep ones)

We don’t like to be serious all the time, girls want a right good laugh and a joke with their guy but – from time to time – we like to talk about our feelings (sorry but that’s just life) and we’d perhaps like you to share a little more with us about something other than what bets you’ve got on or what joke Dave told you down the pub. It won’t be often but when it is, maybe take your attention off the tele and give your girl a decent half hour of chat. She’ll appreciate it more than you can imagine.

“Gentlemanliness” (especially out and about)

Chivalry definitely isn’t dead so show her. Hold the door open, pull her chair out, all that kit and caboodle. We women are complete suckers for old fashioned romance and it’s a great way of showing her that you really do put her on a pedestal just as much as she does you.
Comfort (especially when she’s upset)

I’m not gonna lie, as a gender, I reckon we can be pretty emotionally unstable from time to time (no? Just me?) and when we are, don’t roll your eyes and lock yourself in the bedroom playing Call of Duty. No, just sacrifice five or ten minutes to throw your arms around her while she let’s it all out. Comforting your girl shows you care but a word of warning, consider a black t-shirt for such an occasion because, well, mascara.
Your hoodie (especially because, well, it’s inevitable)

Okay I’m kidding… or am I? No, I’m not. Say goodbye to your fave hood

And if you love her, just tell her. All the time. Those 3 little words mean a lot.

Do you agree with this or is something missing?


Source: http://www.adebayothevoice.com/2017/02/20/10-things-a-girl-wants-but-might-not-ask-from-her-guy/