Love is a combination of both selflessness and selfishness, sometimes or most times u want that person only to urself and u dont want anyone to be with them. Some would say I would rather he be dead than to be with anyone other than me, psychotic a little. But in my opinion when you love someone as in really love them in a romantic and on a friendship level you would want the person to be happy and doing well even if you rent whats best for them. In the selfless aspect you would give your last or go out of your way in order to help the person you love.