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Romance / My Husband Does Not Love Me - What Should I Do? by adexgibs(m): 12:11pm On Apr 22, 2010
One of the most tasking emotions for a woman is when she suddenly realizes that her husband is no longer in love with her. If this is happening to you, here are the things you can do to make your husband love you again.

It is my firm belief that it is easier to make a man happy than for a man to make a woman happy. I believe this because men really don't ask for much. If they can camp out on the hard ground with the ants and other bugs how hard can they be to please? Yes, I know this sounds superficial but think about this for a moment. Have you noticed how much happier, and less stressed out your man is when he has his two most important needs met, sex and food?

It is also semi-true that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. They love to eat and they love to eat good tasty meals. When their stomachs are full, and they have been taken care of physically, a man doesn't ask for much else.

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Family / Can A Marriage Survive Acoholism,addiction And Homosexuality? by adexgibs(m): 4:38pm On Mar 17, 2010
This is one of the problems facing couples.I know a man who is alcoholic,he doesn't know what to until I met him.I have tried all I could to help but all to no avail.Is there any other way to help him?

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Romance / The Relationship Between Depression And Unsucessful Marriage by adexgibs(m): 4:56pm On Jan 16, 2010
Depression is an innocent but serious illness that steps into one’s life silently. There are many social as well as personal causes of depression but here we are going to discuss one of the most important causes – A stressful Marriage.
A marriage is the complete spiritual, mental and physical attachment of two individuals. It gives an ecstatic feeling when you are enjoying a happy married life but if the marriage is not working, it turns into a stressor, and a burden to life and both the partners get trapped into severe depression which affects each part of life, personal as well as professional.
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Romance / My Husband Is Depressed-what Should I Do? by adexgibs(m): 7:20pm On Jan 14, 2010
There are numerous life events that can cause depression but if the partners have mutual understanding and loving relation, together they tend to deal with all the depression causing life events. Here are some symptoms of depression which can help you diagnose this evil.

* Gradual change in behavior, irritating nature
* Unable to tolerate even little noise or laughter.
* Sleep Sickness
* Love to remain isolated and silent
* Lost desire for sex
* Feelings of hopelessness and helplessness
* Lost charm of life, suicidal thoughts

Your married life is an important part or better said the most important part to keep all other do’s of life perfect. Here are some tips to steer clear of depression and make your married life healthy and happy.
http://overcomingdepression-editor..com/
Romance / Re: Tips On How To Destroy Depression And Build Your Marriage by adexgibs(m): 10:29am On Oct 22, 2009
If anyone knows what it means to be depressed,I think before going to a professional that can help you out.you need to allow people around you to help you first.You also must be ready to be helped.
Romance / Tips On How To Destroy Depression And Build Your Marriage by adexgibs(m): 2:43pm On Oct 21, 2009
How do you talk to someones who's not talking? How do you help a man help himself? Ugg!!!

Somethings wrong with your guy, but all you hear, "Don't worry about me, I'm fine." Symptoms of major depression last for two weeks or more.

Steps on how to communicate with a Man with Depression.

Step#1 Don't Ask if He's Depressed?

Men shame easily when suffering from depression. To hear Are you Depressed,? he may withdraw instantly. Possibly lashing out with anger. Be gentle, caring. You know your Man. Ask, You don't seem to have energy. Are you OK? Do you feel OK? Why don't you get checked out?" The stigma surrounding depression makes it nearly impossible for men to speak about it directly. Be Patient and non-threatening.

Step #2 Withdrawal of Love Doesn't Work

You may get frustrated with his non-reply, but using affection as a bargaining chip doesn't work. If he's depressed this may increase his feeling of helplessness. Again you risk withdrawal, risky behavior, increase alcohol/drug use. Remember he can't just "Snap Out of It."

Step#3 Get Educated about Depression

Knowledge of symptoms, risk factors makes you better able to empower him. Myths, misinformation destroys all attempts to get him to empower himself. Because, in the end only he can save himself. 78% of all married men who visited a doctor had been influenced to do so by their wives.

Step#4 You Must Take Care of You First

Find support. Speak with trusted family members, speak with other women who may have gone through it with their mate. Join a depression support group. Depression takes a toll on everyone. If you're supporting him, who's supporting you? Don't be a damn superwoman! Don't take his illness personal. You get empower also!

Step#5 Stay With It

Stay consistent with seeking help from a Physician. Don't be fooled by episodes of "He Seems better" "A Pray Session" "or Good Sex" Major depression undiagnosed will eventually halt him emotionally, physically and psychologically. Give him Love and Education for treatment and you would have done all that you could control. Empower him, and he'll make the right decision for both of you.
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Tips On How To Destroy Depression and Build Your Marriage
Depression and marriage don't mix. Even great marriages can fall apart when one of the couple suffers from depression.

It is important, then, to recognize some of the common thought patterns of depressed people in order to be compassionate with them and to be able to help them break these thoughts and return to normal life.

Read on to learn 3 destructive thoughts that were identified by Dr. Aaron Beck.

1. Mental filter - A common pattern in depressed people is that they only see their failures and inadequacies and are blind to their successes. For instance, if they make a joke at a party and everyone except for one person laughs, they perceive this to be that NO ONE thinks that they know how to tell a joke. If they prepare an elaborate meal for the in-laws and one thing gets burnt, they feel like the whole meal was ruined and they don't how to cook.

A lot of times the "non-suffering' spouse doesn't understand why they are feeling so bad since they see how delicious the WHOLE meal was or how 99% of the people laughed at his joke.

Keep this in mind and gently point out to them their successes until they will also admit to themselves that they are not as bad as they see it.

2. Disqualifying the positive. Even if you are able to bring to their attention their successes, they immediately dismiss your argument and give an excuse why it happened. "Yea, you know them, they laugh at anything" or "They are such nice people. They only laughed to make me feel good."

In the example of the meal with the in-laws, she might say, "Those things? They are so easy to make anyone can do it". Be prepared for this reaction and don't fall for their explanations. Gently point out that they don't always laugh at jokes or the other courses of the meals are also hard to cook. Stick to your guns.

3. Personalization- With this thought pattern the person suffering from depression sees themselves as the cause of botch ups and failures even though they are not really responsible.http://overcomingdepression-editor..com/
Romance / Getting Back With Your Ex-lover - Start By Avoiding Depression by adexgibs(m): 7:13pm On Oct 06, 2009
Your lover of many years broke up with you and left you. Now you don't feel like eating anything, love songs make you want to cry and you just lie in the bed all day. If you continue like that, you will get in a depression and your chances of getting back with your ex-lover will be zero.

But before you learn the "tricks" to win back the love, you must first get a hold of yourself and avoid depression at all costs. If you are showing the following signs, then you might be falling into depression and you need to take action immediately:

sleeping most part of your day
not feeling hungry
not feeling like going out
consuming more than usual sweets and chocolates
http://overcomingdepression-editor..com/
Romance / How To Help A Depressed Man And Keep Your Relationship Strong by adexgibs(m): 1:38pm On Sep 28, 2009
What? Men don't get depressed? Of course we do, but we tend to hide it well.
Men tend to deal with depression differently than women and may show different signs that they are depressed. Depression is often a hidden problem with men, since many men tend to suffer in silence, rather than talking about their feelings.
And that can lead to relationship problems.
http://overcomingdepression-editor..com/

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