The amount of things a nigeria woman endures in marriage, mhen....its only God that gives that strength, most of the nigeria men are totally untrained, lack wisdom to handle anything..the only thing that concerns them is respect, don't act like dis like dat.You are told things like is d woman dat holds d house so u endure all sort.Just work hard as a woman, don't let anyone break you, love d man but know when to draw the line and above all train ure kids to be better people especially the men.

Nice thread, at list I wouldn't feel weird about myself anymore, hubby has complained tire, in fact on this same forum and said I am useless in social gatherings (abusive as usual) but now I know am not the only one this way....We don't make friends but d few we have are close for life...

D change we need is actually in us, if a man sees nothing in calling his wife odeh in the presence of ppl because d man feels a woman should communicate or say something in a particular way, he feels he shldnt be corrected or talked to, it has to be in a particular way and he couldn't even respond back angrily without d use of abusive language, den he needs to appraise him self too....mind u this man has a history of abuse.Same thing a previous woman he was invovled in complained about to his pastor, same thing his friend warned me about him, and am experiencing and someone say it's me.

I've read too much on emotional Abuse that I know one when I c it.....and so I've decided to be the change I desire.

I've taken a long walk, my dear...straight arrow u seem like an abusive person too days y u can reason that way...I've spoken with elderly ppl and they said it's best for me to move on...and today would be a memorable day for me.A man dat sees nothing wrong in insulting his wife in public...its a no no no matter the reason.

Well said straight arrow, but d reverse is d case, he is the one dat talks most, raises his voice in the house when there is a misunderstanding, dis evening I was called an "odeh" in d presence of 3 ppl, the reason was dat y did I tell him his decision to follow the road he took was a mistake.for the church ppl he wants me to be outgoing, all over the place and am not.am very reserved and quiet.

How do u cope with an abusive man, when there is an issue at home he would shout on top of his voice calling u names, say things like u don't have value, where is your brain, he gives u list of things to talk about and what shl'd not be talked about, snaps at u at work and say it's cause ure hair is always untidy, u ask a simple and d answer is where did u keep ure brain.He tells u not to wear hairnet wen ure at home, complains your not serving God cause u don't mix with church ppl like him...

is it not best to take a long walk from such a man?