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tpia*:
is that what [b]you would do? [/b]

Did u read the post, I was just explaining besides isn't that a possibilty considering what we are talking about?

Sweet T:
@Psalm23

And you think you out of the woods yet?? A man with a mind strong enough to conceive or hide such things is capable of stepping his game up and play it better. I wish you luck.

@ Sweet T, so I take it that; a woman capable of conceiving and hidding such things is also capable of many more deceifull acts. God help somebody but we are getting somewhere.

@ all tanx for you response. I actually got the ex's number and out of curiosity dialled it on my wife's phone and the name with which she saved it appeared. The guy lives in another state so I wouldn't know if he travels to meet her while am away on work trip or otherwise but that's just an evidence that she's doing something wrong. If she could do that, how many more secrets are yet uncovered? more annoying is the fact that my wife would querry every call that comes accross, talk about playing "holier than thou". I will also get DNA test for my supposed kids?? Maybe that will help me press my case should a divorce case ensues.
More annoying is the fact that I can't discuss it with anybody I know, imagine the shame and the feeling of inadequacy that people would probably think 'you were not man enough'. Nairaland has just provided a cover to let off since I ve bottled up to get the full details. I am seriously embarrased to say the least, I can't event mention it amongst my friends coz I would become laughing stock but that's if they don't already know something that I don't know.

@ all thanks for ur advice on remaining calm. I do know that whatever is done in anger is never done well so am gratefull that am not home right now. I believe I will handle things well when I get home meantime I just can't seem to contain the feeling of betrayal and embarrasment should she have cheated. Now am just piecing the jigsaw and playing back everything I 've seen and heard in the past. I wonder what being a divorcee @ less than 40yrs would look like but it appears that am heading toward it now. I can't stand a cheat for 1 fucking second and to think that my wife has been the one on my neck pointing fingers where there was NOTHING, drives me nut. Now I know it was probabbly to divert attention, how smart.

plappville:
Na waooh, it has become a problem to keep contact with ex? why are some people jalouse about this ex thin.
I no see anything wrong in keeping contact oo, as long as nothing is attached.

Sure, nothing wrong in keeping an ex contact but it should not be hidden. That alone brings another dimension to it.
I had lots of them but I donot have their contacts after all these years and if i needed to keep their contact I will promptly save the numbers with their real names.
The issue here is deceit. I have seen her receive calls from that name before and imagine yelling out; oh so and so while in actual fact she's talking to her ex, that is what I find deceitful. She can go and Bleep the guy for all I care but she has to leave my house first, that way, nobody's ox will be gored.

I'm not 100% proud of my gender ohh. Some women do some horrible things and play the "I'm a woman" card. I truly hate it. If that's the case then behave like one. I hate to bring up Chris Brown lol. Rihanna told police she was loud, physical, and even took the keys out of the ignition to his car and threw it into a bush at like 2am. THEN, he hit her. Would you be able to just let out a sigh and then walk away from the situation? I, personally, could not. I can take some things but if anyone took the keys out of my car then trowey am for bush at 2 in the morning, I will beat whomever and then send that person outside to get my keys lol.

If you start wahala, be prepared to finish. That's my opinion anyway.
[quote][/quote]Babe u are so real I don't understand why people can't just say the truth. It amounts to taking advantage of the man. You hit or even slap the man and expect him to just walk away meanwhile if it was done to you the whole world will cry blue murder.
More often than not women tend to think that men should only love them and be mushy mushy all the time while they take time to go gaga and blame it hormone or womanhood.
If my wife condencend to the level of slapping me, then, she should wait for the result.

I politely asked her whose number it was and she feigned ignorance untill I pointed it out to her that I know exactly whose number it was. At this point she said she just didn't want issues and that's why she saved it that way. The truth is; I feel betrayed, so she's been keeping touch with this guy all these years? I asked how many more coded numbers were still there and expectedly she said none. I will get to the bottom but one thing is sure; no more trust again and I really feel like a fool. Am just considering my kids otherwise I would kick out soon as I can establish that she's been cheating.

Sure, nobody culd pull my wife from me, I rather will push her away to whoever wants her if she's cheating and yes, before then, am gonna Zap everybody I can lay ma hands on including her sistas and relations just to get even.

Sorry if am doing something wrong by posting here. It's my first post on Nairaland as I just joined the forum today although I have been reading post on this forum, so once more, pardon my naivity.
I recently discovered that my wife of 4 years saved her ex's number with another name.  This sounds like cheating to me and all hell is going to let loose when i get home later next week. I 've been brooding over it and to think that we dated for 4yrs before marriage is more thought provoking.