Many writers are telling us the good side of marriage. It amazes me the frequent Facebook posts by singles that have never gone through the hard knock.While I appreciate them taking the time to write these cozy messages on romance, how to get “the will of God”, and all that, I also feel for them. Wonderful writers though!
WOMAN: Do I tear my husband down with my words instead of affirming him when things aren’t going well with him? Do I use sexual intimacy to torture him because I’m not happy with him? Do I use sex as a tool to lure him to take bad decisions in order to have my way? (Remember Samson?). Do I still respect him when I am the bread winner for whatever reason; maybe he got laid off or lost his job? Do I reinforce his feeling of inadequacy until it becomes a self-fulfillingprophecy for him? Do I respect him when he made a big mistake? My sister, please create a safety zone for your husband by: affirming him more despite his condition, get yourself prepared to meet his sexual needs even when he is wrong, be attractive for him because men are visual, and support his cause according to God’s will by praying earnestly for him to be closer to God more than ever during challenges.
Understand that even if you make a lot of money to support the family, it makes no difference to the mental burden your husband feels to provide. He is still the coverage over you dear friend. Only you are so closed to him now to support his feelings. To me, this is what LOVE IS ABOUT, not these other temporarily feelings. That is why valentine should be every month not just February.
MAN: When your wife’s physiological properties (breast, cheeks, face, tummy, etc.) change due to child bearing.
* When her emotions begin to swing due to menopause or in some people menstrual cycle.
* when she has mood swing during early stages of pregnancy.
* When she is beginning to express frustration and attitude towards you because her children aren’t behaving the way she wants. *When since after your marriage there has been a delay in child bearing and she is always moody no matter how much you have tried for her.
*When she is pregnant and closed to due date but not able to meet your sexual needs.
*When her family members begin to yell at you for not responding to their requests. *When you have been stressing for her to get some education to improve herself but she is not forth coming.
* Do you still love her the same way you did during your courtship? Do you acknowledged the fact that women in general are wired to be emotional? Could you support and love her going forward from today? Today I challenge you to make use of and take advantage of your changing situations in your home as you journey together. Don’t see each other as the enemy by tearing each other apart. At this time of challenges learn to get closer until things gets better again.
Ask God to give you grace and open your eyes to see LOVE in His perspective (His word). If you are still struggling with sins or don’t’ even believe in Jesus, now is the right time to get reconciled. Pray to Him to forgive you and receive Him into your heart. Allow Him now to be the overseer of your home going forward. He will not reject you friend.

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Some righteous or church people on this forum wouldn't stop pushing us to abstain from sex till marriage. They always give reasons like: It is a sin and the bible says so so and so. But they wouldn't tell us how to overcome the challenges that comes with abstaining till marriage these days. I agree that sex after marriage is the best solution to curb STDs and unwanted pregnancies but achieving such in the midst of some resisting factors appears to be an uphill task.

Apart from the sexual urges we have to deal with all through the period of abstaining we seem to forget to ask ourselves a certain question. And the question is: WHEN WILL YOU GET MARRIED AND FINALLY HAVE THAT SEX? Marriage in a country like Naija doesn't come cheap especially for the guys. The guys are expected to have a fat bank account first before thinking of marriage. Unfortunately some guys will be unlucky to get that kind of fat bank account at age 45 no matter how hard they have worked. Some ladies will clock 45 and still no signs of a husband coming close. If we must abstain from sex till marriage are we really going to abstain till old age if conditions are not favourable to get marriage? Is there a maximum limit to wait? What happens if you will never get married due to bad luck? Does it mean you will abstain from sex till death? If actually it was CERTAIN that everybody would be getting married at about 25 years old then it would make valid sense for people to wait till marriage.

Secondly, I think insisting on sex till marriage can cause another issue that most of us don't even think about. Due to the excitement of having sex for the first time and all that urge, someone who has been abstaining from sex can easily be tempted and decide to get married unprepared just to have sex to know how it feels. The outcome of this is that marriage crashes due to this unreadiness and kids will be brought to the world to suffer especially when the couple weren't financially ready. I have come across some folks here advising people to get married rather than have sex before marriage. Is it better to get married because of sex and the marriage crashes soon afterwards or is better to have PROTECTED sex before marriage and avoid the suffering a collapsed marriage? If you feel sex before marriage will take you to hell then it means everyone on this planet will end up in hell cos we are all sinning in different ways.

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Your assertion is as a result of your ignorance of God's demand. Abstenance from sex before marriage is dignity

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Sometimes we need encouragement in our quest to step up and be the men God has called us to be. Sometimes we need information, and sometimes we need training. Sometimes we need a mentor—someone who will show us how to be godly men, how to love our wives as Christ loves the church.
And sometimes we need to know what we should stop doing. Sometimes we may even need someone to say, “Hey, stop acting like a jerk!”
That’s what this list is about. But perhaps something here will hit home for you.

1.Stop acting like the battle is won in pursuing and getting to know your wife. Have fun together, just like you used to do before you walked down the aisle.
2.If your wife is a stay-at-home mom, stop treating her like her work during the day is somehow less strenuous or less important than yours.
3.Stop coming home from work and plopping in front of the television for the night, leaving your wife to bear the responsibility for everything else going on in the home.
4.Stop working so much. Find a healthy balance between work and family. Your wife would rather have you than a big house, nice car, etc.
5.Stop acting like you’re listening when you’re really watching TV.
6.Stop allowing the spiritual leadership of the family to default to your wife.
7.Stop being passive when it comes to disciplining and training your kids.
8.Stop saying you know and understand what your wife is saying or feeling when you haven’t even listened to what she has to say.
9.Stop being a closed book. Open up to your wife. Don’t be afraid to show emotion.
10.Stop allowing your role as leader in the home to be an excuse for selfish behavior. Don’t forget that a true leader also serves.
11.Stop dishonoring your wife by criticizing her in front of your children or in public.
12.When you wife irritates you, don’t answer right away. Instead count to 10 and remember that she is a gift from God.
13.Stop using your size and strength and anger to intimidate your wife and children.
14.Stop using the word “divorce” in your vocabulary.
15.Don’t shy away from difficult conversations with your wife.
16.Stop saying you’ll do something and then procrastinating.
17.Don’t purchase any major item without first discussing it with your wife.
18.Don't allow your eyes to linger on beautiful women who pass by. You can't help the first look; it's that second, longer look that you need to avoid. (And if your wife is with you, don’t lie to her and say you didn’t see that woman. Just admit you looked.)
19.Stop thinking,I know more than my wife. You and your wife will each have more knowledge than the other in certain areas.
20.Don’t assume you know what your wife is thinking. Ask her how she is feeling and why.
21.When your wife tells you about a problem she’s having, don’t immediately try to solve it. She may just need you to listen to her.
22.Stop the sarcasm. You may be trying to sound funny, but you’re only cutting down your wife.
23.Stop treating your wife like a child. Remember that God has given her a wealth of experience and information that you need.
24.Stop acting like God and trying to control your wife.
25.Stop pointing out her mistakes and asking for explanations. Doing these things can make her feel like a failure.
26.Never casually or disrespectfully talk to other guys about sex with your wife.
27.Stop telling your wife that she is supposed to “submit” to you. If she is not following you, that means you’re not leading her as Christ loves the church.
28.Stop feeding your sexual desires from any source other than your wife.
29.Don’t be alone with any woman who is not your wife or related to you.
30.Stop discussing deep-level issues with a woman who is not your wife or related to you.
31.Stop deceiving your wife about your finances.
32.Don’t look up old girlfriends on Facebook.
33.Stop putting a number on how often you should enjoy sexual intimacy.
34.Stop acting as if you have a GPS programmed into your brain. Before you go somewhere with your wife, get the right address and find out how to get there. If you are lost, don’t hesitate to get directions—from your smartphone map, even from a person.
35.Don’t make fun of your wife to other guys.
36.Don’t allow guy-only activities (like playing golf, basketball, etc.) to rob you of leisure time with your wife and kids.
37.Stop expecting your wife to do all the housework.
38.Stop saying, “Honey … can you get the kids to be quiet?” when the kids are being monsters. Get up and go quiet them down yourself!
39.Stop putting all your stuff in the laundry basket and then acting as if you “did the laundry.”
40.Stop acting like picking up a gallon of milk is equal to the martyrdom of St. Stephen.
Some will say that lists like these are “too negative”—that this is an example of “trashing” men. Here’s how I see it: If you are coaching your son’s Little League team, you’re going to teach him a lot of positives—how to hit, how to throw, what base he should throw to when there are runners on first and second. But you also will need to get him tostopdoing things—like swinging at bad pitches, or jogging to first base instead of sprinting.
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