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he seems to be dragging her, or am the only person seeing that??

HOW TRUE IS THIS LINK THEN
http://www.nightlifeafrica.co.uk/extra_news.php?nid=1363
THIS IS GETTING TOO CONFUSING

Confilass:
Why are u saying all these things "paying their house rents etc." If I may ask when u neva met d lady was his parents not footing their bills? Be wise,

Am being wise ma sista thats why am voicing out and staying out of emotional slavery. they was paying their bill s, but the moment i came into the picture, DAROSHA DON ENTER TRAP,

Thank you White one,
an agreement has been reached and am sure i have made the right choice by reading and accessing responds on here , Once again thank you

Hi
pls kindly let me know how much will land a[b] Golf 4 MANUAL [/b]with full options to Lagos with all documents,
MANUAL BECAUSE I ENJOY MANUAL AND AM USED TO MANUAL , WAITING FOR YOUR REPONCE

Hi all and once again thank you for your advices, the good ones and the NOT SO GOOD ones as well, its all appreciated, but it all boils down to taking the right step and making the right decision, so this is what i have decided
After talking to mother and considering both parties, i am just gonna let him be here with his mother, i did not grow up with mine and i can still remember what i went through growing up, i dont want that for my son, so am gonna let him stay with his Mom till he is 10yrs and then we know what steps to take when that time comes, but for now. GHANA IS WHERE HE STAYS,
GOOD OR BAD DECISION,

@Outstrip, [/b]Madam, i honestly dont need your opinion on this as i have made my own decisions already, and YES she is [b]BADLUCK [/b]either you take it or not, i am an AFRICAN and i do have my beliefs and my roots deep in tradition, since i stopped being with her[b] I KNOW WHAT I HAVE ACHIEVED so who needs your sorry advice, and hey i have enough to prove to whole world that her family is cursed never to get married and stay with one man, and anyone that tries to break that curse ends up being a mad man, a junkie and useless being,, opinions are like noses but it will do you a lot of good if you put your nose in the right direction


@agathamari, Thanks for your candid advice, I TRULY LOVED THIS GIRL IN QUESTION, but do i become a nuisance and a useless son to my own family all in the name of love and ended up being a slave to her own family HELL NO,
the custody agreement they are bringing is gonna either hold me back here for another 4 yrs or i wont get to see him for another 4 yrs, I AM A NIGERIAN AND HOME IS HOME, they think i dont have a say, since am a Nigerian and Ghana is Motherland not Fatherland like where i come from, the decision is mine anyways, thanks for the concern

HAD A WONDERFUL DREAM TODAY EASTER SUNDAY,
SANG MY HEART OUT IN CHURCH, MY WHITE GARMENT WAS SOAKED WITH SWEAT
AFTER THE SERVICE, I WANTED TO RETURN THE WHITE GARMENT AND THE METAL CAP I WAS WEARING, I WAS NAKED WITHOUT THE GARMENT, AND THE CHURCH PROPHET TOLD ME TO KEEP THE CROWN THAT ITS FOR ME AND HE GAVE ME A NEW NAME, THE NEW SHADDAI!!!, I WOKE UP AND IT WAS ALL A DREAM, ANY INTERPRETER IN THE HOUSE

thanks y'all for sharing those wonderful memories, i laugh sotey water dey comot for my eye,
Growing up was fun and i still wish i could time travel back to my primary school days and watch myself, lol,
as the first son and eldest in a family of 7{5boys 2 girls}was stubborn and always doing something wrong, at times my dad will call me,
KUNLE!, LO MU EGBA WA, OWO NYUN MI {KUNLE! GO AND BRING THE CANE, MY PALM ITCHES} {just for no reason at all} or at times he beats me in advance of offenses ,
and my Mom, remembered when i wanted to get baptized, my mom made it so important that i felt like paradise is under water, lol,
she goes like' UNDER THE WATER, YOU WILL MEET JESUS, JUST MAKE SURE YOU DONT COMINT ANY SIN BEFORE GOING INTO THE WATER OR ELSE,

its good to look back at those days now, i have a son and am sure one day he will be writing my own story too lol,

spikedcylinder, guess my sad mood took over for a while there and your candid way of advice too didnt help my mood at that particular time, am sorry i over reacted in my reply , i just felt threatened, felt like you are in support of what am going through,
Now that said,
I am in control emotionaly to take care of him if i so want to, i have taught myself to cut my schedules to suit his needs, he stays with me for 3 weeks or even a month at times without his mother being there, on my FB our everyday pictures and activities were shared there,
well, my decision has been made thanks to this wonderful FAMILY MEETING I HAD ON HERE, just wish me luck and lets keep in touch

ABEG, MAKE I JUST VEX HERE NOW SPOIL EVERYTHING,,,,LWKMD

spikedcylinder, WHO THE 4K ARE U?? WHO INVITED UR STUPID DUMB ASS HERE AND MAKE U FEEL LIKE U BETTER THAN I AM?? WHY DONT U SHUT THAT CAKE TRAP U CALL A MOUTH RATHER THAN SPIT EPILEPSY INTO WHATS NOT UR BUSSINESS?? I HAVE EVERY DAMN RIGHT TO TAKE HIM IF I SO WANT, WHO ARE YOU TO JUDGE ME?? BECAUSE I NEEDED TO BE A NICE MAN DO I HAVE TO END UP FEEDING HER WHOLE FAMILY?? PAY THEIR HOUSE RENT AND EVEN SEND 2 KIDS TO SCHOOL ALL BECAUSE THEY WERE BORN THE SAME DAY, INTO THE SAME FAMILY AND THE OTHER KIDS FATHER IS AN IN-RESPONSIBLE GHANIAN GUY? DONT I HAVE A LIFE?? AM I NOT SUPPOSE TO BE HAPPY AND SUCESSFUL BECAUSE I HAD A CHILD WITH A GHANIAN LADY THATS GOT A SPIRITUAL PROBLEM WITH HER FAMILY BACKGROUND? WHO THE Bleep ARE YOU TO ASK ME AM I ANGEL GAB, ARE YOU GOD??
YOU CALL MY REASON FLIMSY, FLIMSY THAT I NEEDED TO STEER CLEAR FROM ENEMIES OF PROGRESS LIKE YOURSELF,
DONT GET ME ANGRY HERE, THIS IS ONE OF THE REAONS I AM BEING RELUCTANT ABOUT ASKING FOR ADVICES FROM PEOPLE,
HE IS MY SON, MY INLAWS LEFT ME TO FACE THE RESPONSIBILITIES WHEN SHE WANTED TO GIVE BIRTH, SOLD MY CAR TO SETTLE BILLS,
HE IS MY SON AND NO ONE CAN TAKE THAT FACT AWAY FROM ME, YOU BETTER START CONSULTING YOUR GHANIAN GOVERMENT, MY PICS IS ON MY PROFILE POST IT TO THEM, I WILL DO ALL IT TAKES{ IF PUSEHD} TO GET MY SON OUT OF GHANA ''IF I DEEM IT FIT, CARELESS OF WHAT ANYONE SAYS''

thanks to all posters, am truly relieved and happy i posted this on here, felt like A FAMILY MEETING lol,
GOD BLESS U ALL ,

Tink_sh , thanks alot for ur advice,,,,,

lol, i get ur point chaircover,

bluespice, the child in question is legally a Ghanaian citizen either i like it or not, so the court will always protect the interest of its own citizen have seen this at work once, and i dont wanna expose myself to that kinda atmosphere of having to loose a case when i could have avoided it in the first place, i know what to do already, am just trying to get advices maybe i should be a stone hearted man and just walk away with my son, or leave him with his mom and return home to 9ja to face persecutions by my family for leaving him behind, how would my decision affect or infect his future.         {grew up without my mom too and i know how hard that was} his future is all i care about, he is my first child


galatico , we have stop havin Bleep for more than 1 yr now that set back stuff has been avoided and closed ,,, catch me?? the only place i might be having problem i might be having would be at the Ghana-Togo boarder and that too can be arranged{ a woman to help carry him across boardghr} so honestly, being caught aint my fear, his future is what i dont wanna tamper with like mine was,

bluespice, the child in question is legally a Ghanaian citizen either i like it or not, so the court will always protect the interest of its own citizen have seen this at work once, and i dont wanna expose myself to that kinda atmosphere of having to loose a case when i could have avoided it in the first place, i know what to do already, am just trying to get advices maybe i should be a stone hearted man and just walk away with my son, or leave him with his mom and return home to 9ja to face persecutions by my family for leaving him behind, how would my decision affect or infect his future. {grew up without my mom too and i know how hard that was} his future is all i care about, he is my first child


galatico , we have stop havin Bleep for more than 1 yr now that set back stuff has been avoided and closed ,,, catch me?? the only place i might be having problem i might be having would be at the Ghana-Togo boarder and that too can be arranged{ a woman to help carry him across boardghr} so honestly, being caught aint my fear, his future is what i dont wanna tamper with like mine was,

@bluespice, theres nothing to talk to the mom about, she has moved on with her life with someone else in her life, but still staying in her fathers house {am typing this from there, been here for 1 week now to see my son} and what she wanna do with the child is hold him and not let go,


@n-guage, This is not the first time i am noticing this, i have sold 2 cars and a business center in the process, so you might no about human spirituality as u have said, but i think theres no how anyone can fell someones pain if u have never been through such before,


@Tink_sh, Dealing with it legally would hold me back here for another 4yrs, and talking about taking rubish, i am now used to it, all i want is a brighter future for my boy, dont need him going through what i went through growing up,
i could just pick him up and walk away, am just thinking ahead and all your advices are worth millions to me in this situation and stage of my life
THANK U ALL

thanks all for the advices, i guess i will just leave,, nothing is chasing me here, am just tired and wanted to go back home, settle down and establish a bussiness, just worried i might make a stupid mistake by leaving him behind,,

The only excuse they give was' he is too small to be taken away from him mom, he might end up not recognizing her in future'
am located in Ghana

@Akina,
we have stopped the relationship for almost 1 year now, we are no longer together, i am thinking of my son's future thats why i need advices so i dont make a terrible mistake

@Poster,
First of all i want you to know Ghana is a very wonderful country to live with friendly face and good hearted people around every here and then
but based on your inquiries u need to know that nothing is cheap anywhere as far as Africa is concerned as a whole, so do your findings well online through google and information websites of the school u wanted to apply for.
As per job placement through school, OMO DONT BE DECIEVED every seller has its own marketing strategy, dont come to Ghana expecting to get job right from school, it doesnt work like that, GHANA IS STILL AFRICA,

Hello NLders
was looking at how wonderful and informative this site has been all these while mostly for we Nigerians outside, i think it would be wonderful if we could get to chat direct on here as well, what do you guys think??
vote and let seun hear us,

hmmmmm

send pics to singlelady762001@yahoo.com
my sis wants to see the ride and ur number as well

Pictures would be of help,

More pictures please, exterior shots, location

THIS IS GREAT JOB WELL DONE,
THANKS FOR BRINGING THIS UP