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Cinderella5:
cheating and respect is a other topic altogether, how did you bring all that in?

Safiaa:
Why are you bringing self dependence into this now? Independent women still do not want men who will not compliment their finances. Women like to be taken care of, regardless of if she has her own or not. Thats facts! Maybe in the beginning she'll compromise, but in the long run, Absolutely not!

Like I said most men derive their self esteem from their money. When they're broke, they look for a woman who their self esteem can get. Once the money comes in, they fish out to all their available options. Its very common. so some women don't want to be in that situation of building and helping a man, and being slapped in the face at the end. Women have the option to say no to broke men. It's not your place to call them leeches. You're so closed minded its shocking, especially at your age.

Quinn22:
I'm not myopic, I'm just speaking from experience. Broke guys aren't worth the hassle

Safiaa:
No. A leech is the wrong term. I find it so ironic that men will have so much standards and criterias for the women of their choice. From physical criterias that are so shallow to culinary criterias etc. The minute a woman decides she has 'standards' she's a gold digger. I agree that if a woman doesn't have shiiit and she wants a millionaire, she's reaching beyond her level. But for a woman to state that she doesn't date broke men or men below her financial status is completely her preference, especially if she's got money of her own. She's allowed to have her beliefs without being labelled a gold digger or a leech. Men get too emotional and soft when it comes to these topics, you forget to think rationally. Its due to low self esteem.

Quinn22:
I'm telling you

Cinderella5:
even if I don't, it doesn't matter, it matters when it's a guy.

tobianthony:
Very very common occurrence man ... Sorry to say but true .

Question is would the woman in retrospect rather the dude not be rich and have peace of mind ? At least from side chicks but not from bills

Quinn22:
Are you sure? Haven't you come across stories like this before?

Cinderella5:
the dictionary definition will do just fine. Someone who doesn't have enough to spend on necessities.

Quinn22:
Let me tell you a real life story, and I hope you mumu, not so smart ladies can learn from this

It goes like this, there's this my neighbor she's married to a calabar man. She was with him when he was broke, he was an okada man when she first met him, she helped him financially and she became a blessing to his life, right now as I'm saying this, the guy is into real estate and he's fucking rich all thanks to the help of his wife who stood by him through the thinnest.

But right now the man is way over his head because of his success having multiple side chicks here and there, embarrassing and disrespecting his wife in public, kissing his side chick in front of his wife in a surrounding where people know that they are married, the most painful thing is that he couldn't care less. Anyways long story short, the wife is living a miserable life due to a disaster marriage, she's having lots of regrets but it's too late now. The deed has already been done, FYI the married couple have 3 kids.

Quinn22:
Oh I get you. And it's sad really

Quinn22:
What does hypocrisy have to do with what I'm saying?

Cinderella5:
In my opinion, a girl loving a broke guy is like a guy loving an ugly girl, it's tough.

Girls how do you cope in loving broke guys?

Quinn22:
Girls coming on NL to impress guys with their comments and for likes
Instead of them to say the reality of things

Quinn22:
I dey tell you, in reality they are worse than an olosho

LalaLushness:
You damn Right a line that can't be crossed
Here some will be raining insults on their mother in laws etc seen it

LalaLushness:
Lol even me