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Thanks everyone for your advice. I think I have read enough. The work is left to me. I will update you later as things go. @ oldbeer. I'm popular for something else. I hardly follow romance topics. But anyway, thanks.

CosmicPhoenix:

login your main account,let's start from there

Not necessary. Some secrets are best revealed anonymously.

@flokii and desvi. Thanks brothers. I'll try to do that before this week runs out.

Apeshy101:

We that have that lane knows the hitch


Like a said before, build focus, ladies will rush you eventually.


People dey run from ladies and you dey run go meet them!

bold , apart from the fact that you want to enjoy yourself, what other reason do you have for wanting to start dating?

Ladies are stress not enjoyment!

Okay. Thanks bro. I actually want someone I will love and who will love me back. Someone I can consider in the future as life partner. Note that I don't have issue wooing on phones or sexting. I have had what I would call virtual girlfriends through online chats. However, that has only earn me female friends far from me. What I want now is how to meet and talk to girls offline. The confidence to do that is what I'm lacking. I will update this thread once I force myself to talk to a girl. Maybe an ultimatum of before the end of this week or next. I seems to always be jealous when I see guys talking with girls. I want to experience that too. To have female friends and someone I can cherish and enjoy/share my day with. I have read a lot about how girls can be trouble but I believe it's not all of them that are like that. No problem. I will see what happen before this week Monday.

Apeshy101:


Bros can we swap problems pls?


On a more serious note, you don't have a problem just focus on your career until you are ready for marriage. It's not worth the headache


I wish I'm in your shoes right now

That's what I've been hearing since childhood. Just focus on your study and carrier and forget about girls Now, I can't even woo a girl or be comfortable talking to one. Sorry bro. I want a change. I already finished my first degree and I studied a professional course. So, I already have a career. I want to focus on my relationship life now.

donbachi:
Begin toast all dis groundnut,akara and african salad girls wey dey sell..e go help boast ur confido,from there u go upgrade...make i increase d volume?

Hmmmn! I will see how that will go. Thanks for your input.

Freestainworld:
join bobrisky club, its better since you can't talk to a girl.

Lol. I was expecting this kind of comments. I know I will overcome the issue soon. I'm just looking for advice from those who may have once been in my shoe and later overcame their fear. I want to know how it worked for them. Thanks anyway. I won't go the bobrisky way. I'm not a transgender.

I have a separate nairaland account. I opened this one to hide my real ID because I'm quite popular.******* Good day, Nairalanders and Romance-landers. I'm having a challenge. I'm more than 25 years old and will be +1 year older soon but I have an issue. I have never dated any girl before. Well, I have had one girl before but it was a long distance relationship. We were in different school in different town. It ended badly due to the promiscuous life of the girl. I came from one of those seriously religious background. You know all those rules of not having boyfriend/girlfriend when you are young. The conditions surrounding me from childhood turned me into an introvert. I'm shy and always nervous when near the opposite sex. I started working recently and do meet a lot of ladies everyday due to the nature of my work. I've decided to change my lifestyle and enjoy myself before thinking of marriage. At the beginning of this week, I decided that I must chat/approach at least one lady before the end of this week. However, it has been very difficult for me. I'm just scared. I've met three ladies this week that fall in my category of ladies I want. However, I couldn't walk up to them. I always have this tension in me as I approach them. At the end, I just walk past them without even saying hi. I always feel very angry after I walk past them. I always feel like I have failed again. I know many here will mock me. It's okay but I need advice on this issue. How can I improve my confidence? I want to experience love for real. It's been studies for the past 20+ years of my life. All that has affected me. Your helpful comments will be highly appreciated. Thanks.