₦airaland Forum

It happens everyday. Even some of those posting now are into something worse. Even if you relocate when the feeling arises like that of a drug addit her phone number will pop out from where you stored it in your brain. Now I can percieve that you are a ''christian'' and no one around you that ''truely'' knows you expects you to be involved in this. Fine, but it has already happened. ''.... and I can't marry her'' maybe because she is older to you, or you are so poor that you can't afford to take responsibilities of a family man right now. ''... She is not my class, maybe because she is behaving like a village girl, or she is under somebody that is very hostile to her, or maybe you are practicing child abuse. WAY FORWARD. 1. Know that this thing happen everyday, it just that it is now that it got to your turn. 2. Agree that she didn't seduce you, neither was it your fault also, it was just discussing a very impotant issue at the wrong place that led to this. 3. Know that she is also as disturbed with the situation as you are. 4. Stop blaming her or youself. SOLUTION. 1. Whenever you are together, don't hide your feelings about what the two of you is doing. 2. Always counter every suggestion she brings to seal up the relationship. 3. Whatever idea that comes to your mind to end the affair always tell it to her as a warning, e.g. ' I want to settle down' 'this affair will not lead us anywhere' 'my conscience is judging me ' 'I think I have to confess this thing to my pastor' 'I hate myself for what I am doing' e.t.c as you are doing this try to stop seeing her and if you can't stop I will like tell you that there's know big deal about continuing. Your conscience is already condemning you so don't let that borther. Always ask God for mercy more in your prayers and pray that He lead you out of this afair in away that you won't get hurt, because one of you must get hurt. Also know that afair like this always hinders once progress ( physically, spiritualy, financiall, maritally and all else. If you continue to tell her your plans of ending the afair, the day you finanlly carry out your treath the shock will... To be continued goodnight.