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New York, NY, USA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Every body wants something,including you.Give the bitches no option,either you  have it to give if you must have it or you don't bother.The idea of heaven and hell outside the physical world is based on man's little concept and imagination of may be,the real and only  hell is here on earth but many can't see,they still console them with their shortsighted imagination of heaven and hell,trying to make sense of their emptiness and stack ignorance,ignorance is the key to every problem.Every thing radiates from you,the one that can not bear fruit,cut it down.Poverty is not just physical but mostly mental.

Behind every good man, is a good woman.  Good wife=Good life.

Shinor:
Finally the same God who saved Daniel from the lion's den came to me inside NIPOST's cage and delivered me and the camera to Lagos.

@Shinor, Just out of curiosity, did that "God" have you 'settle' him before so honorably handing over your camera?

In Yoruba language, does the word Lojingo have any meaning? (I think I'm spelling it right) I know its slang, but was wonderin if anyone had any idea about it. I know a guy who's called Papi-Lojingo by his friends and family. I was just wondering what, if anything, that meant. THANKS

My fiance is going thru this exact problem. I have sent him some letters and photos before thru the Post office in the USA to Nigeria, and they did arrive. He had to 'settle' the people working there to get them, but none the less, he got them. But NEVER can you send anything of value this way. When I went there to visit him, I brought a PS2 there for him. I forgot to bring a memory card for it. When I got back home I wrapped one up in a few sheets of paper and figured it would be safe to send it. HA!! Its been WEEKS and he still hasn't gotten it. He's gone to the Post Office in Ketu many times because he knows it'll never be delivered to his door, but even there he's told they know nothing about it, right. I blame myself thinking that something of such little value would be taken. The woman at the P.O. here in NY told me it shud arrive in about a week. When he told this to the people in the Post Office there, they told him that the possible reason why it has not arrived is because of the fuel shortage. OMG. We both know that is not the case. He's now thinking about possibly going to Ikeja to ask at the main Post Office. I, personally, don't think this is going to accomplish anything, but who knows. Bottom line, never send anything thru the Post Office. DHL is really expensive. If at all possible, send your package down with someone that is going to 9gia in the near future.

So many people criticize a relationship between a Nigerian man and an American woman. Why is that? I know that yahoo boys have ruined the image of a lot of honest Nigerian men. But is it impossible to believe that a marriage will last between two people from two different cultures?

Na Wa for ursef. Why now? Is this how you view your Nigerian men? They're not all like that. I'm not marrying a Yahoo boy, we didn't meet on the internet. I live in a whole community of Nigerians here in NY and THAT's how I met my man. He's not looking for papers. I'm sorry you feel that way bout your fellow Nigerian brothers.

Tho, I never was called 'wowo', I believe O FINE was the phrase I was hearing, E Se.

No. You don't survive the streets of Lagos without learning enough of the language to defend yourself.

How many Nigerian men do you know that run to ugly white women?? I don't know any, including my fiance. Stop hating!!

quote]well its because of cultural differences that why we don't see thing how the white see's it to be

How did this become a 'white' thing??  I'm a proud OYIBO about to marry an incredible Nigerian man.  I don't see this as being a black/white thing, or a Nigerian/American thing.  To me, its an individual thing.  It's your own personal preference.  Plenty of people in the US are against showing public displays of affection.  If a Nigerian decides that public kissing is "morally wrong", that's their decision.  I'd also like to add that in the U.S. we've decided that public urination is "wrong" and doing so will get you arrested and fined.  Some choose to kiss in public, some choose to urinate in public, it's all about choice OOO.

@sweet T

Thanks for that info. Though, we were hoping it would be more like 3 months. Wishfull thinking right?? When you say, 'do things right', could you be more specific about what they require? Did they ask her to show any type of bank statements for herself showing that she is financially stable there in Nigeria? That's the only thing we're worried about becuase he does not work and he doesn't have much. He is a graduate with a degree but has not worked recently. He is part of a rugby league and spends most his time with that. Sorry to hear things didn't work out with the two of you. It must've been very disappointing considering all you probably went through prior to applying for the visa. I know, in my case, we've gone through a lot to get to this piont.

I'm a New Yorker, I'm a white female, whose fiance is a Yoruba man from Lagos (Ketu, exactly). I just came back from Lagos after spending a month there. I recently read the article written about Lagos, and my first reaction was that it was very much onpoint. My eyes burned from the pollution each time I went out. The smell in many places was unbearable. The crowds of people and the traffic was unlike anything I've seen in my life. However, the article said nothing about the people of Lagos which make this state the most beautiful place I've ever seen. Sure, I experienced a LOT of bad, especially as a white American. I no longer was called by my name, Stacey, but instead Oyinbo was what I heard everywhere I went. Police stopped my car (even the taxi I was in) every chance they got and extorted money from me. By time I left, the total was over 8,000 Naira. I was also approached by area boys who extracted from me as well. Many vendors jacked up their price when I came to buy. However, despite these few bad examples, the people of Lagos are unlike any you'll find anywhere else in the world. Despite the conditions in which they live, these people believe they are blessed. I never hear a negative word from them about anything. One person on this site has compared Lagos to an area of NYC, I think it was the Bronx, or Brooklyn. I have to strongly disagree in two senses. One, as bad as NYC is, it does not compare to Lagos, but on the otherhand, even those who have it GOOD in NY, they always find something to complain about and I never found that in Lagos. People there smile and always have a kind word to say in passing. Even when I was pulled over by the police many people passing by were mad and shouting "ole" to the police. They knew what was up!! This state is full of hard working people. There are so many unemployed people in NY becuase they choose to be unemployed. I've seen residents of Lagos doing things that you would never see an American doing, just to earn money. Like pushing a cart full of yam in excrutiating heat. Or standing in the middle of the street weaving in and out of crazy drivers, risking their life, just to sell them something. If any negative article should be written about Lagos, it should be written about the corrupt government which is the ONLY reason Lagos is not what it could be.

Godwin, thanks for the advice, tho, a man working in the US embassy in Lagos was the one who told me that the fiance visa would be quicker.  We were told this by many ppl in the community and I went to the embassy to confirm.  THey were reluctant to tell me an answer, but that one man told me what he knew "off the record".  Reason he said it would be quicker is becuz coming over on a fiance visa is more of a 'temp' status, so less paperwork involved.  Thanks for your advice tho, I appreciate any and all opinions.

I am an American citizen, I just came back from Nigeria where I made the decision not to marry my boyfriend, but instead, to come back and file a fiance visa for him to come over.  WE were told that this would be much quicker than getting married.  Does anyone know for sure if this is true? Also, now that I've filed the petition to have him come with a K-1 (fiance) visa, does anyone know wat the chances are that he will be approved?? And also, about how long will it take  If anyone has any input they could give, we'd really appreciate it!!!