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The Seven Elements Of Charisma

Charisma (n): a personal attractiveness that enables you to influence others

Seduction has always been the most talked about art, and that is because it is more easily grasped. Learning the art of seduction is extrospective (looking outward), while charisma is introspective (looking inward). Once it is developed, it is a powerful tool that you can use to easily influence the people around you. Have you heard the story of the Pied Piper?,

He advanced to the council-table:
And, "Please your honours,'' said he, "I'm able,
"By means of a secret charm, to draw
"All creatures living beneath the sun,
"That creep or swim or fly or run,
"After me so as you never saw!
"And I chiefly use my charm
"On creatures that do people harm,
"The mole and toad and newt and viper;
"And people call me the Pied Piper.''

THE SEVEN ELEMENTS OF CHARISMA
IT'S THE SAME OLD SCENARIO: You and your friends want to hang out and go to a club, but you want a club where the women are attractive and have some class. There might be twenty or so nightclubs to choose from, but with standards like these you really only have four or five. And forget it - as much as your optimistic-adrenaline-testosterone self would like to believe, there is no such place as "Club Orgy." Bar hop all night, and you'll come closer to finding The Lost City of Atlantis before you'll find a club where the women that you've set your standards for are down for the one night action you've got on your mind.

Unless of course you've got some serious game. "Game" translates in all cultures to a similar state of mind: Charisma. But what exactly is Charisma? We'll tell you what it's not - It's not arrogance. And it's not pretentiousness. It's an aura that surrounds you, that attracts people to you. Great leaders in history understood this - Hitler entranced the small country of Germany into following him in a pursuit of World Domination. The greatest con artists used charisma to lull their victims into sometimes giving up fortunes and life savings. And actor's on screen portray it in their carefully written lines and parts, when in all reality they may lack true charisma off the set. Brad Pitt has charisma on the screen - and you can bet that he's not as charismatic off it. And remember Tom Cruise in Top Gun - every guy wanted to be like him for years after that movie came out.

Both of these actors are American icons, their on-screen personals developed over the years by numerous writers, directors, and people paid to teach "presence." You know, the same kind of people that instruct run-way models how to enter a room and command the attention of all just by the way they carry themselves.

Maybe an easy way to make the word charisma understandable is to define it as knowing when to speak, and what to say when you speak, knowing when not to speak, and knowing how to carry yourself throughout . This takes discipline, which is acquired with practice. Actors are expected to rehearse the same parts over and over again to get things just right for the camera. Writers re-write their pieces sometimes repeatedly before their scripts are finally approved to begin a film shoot.

As an example of what we mention above, look hard at the fine detail that Hollywood uses to craft the "on-screen presence" of a main or central character. A main or central character must command attention throughout the film to hold the audience's interest. The more attention they command, through elements of intrigue, mystery, and action, the greater their on-screen presence . Many elements go in to this "on-screen presence" - these are elements of charisma.

But this is real life, not Hollywood. In reality, and as charisma applies to the social scene and to the women involved in the social scene, it's all about diplomacy.

(Watch out for element 1)

I want to talk about the concept of "flirting", and why
it's SO important that you understand exactly what it is and
how to do it with women.
To begin with, women know what flirting is, and they
respond VERY differently to flirting communication than they
do to typical social communication.
If you understand flirting and sexual tension, you can
begin conversations with women and have them INSTANTLY
feeling ATTRACTION for you.

If you DON'T understand how flirting and sexual tension
work, then you're either going to have to become famous or
make a LOT of money to be successful with women.
I'm going to suggest that you learn how to flirt well,
then do it RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING in your interactions with
women to SET THE RIGHT TONE.
Think of flirting like playing.
Remember when you were a kid and you used to "play fight"
with your friends?
What's the difference between "play" wrestling and "real"
wrestling?
And how do you know the difference when it's happening,
when your friend runs up and pushes you down, then jumps on
you and tries to pin you?
The answer is YOU JUST KNOW. It's obvious to humans (and
other animals, by the way) when someone is "playing" and when
they're serious.

Flirting is similar.
If you start talking to a woman and say "Hi, you're very
pretty. You probably have a boyfriend, right?" in a normal
tone of voice, you're NOT flirting.
On the other hand, if you say "Hi, I realize that you're
probably shy because you get no attention from men, so I
thought I'd come over here and pay attention to you, " it's
OBVIOUS that you're not being serious. This is flirting.
By the way, flirting IS NOT simply telling jokes, or
trying to be "cute".
One of the concepts that I teach is called "Cocky & Funny."
Cocky & Funny is simply a powerful, concentrated way of
flirting and creating sexual tension with a specific kind of
humor.
It's so funny to me how some guys write in because they
"can't see themselves being Cocky & Funny around women"
because they don't want to come across as jerks.
This really cracks me up, because it's obvious to me
that these guys JUST DON'T GET IT.

(To be continued, )

No COmment.

I like that idea.

If it will help you avoiding cheating,

Keep it up

Good ridance to bad rubbish.