₦airaland Forum

femi4:
Vain activities seeking vain glory

. You do not have value neither can you recognize it

maaji:
I don't usually reply or make comments but let me tell you. Op you dint know what God has done for you. I wish I were like you. My confrontational attitude has taken me no were in life. I wish I could be like you. After I confront or fight someone am later filled with regrets. Please remain like that

. If I told my experience's with anger that man would go for Thanksgiving,I paid heavily just to learned anger management

iyke484real:
Good evening fellow Nairalanders.

Something happened today that has really made me question myself as a man, and I sincerely need honest advice from mature minds here.

Earlier today, my younger one went to the field to play football. After some time, he came back home crying seriously with blood rushing from his head. According to him, he had an altercation with someone much bigger than him, and the person picked up a stick and hit him on the head.

Immediately, I became angry and asked him to take me to the field to identify the person that injured him. Deep down, I was expecting myself to react aggressively because I felt any normal man would naturally defend his younger one and confront the person strongly.

When we got there and I saw the guy, something happened to me. Instead of fighting or causing a serious scene, I just started asking questions about what happened. I couldn’t bring myself to react violently or aggressively the way many people probably would have. I eventually carried my younger one and went back home.

Since then, I have been feeling ashamed and disappointed in myself.

The painful part is that this is not the first time I have noticed this about myself. I always seem to avoid problems, confrontations, or situations that may escalate. Even when I am angry, I still start thinking about consequences, expenses, police issues, public embarrassment, injuries, and other complications that may arise if things get out of hand.

Because of this, I often withdraw instead of standing my ground fully.

Now I am beginning to feel like I am too timid and not confrontational enough as a man should be. Sometimes I feel weak, powerless, and unable to command respect the way other men do. I see some people react boldly in difficult situations while I keep overthinking consequences and avoiding escalation.

Honestly, it is affecting the way I see myself.

Please, I need sincere advice from experienced people here:

- How can someone stop being too timid or fearful?
- How do you become more confident and confrontational when necessary?
- How do you stand your ground as a man without always retreating?
- Is this kind of behavior weakness, or is there another way to look at it?
- What practical things can I start doing to become mentally stronger and more assertive?

I would genuinely appreciate honest advice, especially from men who may have struggled with similar issues before overcoming them.

. You should be proud of yourself and being grateful what you have are what many go to counseling, therapist etc and pay to have, that's a value don't loose it

😁 yahoo+ government repentance no dey tinubu dictionaries

Lol who are they fooling?anything for reelection the man you wouldn't identify with openly

Caaz:
I m doing exceedlingly great,thank you

. can we talk over the phone

Caaz:
Hello paul

. how's your day going

😂 women don really suffer people talk about them as if they were mere objects

SporaD8:
Hello paul

. how're u doin

That was Nigerian s mistake the Baba should have continued since he left the office the 3 govts that precced him, first one were naive,the second were selfish,the third were wickeds

casualobserver:
What an uninformed comment. What is a minimum wage person doing with a passport? Where did he get the money to travel on minimum wage?

. You're sp daft other nations m/w were also used as a preference citizens shouldn't have a right to own a passport because they earned minimum wage

appleous:
An unrepentant religious scammer and pulpit bandit.

It's like God has calmed down, if it were like the God of the Old Testament,

Thunder or leprosy should have struck this man decades ago.

. In old testament they don't make donation's?

Obviously Daddy G O would never asked for donations for his personal needs,this might be for a project or other pressing church needs those criticism were ignorance unfortunate for them we don't care, reasons God his blessings us in my capacity i will gladly donate .

Igbos are great people don't need your validation,what happened to the northerners? Despite all the quota's shame on that woman

Dating Nigerian girl's should be added to the list 1000 ways to die

I'm beginning to have a second thought of the accuracy of the DNA test machines something don't seems right

Wouldn't blame the doctor's even the best we fail in Nigeria you can't have those questionable character as leaders and fare well

helinues:
As incompetent as your comments. You ignored the topic of discussion and be blaming government as you have added them as your next of kin

. They went through Nigeria failing educational system, incessant strikes many of them have lost the enthusiasm before leaving the school.the core issue is fundamentally negative leadership's approach

Comedians don't collect tithes

what? Tinubu has run out of lies 🤣 nothing more to say

I said it here the refinery was a scam one of Tinubu numerous propagandas agbado boiz wouldn't had it they came after me 😂.naija don enter one chance

Cherrybae:
Why sue them to court. Honestly I wonder who is advising this woman.

She is really killing her career. No single evidence for anything just allegations and allegations.

Na wa oooo

. it's called suspense she has to consider the options before deciding everything that woman said it's likely to be true if not by now Akpabio i know would have been threatening fire & brimstones, they would had her arrested by now.

chatinent:
If you folks want to prosecute him, you do so.

All these excuses are stale.

Democracy seems to be a government by the rich thieves, for the rich thieves, and of the rich thieves.

You picked him during Buhari and levelled charges against him for what he said against Buhari only...calling Buhari a clone and agitated for a country of theirs because they didn't believe in one Nigeria!

Now Buhari isn't in the picture, you now pick up new charges against Wike and Tinubu as excuses not to prosecute him.

Wait a second! Is Nigeria even livable! Has the FG allowed Nigeria breathe!

By the way...


Didn't Wike also put a ₦50m bounty on the IPOB before Nnamdi responded in kind?


Didn't Tinubu who was APC party chairman then support all these actions against the group?

Has El Rufia and Buhari been picked up for threatening to send South Easterners home in body bags?

So you mean because they are agitators they should be quiet when these people publicly announced they should be kīlled?

Talking about agitations, Tinubu committed the same "crime" as Nnamdi in 1997; he said he never "... believed in one Nigeria." That meant dividing it so each tribe can go its way.

Tinubu was never arrested for his secessionist comment. But here is the same hypocrite arresting someone else reiterating what he longed for!


Partisan politics..



Whether we are in democracy or dictatorship dressed in democracy.....

Prosecute!

They want to use the American propaganda tool in Nigeria which is "Give a dog a bad name (and hang him)."


Bad dogs trying to give another bad dog a bad name!

. All this epistle you wrote are meaningless the question is did he ordered his followers to killed them or not?he not only asked Tinubu &wike to be killed his list were long ,all Igbo govs who didn't support him were to be killed,igbokwe etc I don't like Tinubu & wike but Nnamdi is an idiot too daft to be a leader go and listen to his previous messages.

Glory to God

85, by then you will be too useless to notice feminine shit

Rest in peace Papa

MadamExcellency:
Will you shut your mouth? Dele Mammodu always support hookups. Why not tell Natasha to present evidence and see the case turn against Apkabio?

Now I see one of those people pushing Natasha to her destruction as some people pushed Hezbollah and Hamas to their doom.

. it's called suspense Akpabio knew it reasons his been cautious but his foolish followers wouldn't see that

TheBillyonaire:
What if it is called Child Labor, so that children will not know the value of their resources so the criminals from the west can come and mine using terrorism to chase them out?

I will say, every kid should be taught the value of their stones and allowed to mine if they have the strength in the evenings while studying in the mornings.

. Illiteracy & poverty in summary 4 days ago couples in west Virginia's were sent to over 100 years in prison the kid's involved were 16 & 14 here you applauded a 13 years robbed of life .

The parents are idiot in a working societies they will go to jail, exploiting that kid and boasting of it,