kestolove95:
She's ugly like the mum.

TheBillyonaire:
From the points you raised, you have a good heart and also have the resources to expand your wealth. Whenever ever you experience constriction, do the opposite - Expand!

I know you mentioned that he wants 3-Bedroom Flat and wants to move in as early as February. Do not allow yourself to be manipulated. ASk him to be patient because you have a better plan for him.

Do some research on your State Capital or your Husband's Capital and and convince your husband to help out too because this is an opportunity to own a little more real real estate. Buy cheap land at the sub-urban that could be useful for you or your kids in the future and build a 3-Bedroom bungalow which he will move him and when he translates, the house is yours.

Ignore the idea of rent if you can afford to build a simple 3-Bedroom and tell him you are building a house for him, the news will restore his pride and yours and shut the lips of the naysayers and also buy him sometime to enjoy the village.

As for his Electric Pole business, it is a good idea, but he can start with Block Making business after the house is complete, there is a chance he can get back on his feet with it.

Elzazzi:
I will try and make this brief and please ignore the errors.

I was with my close friend yesterday evening. While we were chilling together, a call came in on his phone. it was his cousin that called telling what had happened and also seeking his advice. Now this is what happened, this his cousin has been dating this lady for about a year I think and he has already proposed to her and even took her to his parents and siblings. He also visited the lady family and did some introduction. Now April this year has been chosen for the wedding ceremony proper and a date has been fixed. This is where trouble started.

My friend cousin created a WhatsApp group for his wedding ceremony, he added all his friends and some of his classmates to this group so they can join hands and make his wedding day memorable. He posted his wedding IV to the group and some pictures of him and the lady, one of his old time classmate recognized her and immediately called him for a private meeting for urgent discussions.


He visited him the next day and this guy told him everything about his fiancée. How she used to be a stripper in Lagos clubs years back and how he and his friends had wild 3some with her. She used to base in Lagos as a call girl but relocated to Abuja and that’s where she met my friend cousin. After all these revelation this guy was in deep pain as he had already gone far with the weeding preparations. Of course his old time classmate advised him not to marry her, but this guy loves her so much and he is in a big dilemma of what to do next. As he thinking of leaving the country and go start life with her elsewhere.

Can such past truly be overlooked?

After my friend explained everything to me, I was just short of words but of course I advised he shouldn’t marry her. What advice would you give him in such a situation my fellow Nlanders ?

Smile4mee01:
I'm a single 39yr old Nigeria guy in diaspora trying to settle down and going to Nigeria to marry is not an option.

I'm an introvert who has been through some childhood trauma in my family and really fear marriage because of what I have seen and how bad it can be sometimes.

However, an old female friend and colleague of mine who we worked together in Nigeria and now in canada recently contacted me and she is also single and not had children. She is doing well for herself and now a citizen there while I'm not. A part of me is concerned about

1. Fertility : I desire children. However, can she have me healthy children @ 39. How many can she have? I discussed us trying for a child , she appears to want a.marriage first. But what gurantees do I have to have children.


Should I be concerned? I dont want to enter one chance.



Please I use God beg you, no insults just advice. Abeg. God bless you.

Namaster:
Are you INSANE?

You want to marry a 40-year old Nigerian woman who'll have the upper hand in the marriage?

She's in a gynocentric society and has citizenship while you do NOT. She'll control and manipulate you however she wants and you'll just have to suck it up!

PLUS at 40-years old, this woman has had at least 3 home-made abortions. Her age plus abortions means her ability to carry a child to term is EXTREMELY low.

She knows this. That's why she has refused to try for a child when her biological clock is already DEAD and waiting to be buried.

Most women her age would be eager to get pregnant and have their own child. The fact that she's insisting on marriage FIRST is telling.

She wants a guarantee that she'll NOT die alone. That you'll NOT run away if she's bareen. That's why she's insisting on marriage.

She wants your companionship and doesn't care about what YOU want.

In short:

Go ahead with the marriage if you don't mind being controlled, manipulated and NEVER having children.

By the way when people talk about marrying for green card, they are NOT talking about Nigerian women.

Dannydrums889:
Hello Nairalanders

Happy Festive Season 🎊🎈🎉

As we all know that year (2023) is gradually coming to an end

So this year has been a great one to some people while some is "Let's just thank God" and some is the other direction
Gracious
So tell us in one word how the year 2023 is to you

MINE: Is splendid and fabulous

So tell us your own

WealthyNigerian:
He found this and was advised to post it on Facebook so that those that knows much about treasure stones and minerals would help him identify it. But unfortunately, non of the comments has ascertained what exact treasure or stone this is.

I know that there are many greatly knowledgeable People on Nairaland that would be able to tell us what this is and it's value. I'm sending this Thread's Link to him immediately now so that he would follow the discussion to know it's value for certain. And so that he would take the necessary security steps in guarding that his Landed Property for the massive natural Wealth which this may indicate is abundantly there.

I'm sure that we shall be able to get our assured confirmation here. So, great Nairalanders, what do you think this is and its value?

endsarrrs:


Don't call peoples food that word. If it's non of your business, just move the fvck far away from what doesn't concern you.Nairaland kids

squash47:
Some jobs sef.. see as person wife dey run with leg follow who dey roll with skating shoe......
They should be relieving women from doing such stressful kind of jobs. E no cool. She could be in the office.

Hotwest:
what is ur problem with people from the southeast. So Fulani won't kidnap him abi

Sirchiboy:
He is my friend and is on the verge of giving up on life.
Please advice him

jmoore:
Pastor Pastor.

At least, he is not pretending to be sick.

The charge against him is a foolish charge. I thought they said we was sponsoring terrorists in Afghanistan. Only for them to charge him with illegal gun possesion while they allow Asari Dokubo to hold gun and threaten Igbo people.

DSS is wasting Nigeria money in useless cases that obviously have no merit.

Softboy001:
I think I am not attracted to my girlfriend anymore, I really don't know what happened. Normally I have a very high lipido. High sex drive, before I meet my current girlfriend. I stay a long time without a girl. I normally do soapy. I actually prefer that than spending my money on any hook up babe. (I don't do olosho)

It's been a month now I started dating this girl. At first wen we had sex, it wasn't that cool, I wasn't feeling it at all, I was already used to my soapy. She didn't make me cum or feel anything no matter how hard or fast I Bleep. D sex was just there... it felt like Nothing, but later on sha it got better.

But currently am not having any interest in d sex anymore cause am not just feeling it. Last night was worse, she was practically begging me for it. And I couldn't believe that there will be a day, that I would reject sex, it was weird for me, I don't know what's causing it but am not interested in sex when it comes to her, I just don't know. D feeling is not there, and it's not like I have any other person.

And it's not like am not Hot, or I have any sexual problem but am not just interested in her sexually. I don't know what might be d cause, I have been giving excuses for like 2 weeks now to buy time, I can telling she is getting angry and frustrated with what's happening. Her words was " if I do this to you you, will you be happy" last night she begging me for it, I had to lie that am not well, and I have serious work at the office tomorrow early morning

I don't want to lose her cause currently she keeps me company but this is something I don't want to turn into something else.

I think another thing that might be causing it is d difference in our stature, lately I have been admiring slimmer girls, and I get Hot just looking at them. a better way I can make you guys get a picture of is

Am like wizkid stature, and she is like omotola in Nollywood. Or tems With big ass.

It's fustrating what's happening. Cos I love this girl and she love so much. But physically we not compatible

shortgun:
Another square peg in a round hole

What exactly is a police officer doing in the office of the national security adviser?
What is his combatant experience?
What is his war experience?


How will army Generals , Navy Rear- admirals and air force Air vice marshals honour a meeting summoned by a police officer?


Fingers crossed