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@lioness

Yes he has shown me in several ways and he tells me too.

He has mentioned the M word and he uses the "We" and "our" alot
But i usually dont think he is serious

Your weird alright

OHHH! Now i get you

twinkledew:
so who shld your spouse be?

are u saying 15 months too short .
So are u going to marry a non-christain?

Damollar:
She writes that she wants to marry him and have his kids and they've only been dating 15months.

Which When I was 17, I became a Christian and I feel quite strongly that it is God's will that I marry a Christian, but no Christian lady has ever asked me out. , U don't always get what u want

Aint u lucky,,,,, just 2 months. Well, i know he loves no doubt and i believe he wants me but i just dont get why he aint poppin it yet

Makeda:
@Ally1
Maybe he just does not want you for a wife, becasue if he did he would have proposed by now. Men know what they want, and they will make a move if they really want you. My husband asked me to marry him only 2 months after we met, and I married my husband after only 9 months of dating. Keep your options open honey.

Thanks alot girl. Am actually 30 and yes, the pressure is there. Especially since am an only child.
So i guess you understand. We do talk about marriage but its never been a direct discussion. Most times he brings it up. But he's never just asked.

But thanks for the advise. When you live in a society where everyone's expecting u to get hooked soon, not caring is never an option

Radiant:
Here we go again!!!
Did anyone even ask Ally her age una just deh open mouth anyhow she might be less than 25 and be desperate to get married due to peer pressure or she may be above 30. We don't really know. Getting married is not really the issue but staying married like someone said earlier. Did you say 15 months or years? my dear u have just began. I know a lady who dated a guy for 10 years and they didn't get married and guess what happened? she got pregnant on the 10th year and my dear the guy abandoned her. She's our family friend so it's not a hear say talk.10 solid years! I saw it live
15 months is enough though for a guy to propose but one thing you should know is that, until a guy is MADE, he ain't gon pop that question cause he knows the pressure to say "I do" will be the next on the agenda.
Proper and correct guys want to make it first. If he has never discussed marriage with you, then you should tell us the reason cause that's a common conversation among partners and friends. My cousin who's 33 years is just getting married this saturday.You shouldn't be worried about that cause girl, you don't want to jump out the next day. Be prayerful and patient honestly. Marriage no deh trip me at all. 80% of my friends are guys but i can't see myself settling with any of them. I see marriage as being in bondage. Neway, whatever the case, NEVER PROPOSE TO A GUY no matter what. He will use it against you one day and you don't want to know what will come afterwards people discover the kind of partner they have after years and run for their lives and you getting worried after 15 months, girl open you eyes o. God knows better

tnx lioness, tnx seun
am actually thinking of asking him if he wld marry me but i guessed it wld seem too desperate.
i cld ask him when he intends to get married though.

Ok, i have been with this guy for like 15 months now. We 've been going steady all this while. He says he's happy with me and I am also happy with him too. But the dude just aint popping the question and am worried.

Some other guys are already asking me to marrying them but i've asked them to wait. I really love this guy am with but I can't wait for him forever can I? What do I do because i don't want to put the marriage pressure on him and at the same time, I want to settle down?