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Ocholu:
Let me be real with you OP;

Why you too de talk talk??
1. Your girlfriend is your guest
2. You know that your girlfriend loves eating bread

And you went ahead to buy only bread of N200. Haba now! You for buy your girlfriend her own, then the family theirs.

You're coming off as a stingy man oh. Even though your girlfriend reaction may be off too, you should no a better way of tackling issues even before it happens.

I did not give her 200, she has her own money and I gave her 1k for the bread.

Bola146:
3 years and still planning to marry her in future wahala



when? 90% of wahala here are girlfriends and boyfriends! haba! We need to get a good marriage and counseling coach to enlighten we youths here how to do in courtship or weekly questions and answers

She is a student and I do not want to get married to a student, I want her to finish schooling without scandals before anything, e get why.

neoG:
This issue get as e be. Am not really supporting your girlfriend but I think your elder sister and you are over flogging this common bread issue.

There are better ways to pass the message that she would not have tried what she did again. She is you guys guest. Don't forget that.

It is better a lady is her real self and your family knows her for whom she is than having the one that is like heaven's perfection and when married into the family, she turns to a devil.

Don't throw away a 3 year old relationship because of bread that she ate. Just one word and silence from your part and your sis for don borrow am sense and that's all.

I forgot to mention that my elder sister begged me not to make a case out of it and it was nothing, as she was sure her husband will understand. she literary explained to her that they are spending a lot on her child's dedication coming up in a few days and she did not want to disturb her husband about buying bread when he is returning as she is trying to be considerate, but I feel she should be more understanding on issues like this, this is a house stocked with food, cooked and uncooked, even she told me that herself.

Hello Romancelanders,

This may be a bit lengthy, a apologize.

Please help me judge this case between my girlfriend and me, cos I don't see any wrong in what I did, but let me hear your opinions.

So I have been dating this lady for 3 years now, she is pretty and all, she sometimes has character issues but comes back to apologize later, I plan on marrying her in the nearest future, so in an attempt to get her familiar with my family, I decided we should go for the holidays in my state, and we agreed she was going to stay at my elder sisters place whom she knows as they have been communicating on phone for over a year already, so they are quite familiar with each other. We went and all was fine the first night, her husband welcomed us, gave my girlfriend a whole room to herself, we chatted a bit and I left to where I was to stay.

Now the problem started on the night of the second day, I went to see her and we even went out to the park where we had a good time, after we came back home, we were chatting with my sister and she was telling me of how she woke up and everywhere was cleaned and the plates were washed and all, and she even said she was going to miss my girlfriend when she leaves, I was seeing it as an approval, and as we were chatting, my sister offered us food, we both ate together and she asked us to get more if we wanted, but I was full already, so as we were speaking, my girlfriend said she wanted to eat bread, so I teased her a bit about her crazy love for bread, till the extent her mum told me not to give her bread, like, I can buy a whole N500 loaf of bread and not eat a quarter of it, but it will be finished before the day runs out, despite that, my sister was saying I should buy her the bread, she too wanted to eat from it as the remaining bread there was for her husband as he loves to take tea when he comes back from the office, already, my girlfriend ate a part of the bread earlier in the day, and the remaining was what she left for her husband, so I told my girlfriend all that my sister said and said we were going to buy another bread, my sister showed us where they sell, we went there but no one was there to attend to us even after we waited a little, we decided to go home and try later.

I decided to spend more time there knowing fully well that Marwa/Keke stops working by 6 pm, and getting a normal cab is usually difficult, so I used bolt to return home, on getting home, I decided to call my sister to let her know I have arrived safely, and wanted to speak to my girlfriend as her number was not going through, as we were talking, my sister just jokingly told me that I gave my girlfriend an assignment to buy bread this late, and I was like, why didn't she wait till the next day to buy it? must she get it that night? so that was when my sister told me that my girlfriend ate the same bread I told her was for my sister's husband and she wanted to replace it but still did not get bread as most bakeries are on break and the one close by was not responding. I got annoyed and asked to speak to my girlfriend, my elder sister begged me not to make a case out of it and it was nothing as she was sure her husband will understand. she literary explained to my gf that they are spending a lot on her child's dedication coming up in a few days and she did not want to disturb her husband about buying bread when he is returning as she is trying to be considerate, this is a house stocked with food, cooked and uncooked, even she told me that herself.

I asked my gf, not in a loud voice but making sure my displeasure is passed in my tone, why she ate a bread I told her was for the husband? she said she was sorry and gave my sister the phone and left to her room. I sent her a message on WhatsApp at first trying to make her understand that I was not in any way yelling but was not happy about the situation, but she was not replying to my WhatsApp message, I called her but she refused to pick, so I called my sister back and asked to speak to my gf, that was when she was calling her to come take the phone, but this girl refused to answer her, she called severally but she refused to answer, I felt embarrassed and ashamed of my self, I apologized to my sister and promised to come sort it out the next day, after that, I was angry and texted my girlfriend about how her attitude this night has been terrible and she wanted to spoil 3 years of her life because of a N200 loaf of bread, and if she wants to embarrass me, I will book a ticket for her to return the very next day, and replied me with 'Please do what pleases you.'

Fast forward to this morning, I called my sister to find out if they settled and she told me my girlfriend was still giving her attitude as at this morning, I don't know if what I did was wrong but I need you all to be blunt in your advice, I will be sending her this link to see peoples opinion of her behavior.

Thanks.

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