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HARDDON:
Only way to find out is to put out subtle probes. Use this to weigh the true contents of her characters...( dont forget to ask God for divine direction)
You should know that ladies' pretend a lot when they know that marriage is in the offing.
I do hope to God you didnt allow her to subtly cajole you into the marriage talks?

You better get to know her first.

Hmmm subtle probes like....I mean help your boy with some examples and instances to set traps.

Rubbiish:
So if not for the fact that her blood group is not compatible with that of her ex she wouldn't have considered dating u? & u asked if u are a weak guy? Weak is an understatement. U are just an option to her, of which she is still contemplating to date. If a better option comes up she is gonna dump u...
Honestly u are just forcing yourself on this girl...You sound too weak...
The problem with weak guys is even if u advise them, they will still go behind to act f00lish...

Grow some balls man....

Bros you harsh o; Anyway, thanks for the tip

HARDDON:
Ouch @ emphasized.

The heart has a way of belouding the minds of average guys gee.

@Amaterasu:

You would always remain a side guy even if you end up marrying her. You don't have the balls to man her nor the will power to own her. If he wants to f her anyday, she wud run into his arms without thinking even if you put a ring on it to TIE her down. Don't be surprise when she is even the one that contacts him for a royal rumble because of your weak GEJ ( don't get me wrong, I luv his thinking cap and good heart. If only he was able to match those with Balls!) kinda gentility.

Besides, the things with virgins when a crude guy (in bed or real life deV them) is that they live to always crave such treatment. They relish such.

Yours truly have had a lota exes telling him they tried to mould their new weak guys to be like him. Daz just the way eriz. And when they can't, they go calling him(yours truly) so he can ring their naughtiness up. Make them go wild in mad fun.

My advise?

This is the worst place to invest your heart, your ring and your life! In her mind, she is doing you a favour if she ever marries u! And nothing worse more than this. She wud become unruly, cheat at will and have very Lil regard for you!


As I wud always say, go to places you are celebrated instead of places you are tolerated.



Is a word enough for the wise now?

I appreciate your response the DON.
But why has she been all over me; threatened her 6years relationship back then visiting me weekly even with her cousin she lives with threatening to call her boy friend then if she visits me again; cooking with her money for me;
HAS NEVER ASKED ME FOR ONE NAIRA BEFORE ; having issues with her cousin( my colleague at the office) because of me, she initially told her behind me that I'm a very authoritative guy but got disappointed that she still tagged along with me ;. Character wise, this young lady is the best I have rolled with, OR IS SHE JUST PRETENDING IN MY FRONT? This is my challenge here. And this babe will collapse if I should tell her I don't want again o.

Anyway red alert noted.

Brothers I need your help in analysing this case

After a long behind the scene drama(applying all necessary drills here) for the love of my current fiancee she finally left her else for me.Though she was already tired of the military approach of her else, in fact she was fed up with the relationship in all yet the nut cracker that sealed the deal for me came after a blood test showed that the guy was genotype AS, incompatible with that of my girlfriend who has the same genotype unless they are ready to take care of sickle cell children. I tagged this guy Adolf Hitler for the way he used to treat her when they were together. 3months after this whole blood test drama this girl finally told the guy she has someone; but her reaction to his response has got me thinking.

The guy's first response was to asked her if I have kissed her. She reacted by sending him a voice note saying : she is disappointed by that question from him, saying she was the one really in love with him that the guy is only bothered about sex with her and didn't really love her.

For the sakes of the record, according to her, she lost her virginity to this nigga (as a parting gift I think for a man she thought would marry her)when he was about to leaving town

My questions are :

Do you guys think she has gotten over this Addolf Hitler guy?

Hope am not making a big mistake by looking at this girl as a wife to be .

Why does she still care at all about how this guy feels about her new relationship?

Two days after I met her, this guy blocked me from her facebook account after I just only told her through her inbox to accept my friend request that I have sent it; I didn't know someone else (This Addolf Hitler dude) had her password; She later begged me after we finally started dating to give her up to 4 months to end everything before she unblocks me (so it won't appear to the guy like she was double dating before everything happened). Was I too weak in agreeing to that terms? I want to ask her now to change that password immediately; Is this a right step or I should just forget about the it?

HINT: I have only kissed and romanced her, personally I don't want to sleep with her till marriage even if she begs me to; just personal principles nothing more.

HARDDON:
Candle lit Dinner on an helium balloon ?
Or go fishing on a boat cruise in d evening.

Go to a palm wine joint coupled with bush meat

Go swimming during the day n table for two @ night in a posh resort?

Or order pizza n cream ( home delivery) and play game on a consol ttru d day

Take her to a karaoke joint and surprise her with the rendetion of her fav song

Give her an address, tell her to go pick up some files for u( only to get there n they give her a dress or any other gift you had paid for earlier. Make sure u drop her line with them n tell them to dail d number to confirm b4 they release it)


N many more...

Whatever you chose,
Remember:

SENSE PILL 114: A lady that asks for nothing, deserves everything

Wow! Here comes an overwhelming flow from the fountain of solutions.There is a resonance here with two of the options. Thanks Harddon

I can never be too grateful for the day I met this thread on nairaland; it has transformed my balling with the gurls. My girl friend was telling me about a NICE guy who is even older than me talking to her in church, she said the guy is not matured and the likes, I couldn't believe it when I heard her saying she needs a man that can CONTROL her a bit because she knows she is stubborn bla bla bla...that's the first time I heard it straight from a woman. I have vowed to never follow the routine of regular average guys again. Since we met about 6months ago, I have taken her out just once but her birthday is next month, on a serious note I don't feel like taking her out on that day which I know she would be expecting. Please I need suggestions on other things apart from outing on a day like that. Thanks guys

realpoacher:
I will be very blunt with you. There is nothing you can do for her to dump the guy for you.

Reason:
She has "FELT" the guy's pain/sweetness over time coupled with him being her first love for so long that she has been caught in his spurned web. In a nutshell, she has crossed the Rubicon - a stage of no return.

Forget about what she tells you. Right now she is not in control of her emotions, the guy is actually(even though she doesn't know this or will not admit it, but her actions are obviously telling the true story).
As a matter of fact, she is actually using you to pass time and will always run along when daddy(her boyfriend) comes calling. Even if she breaks up with the guy, your paroles with her won't work. No matter what you do or don't do it won't work. In gamers word... The guy don press her MUMU button.


Only feasible solution:
From my experience, the only person who can save her from the guy is She herself by herself. Whenever she reaches her saturation point only then will she break free from his spell and begin to view the world through her own eyes. That is when she can be free. Even after that, she will need enough time to heal first before you can begin to date her.

*Remember that she has to reach that saturation point only on her own Accord. Devoid of your interference. In order words, do nothing to help her rather do everything to help yourself,like becoming very selfish in all things*

My advice:
Forget her for now and move ahead. But if she always comes around you or call you, relate very well with her but drop all these Mr Nice Guy attitudes and be very firm. If you have the opportunity fuucck her well and be emotionless about it. Whatever you do henceforth, do not prioritize her and go get other girls worth your attention. Careless about her paroles with the other guy, infact refuse to listen to his gist anymore.

I didn't say that you should be rude o! Or that you should start giving attitude like a sulking adult baby o!... I said maintain normal paroles with her, laugh, play and crack jokes but be firm with what you want, drop Mr nice guy attitudes, zero her from your mind that this can't work and go find someone else for yourself.

If in between things work out fine for the you two fast.. Fine! But if not... Fine too!... All that matters is that you won't babysitting an adult who doesn't know what is good for her.

My humble two cents

As your name implies you are a real poacher bro....these lines above are thought provoking; helping me to enter into my rest in this matter. Thanks a lot....I appreciate.

HARDDON:
It is either the guy pays her bills( most probable) had an attractive/scary spell ( gud in bed, axe man( she wsno change) etc) on her, he's her first luv, she's plain naive or he has most of d qualities she luvs in a man.

You have to find out exactly why she stayed put all this while. Very important if you are to make a head way n also for your safety.

Thanks a lot for this thoughts. The first question I ask her when I realised my facebook account has been blocked was if this guy has been spending money on her; she strongly said nothing like that, that her 250k is even with d guy as a result of "mmm (mavrodi)" business. My guess is: your second thought is her problem: THE GUY IS HER FIRST LUV......and I have observed this girl is a love bird that always crave for attention, she call me everyday....she doesnt care spending on you and calling you with her airtime even though she is still a student; she doesnt think like the average "red eyed" street girl. I think this Adolf Hitler guy is capitalizing on these loop holes /weakness.

My interaction with her shows that d guy has been scaring guys and male friends away from this pretty damsel. She even said maybe that's Y she has not met anybody like me since then; that she has lost friends because of this guy......And it irritating me when she mentions or compares me with this guy trying to hype my matured approach against his childish/forceful behavior (my brain would be like why re u still dying there madam)

What I'm contemplating now is whether to take forceful steps ahead in helping her by defining my stand and being a bit hard....or thread softly and let things gradually unfold.
As for my safety, I don't have an issue there "the guy nor reach", to me he is a small boy.

Amaterasu:
I met this new babe recently, and after her first visit to my house I discovered she is in an abusive relationship, the guy controls and dictates to her like Adolf Hitler and even hits her some times. Infact the guy recently blocked me from her face book page recently after I sent her an inbox message to accept my request because he has her password which I didn't know. The guy stays far away from this town. She wants to leave this guy for me but don't know how to go about it. The truth is apart from the fact that I want this babe, my desire is for this girl to leave this relationship even if I was not interested in her at all, the control of this guy is just too much. I want to ask her to unblock me now, she brought up the issue sometime ago but I just changed the topic but rethinking about it irritates me and I want lead her forward in this.

My gurus in the house is this a wise step ? OR I should just continue to "cain my line" independent of the guy and allow things to freely/effortlessly take shape with time. For the sake of the records this girl is a good wife material a bit shy and my type of girl , she can't stay a day without calling me ; I don't just know how she got hooked up with this Adolf Hitler.

cc HARDON et al .....ABEG HELP YOUR BOY HERE O

Kalatium:
Unfortunately, you just met a bad guy who has taken control over her emotions.

Personally, I see this guy as a weakling who doesn't really understand these drills, just applying energy/force on a woman; they have been together since school days for more than 4 years now, the girls is currently tired of him now always comparing his weaknesses with my strength. I believe her main prob now is that everybody in her house knows this guy after these years they ve been together; In fact she told me her sister was threatening to tell/call d guy d last time she was coming to my house. I feel zero pressure from this guy in terms of competition on a serious note. I 'm just respecting myself and need wisdom on a matured way to go about it, that's why I 'm asking for advice .

Thanks for your response anyway, I appreciate

I met this new babe recently, and after her first visit to my house I discovered she is in an abusive relationship, the guy controls and dictates to her like Adolf Hitler and even hits her some times. Infact the guy recently blocked me from her face book page recently after I sent her an inbox message to accept my request because he has her password which I didn't know. The guy stays far away from this town. She wants to leave this guy for me but don't know how to go about it. The truth is apart from the fact that I want this babe, my desire is for this girl to leave this relationship even if I was not interested in her at all, the control of this guy is just too much. I want to ask her to unblock me now, she brought up the issue sometime ago but I just changed the topic but rethinking about it irritates me and I want lead her forward in this.

My gurus in the house is this a wise step ? OR I should just continue to "cain my line" independent of the guy and allow things to freely/effortlessly take shape with time. For the sake of the records this girl is a good wife material a bit shy and my type of girl , she can't stay a day without calling me ; I don't just know how she got hooked up with this Adolf Hitler.

magikalz:
Note: She will get tired one day if you don't mix it up. These females hate routine. Find away to avoid that because if this pattern continues, one day she will wake up and change it for you. Remember there are several factors always at play when you have something with a girl and they enjoy the abundance mentality more naturally than we do. Even as you are playing tough man, plenty sissies (guys) are throwing themselves at her feet daily so play your game with wisdom. As an extra precaution, save your heart despite the pressure to commit emotionally.....you can still show care and attention etc without putting too much heart in it. If you decide to quit these drills totally and play this game the normal lovey-dovey way, you will be surprised it won't take long before the real her will manifest. Whatever you do, do not commit with your heart unless, you are ready to propose and marry.

Thanks for this bro

CASE STUDY/QUESTION

Is it possible to set these beautiful creatures on autorun with these drills. It is like this pretty damsel I am currently rolling with has entered auto run mode with these drills, this girl does not get tired of calling even when I intentionally refuse to call her. I like this girl but the way she is all over me is compelling me to reciprocate. I have caught myself several times unconsciously dropping my guards with respect to the continuous application of these drills to her. She makes me feel too much at ease. Guys, what do you think is the best way forward. She does not seriously complain when I don't call her but she hardly misses a day without calling

HARDDON:
Hahaha! It work huh? Sendless.

Your question is very unique and i have been expecting somebody, anybody to ask this.

There is this skill we used wen were very young. It is PUSH Small PULL Small. Just like d Rat Therapy i mentioned in a previous post
We use it everyday even on family n friends, it happens automatically we rarely note it.

Deal is: PUSH SMALL PULL SMALL
Push Small means 60% sendless
Pull Small mean 40% Send

She tells u she wano see u, u say hmmm, id think about it. Talk leta, ok bye.

Or say: so u can rape me? No , im not home


The deal is to not be available to her evertime nor oblige her evertime. Be dynamic. That a gurl placed her n1pples on ur lips does not mean u must suck. Reserve d ryt to or not to

This keeps d tension going.

But most guys wud just lose their senses to dier d1ck n completely be available to her unreserved , killing d attraction n fun n ultimately drivin her off.

I get you DON....The dance continues. Thanks

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HARDDON:
Hahaha! It work huh? Sendless.

Your question is very unique and i have been expecting somebody, anybody to ask this.

Abeg o , I am patiently waiting for your response, I have used this sendless drill for other damsels but the response of this particular damsel is overwhelming, giving me too much attention and it even sounds funny to me , saying I am stuck; I want her but don't want to spoil things with being mr too nice. Help ur boy o!

How we drop our numbers for the proposed whatpapp group

Guys how do you deal with a situation where after u apply d sendless technique she starts giving you too much attention. Right now I am in a dilemma, don't want to be too nice and I don't know whether I should continue d sendless approach

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HARDDON:
Most times, luv comes in this sexy lust pack! N d ribbon is quickly untied!
Hope u fathom that.

U did murder her with that wrong move.
And gone, she may have.
It was a rude shock.
She cud hv interpreted it like u have a gurl u dont wano cheat on. Or u r dead down below, or u dont know jack about how to ro ro a woman

She might come arround sometime later, right now, u got to stop callin

Noted.Thanks 4 d response

Nairaboi:
This one is a big shit i think might just get me carried away. Am attracted in a very special way to this woman(she is married) has a baby boy for the hubby, she is really into me, but i don't know if towing the line of a married woman is advisable? One fay i sent her a text "how are you doing sweetheart, don't know why you hate me this much, but just know that you are always on my mind. She now replied "Haba! anyone who said i hate you is a liar,wished she met me before she got married".
if i don't call her within two days, she will buzz my phone and say i have forgotten her. I have never really contemplated having "body contact" with her. What am i suppose to do to break her defenses, and how do i go about such a task(based on married young lady parole)

Cc.HARDDON
OKWYPASCAL
OBIOMON
NLJONA
LORDZERO
USTEC et al all the bosses. . .

Guy I de shame 4 you. Look at the way he is thinking of sleeping with a married woman with great excitement. How would you feel if you get married and someone is banging your wife from behind, guy control your rod abeg, this is irritating. HARDDON hope we are not rearing beast and he-goats here

All ladies are "relatively" dat able depending on your goal
At present I can't date:

1. a lady older than me
2. Desperate ones in a hurry to settle down
3. Too flashy (materialistic)
4. That sees herself as the responsibility of a man (full time house wife, no personal drive in life)
5. one I can't influence(most important to me, even if she has most of the things I want).
6. a lady that can't stimulate me and put me on my toes intellectually

Ustec:


BROTHERLY,are u for real!!?
ur punishment No b here o!

U FucKeDuP biGtiMe

Are u sure u UNDERSTAND the drills in here??

U are not ThINking on UR FEET bro..!

U own this GAME,it is urs, ANALYSE it and apply the drills u learn here...

But unfortunately,u went d OTHERWAY ,using d RIGHT PILLS at d WRONG TIME..

presently,ur balls are GONE..
they are probably being use for a ping-pong game,THINKING weda it should b SMASHED to d wall or not..

Am still a learner here Bro..
Only HARDDON could xplain d gravity and consequence of UR OFFENSE..
goodluck..

Noted, thanks for ur response.
But the issue is: right now I am not looking for a woman that will give me sex, my goal is to get a relationship with commitment started, I mistakenly thought I saw something like that in her at first (i.e a lady which such standard of discipline for herself)which is why I am a bit disappointed so just try and understand me bro, otherwise I know what to do.

Amaterasu:
I need help guys.This is my story
I met this girl who is a bit "churchy" like 4months ago.On a serious note she is not the kind of person I ever thought of make sexual moves on b4 marriage but I ve been applying some of the drills here on her, getting good results but something dramatic happened the last time she visited my house to say good bye as she is moving out of town

We were gisting on my bed resting a bit on me, to my greatest surprise this church girl started making subtle moves with her hands on me b/c I was not expecting this from her, I was a bit slow to decode her signals but to cut long story short... REGGAE turn BLUES.....this girl was moaning like she has been sex starved for years making moves that kept me speechless....On a serious note I didnt expect it from her. I decided to apply a drill I learnt here, I stopped hand twice as she moved it towards my "machine gun" then I finally stopped the romance, withdrew, went to the bathroom to wash my mouth and face, I came back sat on the bed and started operating my phone.Guys, she was so ashamed (maybe I shouldnt ve done it) she could not raise her face up, she laid down for some time got up, picked her bag and was going out without saying one word to me.I met her outside trying to talk to her but she said why am I saying sorry that she just wants to go home.

I sent her this test afterwards: I was not jst ready for it, I didnt mean to hurt you.

When I gave her a call some minutes later, she told me she cant say anything now that she just wants to recover herself and I said I would call later.This all happened yesterday, I gave her 3 missed calls this morning to see if she has travelled, no response, infact she busy the last call. GUYS I need advice, hope I didnt over stretch the drill.

CC: HARDDON and my guys here

SIR HARDDON OOO......Abeg no leave ur guy at d middle of the sea.Your comment is badly needed here

I need help guys.This is my story
I met this girl who is a bit "churchy" like 4months ago.On a serious note she is not the kind of person I ever thought of make sexual moves on b4 marriage but I ve been applying some of the drills here on her, getting good results but something dramatic happened the last time she visited my house to say good bye as she is moving out of town

We were gisting on my bed resting a bit on me, to my greatest surprise this church girl started making subtle moves with her hands on me b/c I was not expecting this from her, I was a bit slow to decode her signals but to cut long story short... REGGAE turn BLUES.....this girl was moaning like she has been sex starved for years making moves that kept me speechless....On a serious note I didnt expect it from her. I decided to apply a drill I learnt here, I stopped hand twice as she moved it towards my "machine gun" then I finally stopped the romance, withdrew, went to the bathroom to wash my mouth and face, I came back sat on the bed and started operating my phone.Guys, she was so ashamed (maybe I shouldnt ve done it) she could not raise her face up, she laid down for some time got up, picked her bag and was going out without saying one word to me.I met her outside trying to talk to her but she said why am I saying sorry that she just wants to go home.

I sent her this test afterwards: I was not jst ready for it, I didnt mean to hurt you.

When I gave her a call some minutes later, she told me she cant say anything now that she just wants to recover herself and I said I would call later.This all happened yesterday, I gave her 3 missed calls this morning to see if she has travelled, no response, infact she busy the last call. GUYS I need advice, hope I didnt over stretch the drill.

CC: HARDDON and my guys here