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please what exactly are we showing the porters to be granted temporary accommodation?
is it acceptance letter? acceptance fee slip(the one without our passport,)or online payment slip? (the one downloaded from kofa with our passport)

Draei:
Well since they wanna change back to the Auditorium method, there should be clearance dates. It could still be updated before Sunday evening.

Ahh what's this one again? this people should do things on time o.. cuz I can't come on the 4th and be told that my date is on the 12th. I can't come and be stranded honestly.

Abi shey they'll allow all freshers in from 4th whether it's ur date or not?

Draei:
As at now, Uniben is yet to change or say anything about changing resumption date, so here is the thing, if by Sunday night you still don't get any info about a shift in resumption date, start coming on the 4th cuz by on the 9th, I'm sure there won't be vacancy for temporary accommodation again.

okay, thank you very much. noted.

Biko eh, I want to know, Draei please how certain are u that the election of 9th March isn't going to affect freshers' resumption?

I was just thinking of staying at home till after March 9th elections but I don't know if that'll count as late resumption and affect me afterwards.(In terms of accomdation and early clearance)

please what do you think think? should I resume on the forth Asin uniben calendar or wait till after March 9th election?

PS: my gr8est concern is the fact that I wouldn't have anywhere to stay if I come march 4th and the clearance is eventually shifted till after the election.(I'm wholly relying on uniben's temporary accommodation)

and I'm well aware that edo state isn't involved in gubernatorial elections.

please... advice me, what do u think I should do?

would the temporal accommodation be given as soon as one steps foot in uniben? I'm asking because I'ld be coming with load and I've no where else to go

please link to any active whatsapp group?? or should I drop mh number?? any general freshers group or department/faculty-based group.. I'm in life sciences BTW..

Draei

please when coming for physical clearance, I originally planned to bring all d things I'll need for the semester.. including a bag load of foodstuffs and other things.

Now someone called me and adviced me against that, saying freshers would be moved from hostel to hostel and it's not wise to come with so many load now. that I should travel as light as possible.

my question now is, should I take this advice or is there going to be a way I can cope even if I come with as many goods as I want?

Secondly please how long does physical clearance take? ie, the minimum and maximum weeks.

thirdly I heard physical clearance is beginning on the 20th.. would 27th be too late for me to come?
thanks ..

CuntMiner:
cclear that fuckkkiinngggg number one point and don't let me ever see it here again, it points like that that I usually see which made me support my girlfriend to go write exam in another state with her other family, to give her space and be successful too, only for her and her cousin started romancing and smooching hing each other even though it didn't lead to sex, do u know how devastated I was to such shiittt, it happened seven months ago, and I still don't get myself till date

Chai Eya this one is strong..
what u went through is bad, agreed but that doesn't mean a guy should be a monitoring spirit monitoring his girl's every move because he doesn't want her to cheat.

I think no matter how we love someone, we should learn to give them a little space, it doesn't mean u should stop caring or paying attention to what she does.. but stuff like "where are you, what are you, why are you, who are you, lol" is totally uncalled for.

give a Niggress a breathing space mehnnn

Simplep:
Is that one a relationship?

my sister I kuku tire o

Goddys:
Your belief is your choice. That's the least of my trait. What I hate is being told what to do. It's enough to end a relationship for me cuz I like being very free like a bird. More reason I avoid relationship cuz it's suffocating. I like a situation where the girl demands less attention and stay on her own, sometimes we chat, gist or make love. She may even be a Hindu while I'm a Christian, I don't care.

demand less attention how?

please someone should state the documents needed for physical clearance once more..

and I'll like to join the whatsapp group available for uniben freshers.. anyone with the link please??

CosmicJames:
You think I swear for you? Far from it! I didn't swear for you. I mean why should I? I'm only telling you realities based on the knowledge of how the universe works. Because your today and future happiness is what matters the most

This your reply revealed the main reason why you want to break up with him -- your relationship is not well defined and you are not comfortable with it. The previous reasons you gave are not the major course of your worries.

You don't need to fear karma and stay in a relationship that you think is going nowhere.
Instead, you should handle karma in such a way that you will be fine even if you break up with him or someone else.

Since you love him that much, I will assume that you are very happy and comfortable staying with him.

Now here's what you should do to be on the safe side. Stop wishing for a break up with him. (Your wish have a way of coming to pass)
Instead, Peacefully and lovingly table the matter of the destination of your relationship to him. Let him declare his real intention for the relationship.

I'm not telling you to try to force him to say anything o.
But be sure he's 100% honest with you.
You should also be 100% honest with him as well.

Now base on your agreement, you will be free to take your action without the fear of karma.

Karma have been found to always follow dishonest people, and those who deliberately hurt others without valid reasons

In summary, always do good to others. Apply the Golden Rule (do unto others as you wish them do unto you) and you will always be fine.

I wish you the best

hmm.. wise words. thank you, I'll definitely try all this.

MobiusDickius:
Sometimes. But I try to ward off such thoughts. Quarrels happen, but it is better to go through them and continue communication eventually.

better pikin.. I feel you jare.

[quote author=Chifreda post=75537473][/quote]Eyaaa sooo sad.. I'm so sorry dear. Don't worry time heals all wounds. At least u had the courage to do what you have to.

[quote author=reservd post=75535844][/quote]lol maybe. thank you

reservd:
So y do u wanna leave such a person? And fr d relationship goin no where, was dt insinuation frm both of u or jst u

for me if a relationship isn't gonna end up in marriage I don't see the point. even if we're gonna get married, I don't see it happening anytime soon.

staying in a prolonged relationship without marriage in view is hard. controlling the physical aspect of the relationship is harder. So Laslas, I think I just have to make a sacrifice and let go.. instead of causing emotional scar later

and as for the insinuation on the relationship going nowhere, I don't know about him.. he says stuff like "I'm with you for as long as you're willing to stay" or "as long as you're willing to have me". I no even know wetin e dey mean by that yarn.

reservd:
It's only fair u let him go n stop wasting his time if uv resolved dt u nt feeling him

yeah I know. it's just hard to let go

CosmicJames:
I've taken some time to read through your entire thread.
I see that you are very lucky to have your type of guy. But unfortunately, you have some very little love for him. Consciously, you think you have some great love for him. But unconsciously, your love for him is very weak!
This is the very reason why you always want to leave him. Those reasons you gave are innocent.
(You can work on those reasons and get better if they were the real reasons)

"Until you love your partner consciously and unconsciously enough, you will always find a reason to leave him/her"

Now let me tell you the approach to leaving someone who loves you and doesn't hurt you as well. But while following this approach, remember that karma will follow you in return.
Yes, you will surely get into bad relationship that will stress the hell out you later.

This is not a threat for you not to leave your current relationship. No. It's just a reality of what will later happen to you.
You can save this post somewhere if you don't believe what I'm telling you now.

Here's the approach to finally leave him.
Open your heart and start giving real attention to other guys that are showing interest in you. Hook up with one or two of them. At this stage, your attention will be decided so you can stop calling him and start ignoring his calls.
You can now delete his contacts and pics from your phone if you have any. I can assure you that it won't be long and you will stop seeing him and the relationship will die a natural death without a single qurell

Remember that you are on a mission to break an innocent loving heart that loves and care for you, and you must do anything to accomplish your mission because you are fully determine to leaving him

ahn ahn.. why are u just swearing for me upandan na??
You're not right tho but let me ask you.. is fear of karma enough reason for one to remain in a relationship they're sure isn't going anywhere?

I think the only place you're right is in your stating I can work on the reasons I give for wanting a break up.

aside that, believe me when I say I love him, consciously, unconsciously, subconsciously, and otherwise.

princfred:
You see Op, this your reply is exactly what you need as reply. Somehow i've led you to make the reply for yourself by yourself.

Hahahahah.. Naaahhh I don't agree with you. my case is totally different from yours.
you obviously don't love your girl anymore, while I still love my man.

you want to break up because you want someone new, that reason is obviously very far from mine.

Mcslize:
Too much love is wrong on the part of a man. Now, flash back: have you not at any time take a guy for granted just for the fact that the guy is stocking you every second, minute and hour? Have you not at any time start going for the guy that doesn't give you attention but side line the one that is confessing his love to you every minute? That's the logic.

When a guy stock a girl with so much attention, she will start misbehaving. She will get fed up and will start preferring that guy that doesn't give her attention. The best way to show a girl love is not by proclaiming it to her face. She might lose interest in that process. Humans love what they can't get easily. And that same logic works with ladies. It's not about how many years they've been dating. It is just the way ladies are wired. You don't show them too much love by constantly proclaiming it to their faces. Texting her I love you text messages and doing all kinds of things thinking those stuff will make her love you in return.

Such a guy only end up being cheated on in the end. When a guy is thinking he has the best girl in the world, she may be fantasising about another nigga that doesn't even have her time. That's the law of scarcity. When there is scarcity, demand will rise. And when there is much availability, demand will fall. Same applies to humans.

This is the same thing most guys make use of to get other girls with ease even if they are in serious relationship. A guy doesn't need to proclaim love up and down to a girl to prove his love for her. It will only make her get fed up with him and it will look boring to her. He needs to speak less rather than being all overwhelmed and intoxicated with love. Such kind of guys are easily being chested on they won't know.

you're right in some ways but I still insist you're entirely off point from what the guy meant when he said he loves her and want to settle down with her. for him to stay for nine years don't you think they both understand each other enough to play silly mind games??

As for this particular guy, the right thing for him to do is to be straight up with the girl and marry her. finish! no mind games whatsoever jare

Delaw00:
You should know all those yeye word girls say when they are in love,things like i can't do without you,father of my unborn children,if you leave me i will die and so on,those word got me lockdown and i thought we good.i had access to her fb acct so i was just going through some of her messages days ago to get the shock of my life damn...make i nor finish the rest,nvr trust a woman in my life again.

Eya I get.. but seriously though, she might mean her words..
you know all this harmless flirting we all do on social media? sometimes it might not mean anything.
I've never believed social media flirting and romance is enough reason to accuse one of infidelity.

reservd:
Abeg stay with this guy, I dnt really know Wat else u want frm him or Mayb u shld seek professional counselling ,d issue is u I think

it isn't about what I want from him. it's about how I feel

princfred:
I know she is a good person but i had/have some uncompleted fishing/unfinished business with some fishes i think can offer more. Now she is a major consumer of physcoflirting energy to combine her and others .

I like your style though. I think it's better to break up a relationship instead of cheating. And letting go of someone who hasn't done any wrong thing to you must hurt that person, no matter the break up skill you use.

but like I said, it's better to break up with her and go afishing.. since your eyes are clearly outside.. than to stay in the relationship and cheat.

DanDeeBoss:
Why do you want to break up with him??

no valid enough reason.. I just need to use the energy I put in our relationship and channel it to other areas of my life.
He consumes my every thought.. he's a distraction big-time, when we get separated by distance i die mini deaths. I don't see the rship ending in marriage.

princfred:
Every 1hour 33minutes so i can be free to go fishing but then i rwmember 1 or 2 things she did or she will show another flash or brilliance and humble my rabid head.
This girl dont want to give me any plausible reason to break up and am too conscionable to break up with a girl without a good reason. I know the reasons i come up with are just plain stupid. If i quarel with her with some lame sh*t she wont quarel back. Just feeling stuck.

what exactly is your problem? from what you typed she's a good person.. or you just don't love her anymore??

Delaw00:
Yeah m really pained,but wetin man go do.....all i need is a soft way to call it a quit

what has she done wrong or is doing wrong? �

IamPlato:
you are just confused

I gree

clive2u:
i did so much, i still do btt wetin man go do

sorry eh, don't worry. There are many fishes in a river

Awwwwwwwnnnnn.. I love her already. please don't go fishing yet ehh

princfred:
Every 1hour 33minutes so i can be free to go fishing but then i rwmember 1 or 2 things she did or she will show another flash or brilliance and humble my rabid head.

Mcslize:
Take it easy bro. Loving a girl too much is not good. It might make the girl take advantage of you. That's what we call mumu love. It also make you look weak to her cuz she can command you around and talk to you any how she wants.

Even if you love a girl and you really want to keep her, then reduce the love. You need to be unpredictable. But right now you are predictable. And don't be surprised when you tell her you love her and she smiles sheepishly at you or says nothing in return.

I don't like it when a guy always use that word I love her like die. You wounldn't want to know what's going on in her mind when you use that expression on a girl.

Just take it easy.

Wakanda advice is dis sef? Ayam not understanding.
person dey date girl for nine years and you're still telling him to take it easy? take what exactly easy?

he should be unpredictable? like seriously?? so he should just keep his lover for 9years guessing his next move? 9years no be 9days o. When did he ever mention the girl was commanding him?

you can love someone absolutely and still be the "man" in the relationship. It has nothing to do with loving her too much. After loving someone for nine years without marriage and you're here telling him to reduce the love. What an advise. I weep

generationz:
why exactly do you want to break up with this nice guy? is he boring or to timid ?
or is it his Intellect or ' za oza room' ?

my dear none of the above o. I earlier stated my reasons

Delaw00:
The fact is relationship nah nonsense i blame myself going into it!!!

Nawa o.. u sound pained.. bros hwfa na? how's she doing you?